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Adoption Birthmother

IN INDIANA, CAN I STILL GET AN ABORTION?

Indiana’s law about abortion, Indiana Code § 16-34, provides a near total ban on abortions except in very limited circumstances and time frames. While some states may allow a woman to have an abortion up to a certain number of weeks into the pregnancy for any reason or just because she wants to abort the fetus, Indiana does not. Therefore, if you do not fit into one of the exceptions found in Indiana Code § 16-34, you will need to look into other options for your baby. For some women who find themselves with an untimely pregnancy, unexpected pregnancy, unplanned pregnancy, or unwanted pregnancy is adoption is an alternative to parenting the child.

If you would like more information about giving your baby up for adoption and available living expenses during and after your pregnancy, you should contact us. We, at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called — Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant) pride ourselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. 

Not only do the four adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh have over 100 years of combined legal experience arranging adoptions, Kirsh & Kirsh has been in existence since 1981. As attorneys, we at Kirsh & Kirsh have very high standards for the prospective adoptive parents we choose to represent. All of our waiting families are carefully screened and thoroughly investigated. We will arrange for you to have contact with the family you choose on your terms, without families trying to reach you at all hours of the day or night. 

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Franklin or Indianapolis, Mooresville or Bloomington, Madison or Newburgh, LaPorte or South Bend, Warsaw or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, Michigan, or Illinois.

There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of family options from which you can choose, all of whom are wonderful, carefully screened, loving families FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices about which family adopts your baby and the extent of contact you want after the child’s birth.

You can call, text, or email us anytime – call/text 800-333-5736, contact us, or send a Facebook message. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms who come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption.”  If we do not include those words in our blog posts and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby,” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.

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WHAT CONSTITUTES RAPE OR INCEST FOR THE PURPOSE OF INDIANA’S NEW ABORTION LAW?

Indiana Code § 16-34-2-1 permits a woman to abort a baby during the first 10 weeks of her pregnancy if she got pregnant as a result of rape or incest. While Indiana’s new abortion law does not require a conviction or even a reporting of the rape or incest by the pregnant woman, Indiana Code § 16-18-2-306.7 expands the definition of “rape or incest” to include a child conceived as a result of child molesting (IC § 35-42-4-3), child seduction (IC § 35-42-4-7), and sexual misconduct with a minor (IC § 35-42-4-9).

However, other provisions of Indiana Law such as IC §§ 31-32-11-1 and 31-33-5-1 may impose on the doctor the obligation to report to the department of child services or local law enforcement agency suspected child abuse or neglect. Incest, child molestation, child seduction, and sexual misconduct with a minor may fall into the category of reportable offenses. 

Additionally, IC § 16-34-2-1 (a)(2)(D) requires the doctor to certify in writing to the surgical center or hospital all facts and reasons supporting the physician’s certification, which presumably includes facts about the rape or incest. 

Finally, a doctor who performs an abortion without complying with IC § 16-34-2-1 commits a criminal act, which could subject the doctor to criminal and civil penalties and forfeiture of their license to practice medicine. The reporting requirements imposed on the physician under § 16-34-2-5 seem designed to substantiate how abortion fits within the exceptions of the total abortion ban imposed by Indiana law. 

A woman facing an unplanned pregnancy, unwanted pregnancy, or untimely pregnancy has alternatives to parenting the baby, which include giving the baby up for adoption or more correctly, making an adoption plan for the baby. 

If you would like to explore adoption, we, at Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C.  — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant, pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. 

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide you the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Kokomo or Indianapolis, Martinsville or Bloomington, Evansville or Jasper, South Bend or Hammond, Auburn or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, or Michigan.

There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of family options from which you can choose, all of whom are wonderful, carefully screened, loving families FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices which family adopts your baby & extent of contacts you want after the child’s birth.

You can call, text and or email us anytime -call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, contact us, or Facebook message. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption.”  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby,” then our website will not show up in most expectant moms’ search results on Google.

