Tag: Private Adoption Services

Birthmother

I DON’T KNOW IF I CAN PUT UP MY BABY FOR ADOPTION

Very few women who think about giving up their babies for adoption, or more correctly, making adoption plans for their babies actually proceed to make adoption plans for their newborns. For a birth parent to place a baby in an adoptive home, the birth parent must believe and have faith that the adoptive parents can and will provide the child with a loving, secure, and happy home, with a lifetime of opportunities – beyond what they, the birth parents realistically believe they can provide the child. We, at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”), have met with a great number of expectant mothers and birth mothers over the last 35+ years of our firm’s existence. Many more women decide to parent their babies (as is ABSOLUTELY their right) than proceed with adoptions. Interestingly, the ones who make adoption plans are probably the opposite of who most people would think are the likely candidates. The older, more mature, better educated, stable, forward-thinking a woman, the MORE likely she will place her baby for adoption. Those women tend to have a more realistic idea of the time and commitment of parenthood. We, at Kirsh & Kirsh, are very selective about the prospective adoptive parents we accept as clients. All are thoroughly investigated by independent adoption agencies.

We, at Kirsh & Kirsh — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant, pride ourselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. We cannot make adoption an easy choice, but we can make it less scary by removing some of the unknowns. Ultimately, a birth parent will have to decide if adoption is in their own best interests and the best interests of their child. We, at Kirsh & Kirsh, will not and cannot make that decision for anyone, but we can provide information and answers to questions – that way, you can make a well-informed decision.

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide you with the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. The Kirsh Boys have 90 YEARS OF COMBINED EXPERIENCE practicing adoption law. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Noblesville or Indianapolis, Bloomington or Columbus, Evansville or New Albany, or South Bend or Rochester, Auburn or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, or Michigan.

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families, FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime -call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or Facebook message: https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant moms’ search results in Google.

Birthmother

I AM THINKING ABOUT PUTTING MY BABY UP FOR ADOPTION BUT DON’T LIVE IN INDIANAPOLIS. CAN ADOPTION ATTORNEYS KIRSH & KIRSH, P.C (“KIRSH & KIRSH”) STILL HELP ME?

Yes! Not only can we, at Kirsh & Kirsh, help you find a wonderful, thoroughly investigated, carefully screened home for your soon-to-be-born or newborn baby, we will travel to meet you in Ft. Wayne or anywhere in Allen County, Angola, or anywhere in Steuben County, South Bend, or anywhere in St. Joseph County, Hammond, or anywhere in Lake County,  Sellersburg, or anywhere in Clark County, Goshen, or anywhere in Elkhart County, Columbus, or anywhere in Bartholomew County, Bloomington, or anywhere in Monroe, Warsaw or anywhere in Kosciusko County, Indianapolis or Marion County. No matter where you live, you NEVER pay us anything for our assistance in giving your baby up for adoption or, more correctly making an adoption plan for your baby. Likewise, talking to, or meeting with, us about adoption does not obligate you to proceed with the adoption or even work with us. We are happy to meet you by telephone, Skype, Face Time, Zoom, or in person, to explain how we handle adoptions, and most importantly, give you an opportunity to see if you would like working with us.

We, at Kirsh & Kirsh, have assisted many pregnant women, in Indiana and around the country, to find loving, happy, wonderful homes for their babies. We give expectant mothers and birth mothers as much or as little involvement in the family selection process as they would like.

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the full extent allowed by law.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime —call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or a Facebook message:  https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

Birthmother

What Options Do I have for an Unplanned Pregnancy?

When most couples learn that they are pregnant, they are overjoyed. If that is not how you felt when you learned you were pregnant or you have an unplanned pregnancy, an untimely pregnancy, or for some, an unwanted pregnancy, you have options besides parenting the child, including,

  1. Giving the baby to a family member to raise,
  2. Safe Haven Abandonment of the child,
  3. Foster care
  4. Abortion, and
  5. Adoption

At Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”), we are most familiar with the option of adoption and since adoption receives little attention as an option for an untimely pregnancy or unplanned pregnancy, this blog entry will provide an overview of adoption.

