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WILL I GET TO SEE MY BABY AS IT GROWS IF I PUT MY BABY UP FOR ADOPTION?

If you want to visit your child after you put my baby up for adoption or, more correctly, make an adoption plan for your baby, ask yourself this question: Do I want to see the child because I want to be a part of the child’s life or do I just want to see for myself that my child is okay?

If to remain a part of the child’s life, you should reconsider whether adoption is in the best interests of your child and your own best interests. If you proceed with an adoption, it is highly unlikely that you will have a meaningful enough relationship with the child to satisfy your need to remain a part of the child’s life, and you should be cautious of a national adoption agency, local adoption agency, or adoption facilitator who makes that promise to you. As a legal matter, adoption terminates the parental rights of the birth parents. 

However, if your desire to visit the child is to see for yourself that the child is doing well, you might want to consider whether photos, letters, and even videos might satisfy your needs. We at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, PC (“Kirsh & Kirsh”) have insisted that adoptive parents provide updates to their birth parents, and, with few exceptions, this arrangement has worked out well for all concerned. We advise adoptive parents to honestly assess what they will feel comfortable doing as to updates – that way, birth parents are never disappointed if the adoptive parents under-promise and over-deliver when agreeing to provide letters and photographs to birth parents. 

If you would like to explore adoption, we at Kirsh & Kirsh — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. 

The four adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh have over 100 years of combined legal experience arranging adoptions.  Kirsh & Kirsh has been in existence since 1981. As attorneys, we at Kirsh & Kirsh have very high standards for the prospective adoptive parents we choose to represent. In most situations, we can provide you with as many profiles of prospective adoptive parents as you would like to receive. All of our waiting families are carefully screened and thoroughly investigated. We will arrange for you to have contact with the family you choose on your terms, without families trying to reach you at all hours of the day or night. 

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide the information you seek without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us again. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Terre Haute or Indianapolis, Columbus or Martinsville, Vincennes or Evansville, Goshen or South Bend, Huntington or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, Michigan, or Illinois.

There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of family options from which you can choose, all of whom are wonderful, carefully screened, loving families FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices about which family adopts your baby and the extent of contact you want after the child’s birth.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime – call/ text: 800-333-5736, contact us, or Facebook message. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption.”  If we do not include those words in our blog posts and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby,” then our website will not show up in most expectant moms’ search results in Google.

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MY BEST FRIEND WANTS TO ADOPT MY BABY IF I PUT UP MY BABY FOR ADOPTION 

On first thought, this seems like an attractive option for a woman considering giving up her baby for adoption or, more correctly, making an adoption plan for the baby. Obviously, the birth mother knows the prospective adoptive parent and can be like a fly on the wall watching the child grow up. However, before making that decision, there are a few questions you might want to ask yourself: Of all of the prospective adoptive parents in the WORLD, is your best friend the best possible adoptive home you can imagine for your baby, or are you considering your best friend because she is your best friend or because you want the baby close? Would it be better to think about what is in your child’s best interests rather than your friend’s best interests or even your best interests?

Other important questions — what will happen to your relationship with your best friend if she thinks your child still looks at you, rather than her, as a mom? What if she is not okay with lying to the child about your true identity as the child’s mother rather than a “friend?”

As parents, our most important role is to protect our children and help them achieve their full potential. For some birth parents, they decide that adoption is in the best interests of their children. 

If you would like to explore adoption, we, at Kirsh & Kirsh — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. 

The four adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh have over 100 years of combined legal experience arranging adoptions.  Kirsh & Kirsh has been in existence since 1981. As attorneys, we at Kirsh & Kirsh, have very high standards for the prospective adoptive parents we choose to represent. In most situations, we can provide you with as many profiles of prospective adoptive parents as you would like to receive. All of our waiting families are carefully screened and thoroughly investigated. We will arrange for you to have contact with the family you choose on your terms, without families trying to reach you at all hours of the day or night. 

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide the information you seek without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us again. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Noblesville or Indianapolis, Columbus or North Vernon, French Lick or Evansville, East Chicago or South Bend, Warsaw or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, Michigan, or Illinois.

There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of family options from which you can choose, all of whom are wonderful, carefully screened, loving families FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices about which family adopts your baby and the extent of contact you want after the child’s birth.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime – call/text: 800-333-5736, contact us, or send a Facebook message. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption.”  If we do not include those words in our blog posts and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby,” then our website will not show up in most expectant moms’ search results in Google.

