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WHAT IS INDIANA’S NEW ABORTION LAW, AND WHEN DOES IT GO INTO EFFECT?

Effective September 15, 2022, Indiana Code 16-34-2-1, will ban abortion in Indiana, except during the first 20 weeks of pregnancy to prevent “any serious health risk to the pregnant woman or save the pregnant woman’s life” or if “the fetus is diagnosed with a lethal fetal anomaly.” Also, a woman who got pregnant as a result of rape or incest may have an abortion during first 10 weeks of the pregnancy. Additionally, Indiana’s new abortion law limits the use of the abortion inducing drug, Mifepristone, to the first 8 weeks of the pregnancy. Some have described Indiana’s abortion law as the most restrictive abortion law in the country and the first since the Dobbs decision, which overturned Roe vs. Wade.

Putting a baby up for adoption, or more appropriately making an adoption plan, gives a woman facing an untimely pregnancy, unplanned pregnancy, or unwanted pregnancy an alternative to parenting the child. 

If you would like to explore adoption, we, at Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C.  — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant, pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. 

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide you with the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Avon or Indianapolis, Cumberland or Greenfield, Evansville or Bloomington, South Bend or East Chicago, Muncie or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, or Michigan.

There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of family options from which you can choose, all of whom are wonderful, carefully screened, loving families, FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices which family adopts your baby & extent of contacts you want after the child’s birth.

You can call, text and or email us anytime -call/text: 800-333-5736, contact us, or Facebook message. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.

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I GAVE BIRTH AND PLAN TO PUT THE BABY UP FOR ADOPTION. WHY CAN’T I JUST LEAVE THE BABY AT THE HOSPITAL AND WALK OUT AMA?

By walking out of a hospital AMA — against medical advice, you risk medical complications, which could threaten your future well-being and even your life. Also, leaving the baby at the hospital, before signing a consent to adoption, will cause the hospital to contact DCS. When DCS gets involved, it will make the baby a Child in Need of Services (CHINS) and place the baby in a foster home. Additionally, DCS will investigate the birth mother or birth parents, including going to her/their home, and requiring her/them to attend court hearings, submit to random drug tests, and participate in parenting classes, OVER A PERIOD OF MONTHS OR YEARS. For most birth mothers who want to get out of the hospital at the earliest possible moment, leaving AMA and abandoning the baby will likely have the unintended consequence of jeopardizing the birth mother’s health and having to deal with DCS for a long time. Waiting for an extra, few hours to get the consent to adoption signed properly will likely save lots of aggravation and stress, in addition to being safer.

If you are thinking about giving your baby up for adoption, or more correctly, making an adoption plan for your newborn, we, at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C., will try to accommodate your wishes regarding all aspects of the adoption including the timing of the consent signing.  We will meet you at the hospital, 7 days a week, 365 days a year, including all holidays, if you want to leave the hospital as soon as possible after birth.

We will answer your questions and provide you the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us costs you nothing nor does it mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. We can assist you with an Indiana adoption no matter whether you live in Huntington or Huntingburg, Greencastle or Greenfield, or Merrillville or Michigan City, or any Indiana county or city in between.

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the full extent allowed by law.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime —call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or a Facebook message:  https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone, by a member of our office staff – not an answering service — 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results on Google.

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If I Have An Unplanned Pregnancy, Why Should I Contact Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh? I heard They Represent Prospective Adoptive Parents Looking To Adopt

Yes. Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”), act as the attorneys for prospective adoptive parents hoping to adopt newborns. Additionally, as an ethical matter, Kirsh & Kirsh cannot represent adoptive parents and the birth mother in the same adoption. However, aside from not giving an expectant mother or birth mother “legal advice,” Kirsh & Kirsh will take care of all aspects of the adoption. While Kirsh & Kirsh has one of, if not, the largest adoption programs in the Midwest – Indiana, Tennessee, Mississippi, and Kentucky — the firm is very much a family business.  The 4 Kirsh & Kirsh attorneys are all Kirshes, 2 other members of our staff are Kirshes, and the other members of our team are like family — one of whom has been with Kirsh & Kirsh for 25 years! We make ourselves available 24/7/365 to answer questions and assist with arrangements for the adoption. Our clients will pay for a pregnant woman, considering giving up her newborn baby for adoption or, more correctly, making an adoption plan for her unborn baby, to speak with a counselor and her own attorney.