Adoption creates a permanent, legal relationship between a child and the adoptive parent(s). Foster care, guardianship, or childcare, and the like may continue for a long time but do not make the caregivers the legal parents of the child. Additionally, adoption ends the legal relationship between the child and birth parents.

By giving a baby up for adoption, or more correctly, making an adoption plan for a baby or placing a baby for adoption, through many adoption agencies and Kirsh & Kirsh, expectant mothers have the option of selecting the adoptive parents for their babies from profiles of carefully screened, thoroughly investigated prospective adoptive parents. Kirsh & Kirsh has the VERY HIGH STANDARDS for the prospective adoptive parents they will accept as clients for adoptive placements.

Adoption gives the baby the gift of a loving, secured, prepared home, the new family the gift of a baby, and the birth mother or birth parents the gift of peace of mind that their precious child will receive a loving home and lifetime of opportunities.

We, at Kirsh & Kirsh, have assisted numerous pregnant women, in Indiana, Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, and around the country, over the last 35+ years find loving, happy, wonderful homes for their babies. We give expectant mothers and birth mothers as much or as little involvement in the family selection process as they would like.

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and happy to assist with living expenses to the full extent allowed by law.

You can call, text and or email us anytime. To contact us—call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or Facebook message:  https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

Birthmother

What Options Do I Have? I Did Not Plan To Get Pregnant

Most people will tell you that you have 2 options – parent or abort the baby. They neglect to mention at third alternative – give the baby up for adoption or more correctly “make an adoption plan for the baby.” Unless you have already given birth, you don’t have to make a final decision now. Whatever you decide will have lasting consequences for you and the baby.  Take a deep breath and consider your options.

Everyone knows the option of parenting and that is the one most women choose. In fact, not making a decision leaves you with that outcome. But, ask yourself the fundamental question which guides all good parenting choices: “What is in my child’s best interests”? If you believe you have the resources and desire to devote the rest of your life parenting your child, you should choose this option. “The rest of my life”? No, wait – I thought I would finish raising my child when he or she turned 18 years. Wrong – parenting is a lifetime commitment, which gets harder as children get older, because a parent’s ability to influence their decisions diminishes. As a parent you will always have the desire to give your children the benefit of your knowledge and experience. Of course, you need to provide the necessities – food, shelter, care, education, and, of course, LOVE. However, Love alone is not sufficient.

When you honestly consider your current situation, you may conclude you cannot provide your child the life, future, and opportunities you want for your child. That leaves you with two options – abortion or adoption. Some women will not consider abortion as an option and move directly to adoption, but let’s assume for the sake of discussion you would consider aborting the child or, as some would say “fetus” to make it feel less like taking a life, particularly the life of a child. But, you must understand that while abortion ends the pregnancy, it does not change the fact that you were pregnant. Presumably, some women will be able to put the abortion out of their minds and will not associate the abortion with ending an innocent child’s life. A woman who has had an abortion will likely tell you that some degree of guilt will follow you through life.

Another alternative – provide for your child by means of an adoptive placement. The downside includes being pregnant until you give birth, which may last weeks or months more, depending on your due date. Feeling a baby kick from the inside, giving birth, and then leaving the hospital without your baby will likely be the hardest thing you do in your life. It takes a firm belief and faith that adoption gives your child the best opportunity to realize their full potential and the courage to make a decision that most of society, including your some of your closest friends, will never understand. However, a hard decision does not make it a bad decision. If you want your child to have a loving, secure, happy home, and a world of opportunities, making an adoption plan may be your best parenting decision.  While you will grieve, you will also know that you put your child’s needs ahead of your own, have given you child the gift of life and a good home, and have fulfilled the dream of parenthood for someone who probably would never have a child or another child without you or someone like you.

By the way, another alternative that some women choose includes asking family and friends to assume formal or informal foster care/guardianship of the child. If whatever causes you to question your ability to parent is a short term condition and you are not concerned that it will reoccur, foster care would allow you to get from “Point A” to “Point B” in your life.

If you would like to explore adoption and live in Indiana, Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky or any other state, contact us at Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. We have helped numerous women with adoption plans over the last 35+ years. We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes.

We will always treat you will kindness and respect. Of the many expectant mothers with whom we have worked over years, many, if not most, have needed help paying their living expenses while they were pregnant and during their postpartum recovery.