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IF I PUT UP MY BABY FOR ADOPTION, WHY DO I HAVE TO FILL OUT A BACKGROUND FORM?

Completing a background form serves three purposes. It helps the adoption attorney, national adoption agency, or local adoption agency find the best possible family for your baby if you decide to give up your baby for adoption or, more correctly, make an adoption plan for the baby. As an example, if a particular illness runs in your family, the adoption agency or adoption attorney would try to find a family who has the resources to provide for the child if the child develops that condition. Also, if you work with an experienced adoption law firm like Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”), you will see that their background form not only includes extensive medical history questions but also personal information about the birth parents. We at Kirsh & Kirsh believe that your child will be curious about the personal information about you well before the child cares about your medical history. Lastly, and perhaps most importantly, every birth parent, on some level, wonders what the child will think of them for having placed the child for adoption. A parent who fully and carefully completes a detailed background form will show the child by taking the time to complete the form, the birth parent loved the child and only wanted what was best for the child.

If you would like to explore adoption, we, at Kirsh & Kirsh — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant, have 90 years of combined legal experience arranging adoptions and pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. 

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide the information you seek without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Kokomo or Indianapolis, Columbus or Martinsville, Newburgh or Vincennes, South Bend or Gary, Warsaw or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, Michigan, or Illinois.

There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of family options from which you can choose, all of whom are wonderful, carefully screened, loving families FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices about which family adopts your baby and the extent of contact you want after the child’s birth.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime – call/text: 800-333-5736, contact us, or Facebook message. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption.”  If we do not include those words in our blog posts and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby,” then our website will not show up in most expectant moms’ search results in Google.

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WOULD A WOMAN CONSIDERING ABORTION NATURALLY CHOOSE ADOPTION?

NO! Adoption is not an alternative to abortion: it is an alternative to parenting when a birth mother is not ready to take on the lifetime commitment of raising a child. Some women get very upset at the notion that a woman who would consider abortion would naturally choose adoption. However, perhaps those women should, at least, give adoption a second thought. Certainly, if a woman considers having an abortion, she must question her desire or ability, or both, to parent the child. Adoption is an alternative to personally parenting a child. Adoption allows the child the opportunity to live life and reach her or his full potential, the birth parents to know that their child is safe and secure, and the adoptive parents to realize their dreams of parenthood. OBVIOUSLY, adoption is not for everyone facing an untimely or unplanned pregnancy, but NO ONE should suggest that it is NOT for ANYONE.

If you would like to explore adoption, we, at Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C.  — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant, pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. 

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide you the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Kokomo  or Indianapolis, Pendleton or Bloomington, Evansville or New Albany, South Bend or Gary, Mishawaka or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, or Michigan.

There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of family options from which you can choose, all of whom are wonderful, carefully screened, loving families, FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices which family adopts your baby & extent of contacts you want after the child’s birth.

You can call, text and or email us anytime -call/text: 800-333-5736, contact us, or Facebook message. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.

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I AM THINKING ABOUT PUTTING MY BABY UP FOR ADOPTION AND WANT AN OPEN ADOPTION

We, at Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”), were the first among adoption attorneys and local adoption agencies in Indiana to offer expectant mothers and birth mothers open adoptions. Still today, in each adoption, we tailor the degree of openness to meet the needs of the adoptive parents and birth mother. The more open an adoption, the greater the degree of trust which must exist between the birth mother and adoptive parents. Open adoption is not a concept in which “one size fits all.” The most successful open adoptions are those which develop as the adoptive parents and birth mother get to know and feel comfortable with each other. In the adoptions which Kirsh & Kirsh arrange, we caution our clients, the prospective adoptive parents, to make promises to birth mothers they cannot, or do not intend to, keep. We prefer to have them take it slow to avoid disappointing their birth mother by not providing the degree of openness she expects. 

If you would like to explore adoption, we at Kirsh & Kirsh — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant, pride ourselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. 

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide you with the information you seek without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us again. The Kirsh Boys have 90 YEARS OF COMBINED EXPERIENCE practicing adoption law. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Fishers or Indianapolis, Greensburg or Columbus, Evansville or Santa Claus, South Bend or Logansport, Portland or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, or Michigan.

There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of family options from which you can choose, all of whom are wonderful, carefully screened, loving families FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices regarding which family adopts your baby & extent of contact you want after the child’s birth.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime -call/text: 800-333-5736, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or Facebook message: https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans. Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption.” If we do not include those words in our blog posts and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby,” then our website will not show up in most expectant moms’ search results on Google.