Adoption Process Birthmother

WHAT IF I AM NOT READY TO RAISE A BABY, MY FAMILY AND FRIENDS CANNOT HELP, AND I CANNOT GET AN ABORTION

With the Supreme Court overturning Roe vs. Wade, some states, like Tennessee and Mississippi, may significantly reduce, if not eliminate, access to abortion as a way of family planning. In those states, a woman facing an untimely pregnancy or unplanned pregnancy, who does not have the support of friends and family and knows that she cannot commit to the lifetime responsibility of parenting a child may find putting the baby up for adoption or, more correctly, making an adoption plan for her unborn baby provides a good, if not better, alternative to aborting the baby. “Better” in the sense that few people can say that they CHANGED THE LIVES OF ANOTHER PERSON in any significant way. Giving a family a baby that cannot get pregnant is the most amazing gift one person can give another. It is as close to “God-Like” as any other human endeavor. As any woman who has given up a baby for adoption will tell you, the gifts to the child, the adoptive parents, and herself (knowing that her baby is okay and loved) by no means makes the decision easy. IT IS NOT EASY! But neither is parenting or aborting a baby easy.

If you would like to look into adoption, we, at Kirsh & Kirsh — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant, pride ourselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment.

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide you with the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. The Kirsh Boys have 90 YEARS OF COMBINED EXPERIENCE practicing adoption law. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Greenfield or Indianapolis, Nashville or Columbus, Evansville or Princeton, South Bend or Peru, Portland or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, or Michigan.

There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of family options from which you can choose, all of whom are wonderful, carefully screened, loving families, FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices regarding which family adopts your baby & extent of contact you want after the child’s birth.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime -call/text: 800-333-5736, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or Facebook message: https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant moms’ search results on Google.

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HOW WILL THE REVERSAL OF ROE V. WADE IMPACT ADOPTION?

In general, adoption professionals avoid expressing an opinion about abortion or Roe v. Wade because banning or limiting abortion seems self-serving in that it would obviously make more babies available for adoption. In this Blog, we at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”) are not advocating for the overturning of Roe v. Wade by the United States Supreme Court but simply stating statistical facts. The Center for Disease Control (CDC) reported that approximately 625,000 women have abortions each year. According to the National Council for Adoption Factbook, there were just over 18,000 unrelated, domestic adoptions of newborns a year.  If 10% of those women who had abortions gave their babies up for adoption, or more correctly, made adoption plans for their babies, the number of unrelated domestic adoptions would have INCREASED by 62,500 per year – 350%.

If the United States Supreme Court determines that the United States Constitution does not include the right to have an abortion, some states will impose substantial restrictions or limitations on the availability of abortion. In those states, the number of babies available for adoption will increase. However, it is NOT the obligation of pregnant women considering abortion to put up their babies for adoption. A woman facing an unplanned or untimely pregnancy undoubtedly faces the most difficult, gut-wrenching decision one could imagine. Ultimately, she will have to determine what is in her best interests. A woman, who believes that life begins at conception, will also take into consideration the best interests of her unborn child.

If you face an unplanned or untimely pregnancy and would like to explore adoption, we, at Kirsh & Kirsh — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant, pride ourselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment.

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide you with the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. The Kirsh Boys have 90 YEARS OF COMBINED EXPERIENCE practicing adoption law. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Lebanon or Indianapolis, Bloomington or North Vernon, Evansville or New Albany, South Bend or Gary, Auburn or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, or Michigan.

There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of family options from which you can choose, all of whom are wonderful, carefully screened, loving families, FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices regarding which family adopts your baby & extent of contact you want after the child’s birth.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime -call/text: 800-333-5736, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or Facebook message: https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant moms’ search results on Google.

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I AM THINKING ABOUT PUTTING MY BABY UP FOR ADOPTION. I DON’T WANT TO USE AN ADOPTION AGENCY, BUT I AM AFRAID TO TALK TO AN ATTORNEY. ANY ADVICE?

We understand that the idea of talking to a lawyer can be intimidating, especially if they are perceived as mean, argumentative, and aggressive. The good news is that the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”), are nothing like that.  They and their full-time, professional, caring staff are kind and understanding, and always treat birth mothers and expectant mothers with compassion and respect.

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide you with the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. The Kirsh Boys, Steve, his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his Grant, are sometimes called, have 90 YEARS OF COMBINED EXPERIENCE practicing adoption law. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Plainfield or Indianapolis, Bedford or Columbus, Evansville or New Albany, South Bend or Gary, Kokomo or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, or Michigan.

There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of family options from which you can choose, all of whom are wonderful, carefully screened, loving families, FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices regarding which family adopts your baby & extent of contact you want after the child’s birth.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime -call/text: 800-333-5736, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or Facebook message: https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant moms’ search results on Google.

