Tag: Placing my baby for adoption

Birthmother

WHEN I TOLD THE FATHER OF THE BABY I WAS PREGNANT, HE THOUGHT I WAS LYING. CAN I STILL GIVE UP THE BABY FOR ADOPTION?

Yes. If you live in Indiana or place your baby up for adoption with an Indiana family and assuming the father of the baby has not legally established paternity of the child, meaning through a court proceeding or paternity affidavit, and assuming that you are not married to him, what the father of the baby believes does not matter. Of course, his accusing you of lying probably hurts your feelings, but under Indiana Law, an expectant mother or birth mother does not have to prove paternity of the child to proceed with an adoption. Furthermore, under Indiana Adoption Law, a birth mother does not need the consent to the adoption of a man who is not married to her or who has not established the paternity of the child, as explained above. In fact, he may not even be entitled to notice of the adoption.

Our contact information is below.  We will answer your questions and provide you the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. Our adoption attorneys have 90 YEARS OF COMBINED EXPERIENCE practicing adoption law. We can help you find an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Kokomo or Indianapolis, Columbus or New Castle, Evansville or Scottsburg, or South Bend or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, or Kentucky.

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families, FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY(married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the full extent allowed by law.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime —call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or a Facebook message:  https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.

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I FEAR THAT IF THE FATHER OF THE BABY KNOWS I AM THINKING ABOUT GIVING THE BABY UP FOR ADOPTION, HE WILL USE THE PLANNED ADOPTION AGAINST ME IN A CUSTODY BATTLE.

Over the last 38+ years, we, at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”) have heard this concern many times. In fact, our 4 attorneys have over 90 years of experience practicing adoption law, in Indiana, Tennessee, Mississippi, and Kentucky. In our years of experience, we have never heard of a birth father actually making that argument. But, if one of our birth mothers were to find herself having defended herself in such a case, we would offer to come to court to testify on her behalf that women love their babies and consider putting their babies up for adoption, or, more correctly, make adoption plans for their babies, because they want more for their children than they believe they can provide at that time in their lives. They want what is best for their babies and believe that an adoptive placement would assure the children bright futures, in safe, secure, and loving homes. However, just because a birth mother may believe an adoptive family could provide her child more opportunities and stability than she can provide does not mean that she believes the father of the baby would be able to provide the same opportunities and stability as an adoptive family. In other words, she does not believe the birth father raising the child is the best alternative to adoption.

Consider this analogy: I, Steve Kirsh, am a better-than-average golfer. If I were playing in a golf tournament and had the opportunity to have Tiger Woods finish the round for me to win the tournament, I would take it. But if he were not available, I believe I would have a better chance of winning than my brother, Rob Kirsh, who is a very good adoption attorney but not a very good golfer. In other words, just because I believed someone else would have a better chance of success does not mean that ANYONE besides me would have a better chance.

Our contact information is below.  We will answer your questions and provide you the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us costs you nothing nor does it mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. We can assist you with an Indiana adoption no matter whether you live in Westfield or Indianapolis, New Albany or Jeffersonville, Jasper or Newburgh, or Warsaw or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between.

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the full extent allowed by law.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime —call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or a Facebook message:  https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.

Birthmother

I FEAR CHANGING MY MIND. CAN I SIGN A CONSENT TO ADOPTION BEFORE THE BABY IS BORN?

Expectant mothers, thinking about placing their baby up for adoption, ask us, at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”) this question often. We prefer to think of giving up a baby for adoption as making an adoption plan for a baby. Some women want to sign a consent to adoption before they give birth, so they won’t make a last-minute, emotional decision to take the baby home from the hospital. While Indiana law permits the father of an unborn child to consent to the adoption of the child, it does not allow the birth mother to sign a consent to adoption prior to birth. This is true whether a local adoption agency, national adoption agency or an adoption attorney handles the adoption. In Indiana, the same laws apply to adoptions arranged by all adoption professionals.

But, speaking to a counselor helps many expectant mothers focus on their reasons for adoption and gives them the tools to deal with their emotions. The counselors recommended by Kirsh & Kirsh will NOT tell an expectant mother what to do, how to think, or how to feel, but will help her think about all of her options so that she can make the best possible decision for her newborn and herself.

