As the expression goes: “Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.” The saying means that different people can look at the same thing — one sees something not very pretty, and the other loves what they see, even though they are both looking at the same thing. Similarly,  “Giving up a baby for adoption” and “placing a baby for adoption” mean exactly the same thing, but some say, “Giving up a baby for adoption” is not the correct way of expressing what a birth mother does when she decides that her baby will have a better chance for a bright future in the home, arms, and hearts of adoptive parents. Actually, many adoption professionals – Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh” often misspelled as “Kirsch & Kirsch”), national adoption agencies, local adoption agencies — prefer to use the expression, “making an adoption plan,” to describe what a birth mother does, because adoption is, in fact, a way of planning for a child’s future. 

If you would like more information about adoption and available living expenses during and after your pregnancy, we, at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – would be happy to help. Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant, pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. 

At Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, the four adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh have over 100 years of combined legal experience arranging adoptions. Kirsh & Kirsh has been in existence since 1981. We know Indiana Adoption Law inside and out. We can find a wonderful home for your baby regardless of your social and medical history. Please be honest with us and do not worry that no one will want your baby.  There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families, FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices about which family adopts your baby and the extent of contacts you want after the child’s birth. Conversely, if you do not wish to choose the family, we will pick the best family on your behalf.

As attorneys, we at Kirsh & Kirsh, have very high standards for the prospective adoptive parents we choose to represent. All our waiting families are carefully screened and thoroughly investigated. We will arrange for you to have contact with the family you choose on your terms, without families trying to reach you at all hours of the day or night. 

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Danville or Indianapolis, Madison or Bloomington, Newburgh or Sullivan, Crown Point or South Bend, Terre Haute or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, Michigan, or Illinois.

You can call, text and or email us anytime – call/text: 800-333-5736contact us, or Facebook message. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.

When talking with children, it is important to provide age-appropriate information and be honest. Obviously, how you explain it to a 5-year-old will differ from what you tell a 15-year-old. For a 5-year-old, as an example, you may want to say something like: “Mommy had a very difficult decision to make and did what she believed was best for you and the baby,” and not go into any more detail.  For the 15-year-old, you may want to explain the reasons that went into your decision. 

However, you need to keep in my mind two very important points, regardless of the age of your children:

  1. You are the parent and the one responsible for caring for your children. With all parental decisions, it is up to YOU to do what is best for your children, even if your children disagree with you.
  2. Seek input from your children, if you want, but you cannot allow children to rule the household, especially with a decision of this magnitude.  

If you would like more information about adoption and available living expenses during and after your pregnancy, we, at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh (“Kirsh & Kirsh”) — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – would be happy to help. Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant, pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. 

At Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, the four adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh have over 100 years of combined legal experience arranging adoptions. Kirsh & Kirsh has been in existence since 1981. We know Indiana Adoption Law inside and out. We can find a wonderful home for your baby regardless of your social and medical history. Please be honest with us and do not worry that no one will want your baby.  There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families, FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices about which family adopts your baby and the extent of contacts you want after the child’s birth. Conversely, if you do not wish to choose the family, we will pick the best family on your behalf.

As attorneys, we at Kirsh & Kirsh, have very high standards for the prospective adoptive parents we choose to represent. All our waiting families are carefully screened and thoroughly investigated. We will arrange for you to have contact with the family you choose on your terms, without families trying to reach you at all hours of the day or night. 

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Noblesville or Indianapolis, Columbus or Bloomington, Evansville or Terre Haute, Michigan City or South Bend, Auburn or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, Michigan, or Illinois.

You can call, text and or email us anytime – call/ text: 800-333-5736contact us, or Facebook message. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.

Each state has its own criminal statutes and definitions of what constitutes fraud. At the very least, it not right to take money from prospective adoptive parents without intending to give up the baby for adoption, or more correctly, make an adoption plan for the baby. Some states like Indiana, make it a FELONY for a woman pretending to be a birth mother or a birth mother to accept living expenses if she does not intend to make an adoptive placement or is not pregnant. See Indiana Code § 35-46-1-9.5. Besides possible jail time under the criminal statute, the defrauded adoptive parents can sue her for THREE TIMES the amount of money she took PLUS attorney fees under Indiana Code § 34-24-3-1.5.

On the other hand, if a woman sincerely intends to give up her baby for adoption and has an honest change of heart, she will not be in trouble. 

We, at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”), represent lots of carefully screened and fully investigated prospective adoptive parents who will gladly assist an expectant mother intending to proceed with an adoption, the full amount of living expenses allowable by law. Giving a family a baby who cannot give birth to one is as God-like as anything one person can do for another. 

If you would like to explore adoption, we at Kirsh & Kirsh — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant, pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. 

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide you with the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Noblesville or Indianapolis, Shelbyville or Bloomington, Evansville or Newburgh, South Bend or Michigan City, Auburn or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, or Michigan.

There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of family options from which you can choose, all of whom are wonderful, carefully screened, loving families FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices regarding which family adopts your baby & extent of contact you want after the child’s birth.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime -call/text: 800-333-5736contact us, or Facebook message. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption.”  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby,” then our website will not show up in most expectant moms’ search results on Google.