Birthmother

ADOPTION AND ABORTION – THE SIMILARIITES AND DIFFERENCES?

They are the same in some ways but VERY different in what is, perhaps, the most important way.

The similarities include:

  1. Both are very personal decisions.
  2. Both are readily available and legal, in most places.
  3. The birth parents do not have the responsibility for raising the child.
  4. Neither changes the fact that the expectant mother conceived a child and is pregnant.
  5. Both are unforgettable experiences.
  6. They cannot be “undone.”
  7. No matter what decision you make — some will agree with you and some will criticize you.

The differences include:

  1. In an adoption, the birth mother carries the baby for nine months and then leaves the hospital without the baby, while an abortion immediately terminates the pregnancy.
  2. Few people understand how a woman can “give away her baby” through adoption, yet at the same time, nearly ½ of the people living in the United States STRONGLY believe that abortion is “okay.”
  3. Abortion does not give the child an opportunity to live life nor fulfill his or her or his destiny.
  4. Adoption demonstrates a birth mother’s (parent’s) sacrificial love for her/their child by putting the child’s life ahead of her/their own desires, needs, and wants.
  5. In adoption, the child lives.

The “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C., are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant – pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. They cannot make adoption an easy choice, but they can make it less scary by removing some of the unknowns. Ultimately, a birth parent will have to decide if adoption is in their own best interests and the best interests of their child. We, at Kirsh & Kirsh, will not and cannot make that decision for anyone, but we can provide information and answers to questions.

Our contact information is below.  We will answer your questions and provide you the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. The Kirsh Boys have 90 YEARS OF COMBINED EXPERIENCE practicing adoption law. We can help you find an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Brownsburg or Indianapolis, West Lafayette or Bloomington, Evansville or Washington, or Goshen or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, or Kentucky.

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families, FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the full extent allowed by law.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime —call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or Facebook message:  https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.

Birthmother

I Can’t Be Pregnant, Again! What should I do?

Over the 35+ years we have been handling adoptions, we at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”) have worked with quite a few birth mothers who gave their babies up for adoption or, more correctly, made an adoption plan for their newborns, and later returned to us with another unplanned pregnancy – in fact, two this past weekend!  A previous birth mother said that she felt embarrassed to call us the second time because she felt like “scum” (her words) for winding up unexpectedly pregnant again. We assured her that her situation happens more than she thought – and it does.

Firstly, WE THANKED THE BIRTH MOM FOR CONTACTING US, AGAIN. We told her that even though she did not intend to get pregnant, her pregnancy is certainly not a “mistake”, and that if she proceeded with an adoption plan for her baby, her child will receive a loving, forever family, who wants desperately to have a child.

Most often, when this happens, we ask the birth mother if she would like to have the family, who adopted the previous baby, adopt the soon-to-be-born baby. Almost always she says, “YES,” and the family is thrilled to have the opportunity. As part of our adoption program, we have the adoptive parents provide letters and photos to the birth mother of their child, keeping the birth parent updated on how the child is doing, if the birth parent would like them. We have found a direct correlation between adoptive parents who diligently and timely provide those updates and a “repeat” birth mom’s decision to have the same family adopt.

A month ago, we forwarded to a now thirty-something year-old adoptee a letter his birth mother recently wrote. In his birth mother’s words:

“Over the years you were growing up, I asked on a number of occasions for updates about you. Your parents were kind and generous enough to respond. For that, they have my eternal gratitude. They wrote detailed and thoughtful letters responding to my many questions, describing who you were as a person, experiences you were having, how much they loved you.”

She placed only one child, but we expect that if she had a second untimely or unplanned pregnancy, she would have wanted the original family to adopt.

Very few women with whom we have met over the years got pregnant on purpose; however, the children born as a result of those pregnancies and then adopted have been an absolute blessing to the families who received them. We know this because every year, we receive hundreds of cards and letters from these families telling me how very much these children are loved and adored.

Birth mothers have always been, and will continue to be, heroes in our eyes. They place the needs of their children over their own, and at the same time make the dreams of families who long to be parents come true. It makes no difference whether it is a woman’s first or fifth pregnancy– the utterly selfless act of placing a child for adoption remains the same.

At Kirsh & Kirsh, we will always treat you will kindness and respect. We will never pressure you or make you feel badly about whatever decision you make.

You can call, text and or email us anytime. To contact us—call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or Facebook message:  https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.