We, at Kirsh & Kirsh, have helped numerous birth parents with adoptions over the last 35+ years of the firm’s existence. We tailor each adoption to the circumstances of the birth parents and adoptive parents involved rather than strictly following a set policy and will try to accommodate your wishes regarding all aspects of the adoption, including the timing of the consent signing. If you want to leave the hospital as soon as possible after birth, we will meet you at the hospital, 7 days a week, 365 days a year, including all holidays. On the other hand, we will NEVER rush or pressure you to sign a consent to adoption.

We will answer your questions and provide you the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us costs you nothing nor does it mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. We can assist you with an Indiana adoption no matter whether you live in Fort Wayne or Newburgh, Greencastle or Shelbyville, Lafayette or Bluffton, or any Indiana county or city in between.

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the full extent allowed by law.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime —call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or a Facebook message:  https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone, by a member of our office staff – not an answering service — 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results on Google.

Birthmother

I DON’T KNOW IF I CAN LIVE WITH MYSELF IF I PLACE MY BABY UP FOR ADOPTION

In our 35+ years of experience, in assisting many expectant mothers with adoptions, we, at Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”), believe all women considering giving their babies up for adoption, or more correctly, making adoption plans for their babies, share the same concern. However, many women with unplanned pregnancies or untimely pregnancies, who ultimately choose adoption, realize that the alternative of taking on the responsibilities of parenting without sufficient resources — emotional, financial, and etc. – to assure their children will have lifetimes of happiness, opportunities, and chances to reach their full potentials is not a daily stress with which they can live.  We understand that adoption is an impossibly difficult choice, but if you are pregnant and not sure of your preparedness to give your child more than the basic human essentials of Love, food, and shelter, you might, at least, look into adoption.

We, at Kirsh & Kirsh, can help and will meet with you to explain your options, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us costs you nothing nor does it mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. We can assist you with an Indiana adoption no matter whether you live in Fort Wayne or Evansville, Logansport or New Albany, Columbus or Lafayette, Richmond or Terre Haute, or any Indiana county or city in between.

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the full extent allowed by law.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime —call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or a Facebook message:  https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results on Google.

Birthmother

I PLAN TO GIVE UP MY BABY FOR ADOPTION. WHAT WILL HAPPEN AT THE HOSPITAL?

Often pregnant women, who contact us at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”) about placing their babies up for adoption, or more correctly, making an adoption plan for their babies, want to know what will happen in the hospital.

We, at Kirsh & Kirsh, give birth mothers total control over what takes place at the hospital, including who the birth mother chooses to have in labor and delivery with her, who can see and spend time with the baby after birth, how much time the birth mother spends with the baby, whether she wants to care for the baby in the hospital herself or have the nurses or adoptive parents do so, and when she wants the adoptive parents to arrive at the hospital – for labor and delivery, after delivery, prior to her discharge from the hospital, or at any other time. In short, the birth mother makes ALL decisions for the baby and her in the hospital.

Additionally, at Kirsh & Kirsh, we make sure that the birth mother can spend time with the baby, even after she signs her consent to the adoption.

When the baby is ready for discharge from the hospital, the baby leaves into the loving arms of the adoptive parent(s). Kirsh & Kirsh does not require intermediate foster care nor will the Indiana or Tennessee Department of Children Services (“DCS”),  the Mississippi Department of Child Protective Services (“CPS”), nor the Kentucky Child Protection Branch (“CHFS”) have any involvement in an adoption arranged by Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh.

Over the last 35+ years, we, at Kirsh & Kirsh, have assisted many pregnant women, in Indiana, Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, and around the country, with finding loving, happy, wonderful homes for their babies. We give expectant mothers and birth mothers as much or as little involvement in the family selection process as they would like.

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and happy to assist with living expenses to the full extent allowed by law.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime —call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or a Facebook message:  https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

Birthmother

Who Will Care For My Baby In The Hospital, If I Place My Baby For Adoption? I Think It Would Be Too Hard To Care For The Baby In The Hospital, But I Do Not Want My Baby To Be Alone In The Hospital

Many expectant mothers, thinking about giving up their babies for adoption, or more correctly, making an adoption plan for their newborns, have said this to us at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”).  Before directly responding, this concern proves what we, at Kirsh & Kirsh, have said for the 35+ years we have arranged adoptions and know to be true: birth mothers place their babies for adoption because they LOVE their babies. They want their children to have better lives than they, the birth mothers, can provide at that time in their lives. If a birth mother did not love her baby, why would she be concerned about the baby being alone in the hospital?!?