If you choose to work with Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”) or most other local adoption agencies or national adoption agencies, IT WILL NOT COST YOU ANYTHING! Furthermore, in many states, prospective adoptive parents can help you with living expenses for such things as food, rent, utilities, transportation, and maternity clothes, as well as medical and counseling expenses relating to your pregnancy.

We, at Kirsh & Kirsh — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Rob and Joel, and his son, Grant, pride ourselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment.

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide you with the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. The Kirsh Boys have 90 YEARS OF COMBINED EXPERIENCE practicing adoption law. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in New Castle or Indianapolis, Bedford or Bloomington, Evansville or Tell City, South Bend or Goshen, Columbia City or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, or Michigan.

There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of family options from which you can choose, all of whom are wonderful, carefully screened, loving families, FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices regarding which family adopts your baby & extent of contact you want after the child’s birth.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime -call/ text: 800-333-5736, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or Facebook message: https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant moms’ search results in Google.

It is not too early if you contact Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”). While some local adoption agencies and national adoption adoptions do not want to spend time with a newly pregnant, expectant mother or birth mother, we, at Kirsh & Kirsh, are happy to talk with you about adoption whenever you want, no matter how many weeks or months remain before your due date. In fact, we will “meet” in any manner you like – in person or by text, Zoom, telephone, or FaceTime. You tell us what is most comfortable for you. We do NOT take a “one size fits all” approach. If a woman has an unplanned pregnancy or untimely pregnancy and thinking about giving the baby up for adoption, or more correctly, making an adoption plan for the baby, we are happy to take the time to explain how adoption works and answer her questions whether 8 months and 6 days remain before the due date, has already given birth, or any time in between.

The “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh, are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant – pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. They cannot make adoption an easy choice, but they can make it less scary by removing some of the unknowns. Ultimately, a birth parent will have to decide if adoption is in their own best interests and the best interests of their child. We, at Kirsh & Kirsh, will not and cannot make that decision for anyone, but we can provide information and answers to questions.

Our contact information is below.  We will answer your questions and provide you the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. The Kirsh Boys have 90 YEARS OF COMBINED EXPERIENCE practicing adoption law. We can help you find an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Carmel or Indianapolis, Columbus or North Vernon, Evansville or Madison, or Decatur or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, or Kentucky.

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families, FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY(married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the full extent allowed by law.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime —call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or Facebook message:  https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.

While it is true that nationally fewer families express interest in adopting Black babies than White babies, we at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C., have LOTS of carefully screened, loving, prospective adoptive parents who cannot wait to welcome an African-American baby into their hearts and homes. While some national adoption agencies and local adoption agencies may not have many waiting families, we have successfully recruited families from Indiana and all over the country, giving expectant mothers and birth mothers, who contact us, several, prospective adoptive families from whom to choose.

Our contact information is below.  We will answer your questions and provide you the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. Our adoption attorneys have 90 YEARS OF COMBINED EXPERIENCE practicing adoption law. We can help you find an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Anderson or Indianapolis, Columbus or Richmond, Evansville or Clarksville, or Pendleton or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, or Kentucky.

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families, FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY(married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the full extent allowed by law.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime —call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or Facebook message:  https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.

Yes. If you live in Indiana or place your baby up for adoption with an Indiana family and assuming the father of the baby has not legally established paternity of the child, meaning through a court proceeding or paternity affidavit, and assuming that you are not married to him, what the father of the baby believes does not matter. Of course, his accusing you of lying probably hurts your feelings, but under Indiana Law, an expectant mother or birth mother does not have to prove paternity of the child to proceed with an adoption. Furthermore, under Indiana Adoption Law, a birth mother does not need the consent to the adoption of a man who is not married to her or who has not established the paternity of the child, as explained above. In fact, he may not even be entitled to notice of the adoption.

Our contact information is below.  We will answer your questions and provide you the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. Our adoption attorneys have 90 YEARS OF COMBINED EXPERIENCE practicing adoption law. We can help you find an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Kokomo or Indianapolis, Columbus or New Castle, Evansville or Scottsburg, or South Bend or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, or Kentucky.

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families, FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY(married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the full extent allowed by law.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime —call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or a Facebook message:  https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.

Kirsh & Kirsh usually represents the prospective adoptive parents, BUT IT IS ABSOLUTELY FALSE that Kirsh & Kirsh does not care about birth mothers. Nothing could be further from the truth. We have arranged adoptions in Indiana for more than 35 years. Over that time, we have earned an excellent reputation with expectant mothers and birth mothers because of the genuine concern and care we show them. We know that birth mothers are heroes. Nothing demonstrates a parent’s love for her child more than putting her child’s needs ahead of her own. We treat birth mothers with the kindness and respect they deserve – it is just the right thing to do and consistent with the interests of our clients, the prospective adoptive parents.