You can call, text and or email us anytime. To contact us—call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or Facebook message:  https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

Birthmother

A Family Approached Me About Letting Them Adopt My Baby – Should I Let Them?

While it may seem like a difficult or overwhelming task at first, the reality is if you are pregnant and thinking about giving up your baby for adoption (or more correctly – making an adoption plan) finding families wanting to adopt a baby is actually quite easy. Someone always knows someone, who knows someone, who wants a baby. Families hoping to adopt may have already approached you or had someone else approach you for them. It may help that your sister or best friend (or aunt, or co-worker, or friend of a friend, etc.) says that they think a particular family would provide a good home for your baby, but are you willing to, quite literally, entrust your child’s life to a person or persons based upon the recommendation of a well-intentioned, but untrained, friend? Do the prospective adoptive parents have health, marital, financial, or criminal problems? A history of substance or physical abuse? Those are not things that people typically disclose to others, particularly if they believe it would reflect on them poorly, and especially if they are wanting to adopt someone’s baby. (These things are, however, disclosed during the home study process.) Sure, you may want to help them, but ask yourself – what is most important to me? Helping a seemingly nice family or being confident you have found a safe, secure, loving home for your unborn baby? Wouldn’t you like to consider a number of already carefully, pre-screened prospective adoptive parents?

Placing a baby for adoption takes incredible courage, thoughtfulness, and most importantly trust that the adoptive parents will provide your child with the best life possible, with opportunities to enjoy life and reach their full potential. That is why you should consider working with a licensed, adoption agency or experienced adoption attorney, who can match you with those carefully screened and homestudy approved families.

We at Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”), have assisted numerous expectant and birth mothers find just the right family for their babies. We have four licensed attorneys in Indiana, one of whom is also licensed in Kentucky, Tennessee, and Mississippi. If you do not live in one of those states we can find an experienced adoption professional to assist you in your state of residence. We will provide you with profiles of lots of wonderful, carefully screened families, and if you would like, we will arrange for you to talk with them by telephone or meet them in person. Or, if you would rather, we will select a family for you. It is entirely your decision. Working with us gives you options for your baby’s future.

You may contact us at Kirsh & Kirsh without cost or obligation on your part. Birth mothers NEVER pay a fee to Kirsh & Kirsh. See what we have to offer before making the most important decision of your life. You can call, text and or email us anytime. We answer our office phone, 317-575-5555, 24/7/365. We also promptly respond to text messages at 317-721-2030 and email at AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

Birthmother

I don’t know if I can do an adoption – I think it will kill me to be without my child

Do NOT believe anyone who tells you that giving a baby up for adoption, or more accurately, making an adoption plan for a baby is easy. IT IS NOT. There is no more difficult a decision than parting with a child – especially, the mother of a newborn who has felt the baby kick from the inside.

However, the decision has little, if anything, to do with wanting to make an adoptive placement. Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”), have met with, and or spoken to, 1000s of expectant mothers and birth mothers over the last 35+ years. Women to do not proceed with adoptions because the want to do it. In fact, in the typical newborn adoption Kirsh & Kirsh handles, the birth mother does not have to proceed with an adoption. These are not like adoptions in which the Department of Children (“DCS”) Services involuntarily terminates parental rights as part of child in need of services (“CHINS”) proceedings.

So, if moms do not want to proceed with an adoption and nobody is forcing them to give up their babies for adoption, why do they do it? They LOVE their precious newborns and want more for their children than they feel that they can provide themselves at that moment in their lives. Parents put the needs of their children ahead of their own interests. That is what good parents do.  Most certainly, a birth mother will grieve the loss of her child when she proceeds with an adoption. If avoiding grief were the only consideration, women would never place babies for adoption.  Parenting involves many things — the most important include providing safe, loving homes and secure and happy futures for children. Most parents fulfill those obligations personally. Those who cannot, look to other options such as help from family and friends and adoptive placements, among other options.

We, Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C., have handled more than 3500 successful adoptions over the last 35+ years.   You can call, text and or email us anytime. We answer our office phone, 317-575-5555, 24/7/365. We also promptly respond to text messages at 317-721-2030 and email at AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.