Firstly, hospitals NEVER leave babies alone. Babies are ALWAYS under the watchful eye of the nurses. If a birth parent does not feed, change, and hold the baby, the nursery nurses are more than happy to love, nurture, and care for the baby. Hospital nursery nurses work in nurseries because they love taking care of babies. 

Secondly, there is another, perhaps, better solution – at the birth mother’s request, the hospital will allow the adoptive parents into the hospital to personally care for the baby in the hospital until the baby is ready for discharge. In fact, most hospitals will give the prospective adoptive parents their own room on the mother-baby, post-partum unit until the baby is ready for discharge. A birth mother can have as much or as little contact with that baby as she feels comfortable. In our considerable experience, we know that each birth parent handles adoption on their own terms and in their own way. For some, that means not spending time with their babies in the hospital. For those mothers, they can rest assured that their babies will NOT be alone in the hospital. 

We, at Kirsh & Kirsh, have assisted numerous pregnant women, in Indiana, Tennessee, Mississippi, and Kentucky to find loving, happy, wonderful homes for their babies. We give expectant mothers and birth mothers as much or as little involvement in the family selection process as they would like. 

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and happy to assist with living expenses to the full extent allowed by law.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime —call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or a Facebook message:  https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

Birthmother

I Have An Unplanned Pregnancy And Am Thinking About Putting My Baby Up For Adoption. What Will Happen When I Contact Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”)?

Firstly, and most importantly, contacting us at Kirsh & Kirsh does not cost you anything. Birth mothers and expectant mothers never pay fees to Kirsh & Kirsh. Next, and just as importantly, contacting the adoption law firm of Kirsh & Kirsh does not mean you have to proceed with an adoption. We understand that adoption can be confusing and there is lots of wrong information out there about adoption. A birth mother thinking placing her baby for adoption, or, more correctly, making an adoption plan for her newborn or soon-to-be-born baby, wants information – CORRECT information. Therefore, when you contact us, we will answer your questions and tell you how we can assist if you decide to pursue adoption. Again, even if you tell us you want our help, you will not be obligated to place your baby for adoption. Under the laws of Indiana, Tennessee, Mississippi, and Kentucky, you cannot give your consent to an adoption until after you give birth. We will NEVER pressure you to sign a consent to adoption.

At Kirsh & Kirsh, we try to make it easy to look into adoption, whether because of nice team members, our quick response times, and our willingness to tailor each adoption to the wants and needs of our clients, the hopeful adoptive parents, and the loving, courageous birth parents who contact us, looking for assistance in finding the perfect adoptive home for their precious newborn, soon-to-be-born, or young toddler.

We have assisted many pregnant women, in Indiana and around the country, over the last 35+ years find loving, happy, wonderful homes for their babies. We give expectant mothers and birth mothers as much or as little involvement in the family selection process as they would like.

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and happy to assist with living expenses to the full extent allowed by law.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime —call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or a Facebook message:  https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

Birthmother

If I Give Up My Baby For Adoption, Will DCS, CPS, Or CHFS Try To Interfere?

No. Neither the Indiana nor Tennessee Department of Children Services (“DCS”),  nor the Mississippi Department of Child Protective Services (“CPS”), nor the Kentucky Child Protection Branch (“CHFS”) will get involved BECAUSE you place a newborn for adoption. Those state, child protection agencies investigate children in need of services — children who suffer from neglect or abuse. A child placed for adoption through an adoption law firm, like Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”) or an adoption agency is NOT a child in need of services. Kirsh & Kirsh only works with prospective adoptive parents who undergo thorough screenings and investigations before the court grants the adoption. By definition, a birth mother who makes an adoption plan for her child is NOT neglecting or abandoning her child – she has assured her child of a bright future, in a safe, secure home.

If you test positive for drugs at the time of delivery, the hospital will have to file a report the child protection agencies, but Kirsh & Kirsh has successfully gotten DCS in Indiana to step back and allow an adoption to proceed, rather than take the child from the hospital and place the child into a foster home. We have even had success in doing so in what we call a “surprise baby” situation – a last-minute adoption for a birth mother who had not planned for the adoption prior to the birth of the child.

We, at Kirsh & Kirsh, have assisted numerous pregnant women, in Indiana and around the country, over the last 35+ years find loving, happy, wonderful homes for their babies. We give expectant mothers and birth mothers as much or as little involvement in the family selection process as they would like.