We tell expectant mothers at our first meeting with them that we are not their attorneys, what they tell us is not confidential or subject to attorney-client privilege and cannot provide legal advice to them. However, we give birth parents information about loving, carefully screened, prospective adoptive parents, make all the arrangements for the adoption, and remain available 24/7/365 during their pregnancy and after to answer their non-legal questions. In the 90 years of combined experience practicing adoption in Indiana, our 4 attorneys have found that rarely do the questions expectant mothers ask involve legal advice, and when a birth mother asks a question that calls for legal advice, we arrange for them to speak with their own attorney, at NO EXPENSE to them.

We pride ourselves on the relationship we have with birth mothers and appreciate the referrals of new birth mothers by those women, who have previously placed their babies up for adoption, or more correctly made an adoption plan for their babies, make to us. THANK YOU FOR YOUR CONTINUED SUPPORT.

Our contact information is below.  We will answer your questions and provide you the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. Our adoption attorneys have 90 YEARS OF COMBINED EXPERIENCE practicing adoption law. We can help you find an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Westfield or Indianapolis, Columbus or Shelbyville, Evansville or Jasper, or Warsaw or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, or Kentucky.

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families, FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY(married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the full extent allowed by law.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime —call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or a Facebook message:  https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.

No. Sometimes a birth mother will contact a national adoption agency or local adoption agency because the agency has advised the birth mother not to work with an adoption attorney or because the adoption agency has a slick website. At times, an expectant mother or birth mother will find that the adoption agency is too hard to reach, she does not like the agency’s policies, the agency’s counselors or social workers pry too much into the birth mother’s affairs, the agency does not have adoptive parents that the birth mother likes or with whom she could imagine placing her baby for adoption, or any number of other reasons. The decision to put up a baby for adoption, or more correctly, make an adoption plan for a baby is too big a decision not to trust completely, or be comfortable with, the adoption facilitator, whether an adoption agency or adoption attorney. Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”) understand this and are happy to meet with any woman thinking about adoption, without cost or obligation on her part, to give her the chance to see if she likes and feels comfortable with, us. In other words, if a woman contacts or even meets with us, she never has to talk with us again.

But, if you would like to work with us, we try our best to accommodate your desires and wishes. We know that every expectant mother, who contacts us, is unique and could care less about “the normal way of doing things.” Birth mothers want whatever makes the impossibly difficult decision of giving up a child for adoption easier – not more complicated.

Our contact information is below.  We will answer your questions and provide you the information you seek. We can assist you with an Indiana adoption no matter whether you live in Goshen or South Bend, Fort Wayne or Huntington, Madison or Clarksville, or Evansville or Newburgh, or any Indiana county or city in between.

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the full extent allowed by law.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime —call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or a Facebook message:  https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption.”  If we do not include those words in our blog posts and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby,” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.

A few days ago, I, Steve Kirsh, of the adoption law firm of Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”), met prospective adoptive parents via Zoom, who told me that they had been working with a national adoption agency, which matched them with an expectant mother.  They lost $40,000 on the failed adoption, between what they paid in adoption agency fees and living expenses for the birth mother. Unlike Indiana, the state in which the adoption agency operated does not impose a dollar amount limit on living expenses.  Obviously, the significant financial loss upset the prospective adoptive parents, but the agency’s lack of responsiveness throughout the process galled them. They said that unless the agency wanted more money from them, they never heard from the agency. The adoption agency did not inform them that the birth mother could not proceed with the adoption because Child Protective Services (“CPS”) had put a hold on the baby, until the adoptive parents contacted the agency after the birth mother contacted them, asking for more living expenses — AFTER she had already delivered. At that time, the adoption agency caseworker informed them that CPS had stepped in the previous weekend and that they would not be able to adopt the baby.

Under Indiana adoption law and the laws of most, if not all, states, a birth mother cannot legally commit to adoption until after she gives birth. Therefore, every prospective adoptive parent risks disappointment and financial loss, if a birth mother changes her mind and decides to parent her baby. We, at Kirsh & Kirsh, find it hard to justify the amount of money the family lost and the lack of communication. We pride ourselves on promptly responding to all inquiries about newborn adoptions and limiting the financial exposure of failed adoption opportunities. In fact, we structure our legal and adoption services fees to roll-over to subsequent adoption opportunities. Furthermore, we defer the largest amount of those fees until placement so that significant financial losses do not compound the emotional disappointment of not successfully adopting.

By the way, we, at Kirsh & Kirsh, do NOT criticize the birth mother for not proceeding with putting her baby up for adoption and recognize that a birth mother has the absolute right not to give up her baby for adoption, or more correctly, make an adoption plan for her baby.

We find it unfortunate that the national adoption agency allowed the prospective adoptive parents to suffer such a great financial loss and did not communicate better with them about the failed adoption opportunity.

If you are prospective adoptive parents looking for information about adopting a child, or are a birth mother or expectant mother and not sure how to give a child up for adoption, or, more correctly, make an adoption plan for your precious child, please contact us. We will answer your questions, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us costs you nothing nor does it mean you ever have to communicate with us, again. We can assist you with an Indiana adoption no matter whether you live in Auburn or Newburgh, Scottsville or Gary, Huntington or Huntingburg, or any Indiana county or city in between.

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the full extent allowed by law.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime —call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or a Facebook message:  https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results on Google.