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and happy to assist with living expenses to the full extent allowed by law.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime —call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or a Facebook message:  https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

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WHICH ADOPTION ATTORNEY OR ADOPTION AGENCY IS THE BEST IN INDIANA, TENNESSEE, MISSISSIPPI, AND KENTUCKY?

“Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.” Individuals will make their judgment of who is the “Best” of anything, based upon factors they considered important. Some people will consider the following factors in determining who is the best Adoption Attorney or Adoption Agency in Indiana, Tennessee, Mississippi, and Kentucky:

  1. How years of experience does the adoption agency or adoption attorney have? However, look carefully: some agencies and law firms will add the years of experience of all their employees together to give the impression of having more years of experience than the agency or firm really has. Most would agree that an adoption attorney who has been handling adoptions for 35+ years has more experience than an adoption agency with 7 employees and claims to have “combined” experience of 35 years (7 employees times 5 years each). 
  2. Compare apples to apples. In other words, if you need help with a step-parent adoption, look for an adoption professional with lots of experience handling step-parent adoptions. Likewise, if you ask an agency or law firm how many adoptions they have handled and you are interested in newborn adoption, ask for the newborn adoption number, without including step-parent or DCS adoptions.
  3. What have others said? Which adoption agency or attorney has more 5-Star Google Reviews and/or Facebook “Likes”?
  4. If you are a pregnant woman considering giving your baby up for adoption (or more correctly: making an adoption plan or placing your child for adoption) – with whom has your OBGYN or the local hospital social worker had a good experience as an adoption professional? 
  5. How easy is it to reach the adoption professional? Which adoption agency or adoption attorney answers their telephone 24/7/365 by a member of their regular office staff, or does you call go to voice mail or an answering service?
  6. Does the adoption attorney or adoption agency have an established place of business or, at least, a licensed attorney in your state? Or does a national adoption agency just have online presence? Who do you think understands adoption law and procedure better – an attorney licensed to practice law in your state or a national adoption agency with a big Internet presence? 
  7. Is the adoption provider even a lawyer or an adoption agency or just a “baby broker”? Are they licensed as lawyers or a child-placing agency?

Again, people will have their own criteria in deciding with whom they would like to work as they consider adoption. For most people, trusting their “gut feeling” usually works out well. Or, to say it differently, “follow your instincts.”

We, at Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C., have assisted numerous pregnant women, in Indiana, over the last 35+ years, and more recently in Tennessee, Mississippi, and Kentucky, find loving, happy, wonderful homes for their babies. We give expectant mothers and birth mothers as much or as little involvement in the family selection process as they would like. 

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and happy to assist with living expenses to the full extent allowed by law.

You can call, text and or email us anytime —call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or Facebook message:  https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

Birthmother

I Brought The Baby Home From The Hospital. Is It Too Late To Give My Baby Up For Adoption?

It is NOT too late. We, at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”), for more than 35 years, have helped many birth mothers put their babies up for adoption (make adoption plans) after they have left the hospital with the babies. In some of those situations, the birth mother looked into adoption before giving birth and then decided, at the last minute, to parent the baby – often because of promises of emotional, financial, and parenting support from friends and family. Some birth mothers, who later reconsidered adoption, discovered that such promises, while well-intended, did not materialize or were not consistent or sufficient enough to enable the birth mother to parent the child. Unquestionably, a birth parent thinking about placing her or his child for adoption faces an immensely difficult decision, but parenting a child without financial, emotional, and other resources is not easy, by any means. Both decisions deserve careful consideration because of their lifelong consequences.

Whether you have left the hospital with the baby or are still in the hospital, if you are not certain that you have the resources – emotional, financial, or otherwise — to parent the child, you owe it to yourself and precious newborn to, at least, explore adoption. Meeting with, or talking to, adoption law firm, like Kirsh & Kirsh, or an adoption agency does not obligate you to proceed with an adoption. At Kirsh & Kirsh, we will treat you will kindness and respect, never pressure you to proceed with adoption, or judge you.

To learn more about how we can help you learn about adoption in Indiana, Tennessee, Mississippi, or Kentucky, please feel to contact us at Kirsh & Kirsh. We provide information about adoption free of charge and have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the full extent allowed by law.

You can call, text and or email us anytime. To contact us—call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or Facebook message:  https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.