We, at Kirsh & Kirsh, have assisted numerous pregnant women, in Indiana and around the country, over the last 35+ years find loving, happy, wonderful homes for their babies. We give expectant mothers and birth mothers as much or as little involvement in the family selection process as they would like.

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and happy to assist with living expenses to the full extent allowed by law.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime —call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or Facebook message:  https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

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What Happens When I Contact an Adoption Agency, if I am Pregnant and Thinking about Giving My Baby Up for Adoption?

Although we have attorneys licensed in Indiana, Tennessee, Mississippi, and Kentucky, Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”) does not operate an adoption agency so we cannot tell you what will happen if you contact an adoption agency in Indiana, Tennessee, Mississippi or Kentucky, but we can tell you what will happen if you contact us. We have helped numerous women with adoption plans over the last 35+ years.

If you are pregnant and thinking about giving up your baby for adoption, or more correctly, making an adoption plan for your baby or placing your baby for adoption, we can help you find a wonderful, loving home for your unborn or just-born baby.

VERY IMPORTANTLY, contacting Kirsh & Kirsh does not COST YOU ANYTHING – not money or any obligation to tell us anything. We assume you are contacting us to find out what adoption looks like, not for us to find out about you. Therefore, you can expect us to begin by asking, “What would you like to know?” or “How can we help you”?

We will share information with you in whatever way feels comfortable to you – text, email, telephone, Zoom, in person, whatever you want. We will not insist that we come to your house or get into your personal life.

Many of the expectant mothers and birth mothers who have contacted us know over the years know very little about adoption. Sadly, much of what they think they know is incorrect. Few decisions in a person’s life are bigger or more consequential than Adoption. It makes sense that to make such an important decision, a person would want to gather as much information as possible. That is what the nice, non-judgmental people who work in our adoption program will provide.

To learn more about how we can help you with information about adoption in Indiana, Tennessee, Mississippi or Kentucky, please feel to contact us at Kirsh & Kirsh. We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and happy to assist with living expenses to the full extent allowed by law.

You can call, text and or email us anytime. To contact us—call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or Facebook message:  https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

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What Options Do I Have? I Did Not Plan To Get Pregnant

Most people will tell you that you have 2 options – parent or abort the baby. They neglect to mention at third alternative – give the baby up for adoption or more correctly “make an adoption plan for the baby.” Unless you have already given birth, you don’t have to make a final decision now. Whatever you decide will have lasting consequences for you and the baby.  Take a deep breath and consider your options.

Everyone knows the option of parenting and that is the one most women choose. In fact, not making a decision leaves you with that outcome. But, ask yourself the fundamental question which guides all good parenting choices: “What is in my child’s best interests”? If you believe you have the resources and desire to devote the rest of your life parenting your child, you should choose this option. “The rest of my life”? No, wait – I thought I would finish raising my child when he or she turned 18 years. Wrong – parenting is a lifetime commitment, which gets harder as children get older, because a parent’s ability to influence their decisions diminishes. As a parent you will always have the desire to give your children the benefit of your knowledge and experience. Of course, you need to provide the necessities – food, shelter, care, education, and, of course, LOVE. However, Love alone is not sufficient.

When you honestly consider your current situation, you may conclude you cannot provide your child the life, future, and opportunities you want for your child. That leaves you with two options – abortion or adoption. Some women will not consider abortion as an option and move directly to adoption, but let’s assume for the sake of discussion you would consider aborting the child or, as some would say “fetus” to make it feel less like taking a life, particularly the life of a child. But, you must understand that while abortion ends the pregnancy, it does not change the fact that you were pregnant. Presumably, some women will be able to put the abortion out of their minds and will not associate the abortion with ending an innocent child’s life. A woman who has had an abortion will likely tell you that some degree of guilt will follow you through life.

Another alternative – provide for your child by means of an adoptive placement. The downside includes being pregnant until you give birth, which may last weeks or months more, depending on your due date. Feeling a baby kick from the inside, giving birth, and then leaving the hospital without your baby will likely be the hardest thing you do in your life. It takes a firm belief and faith that adoption gives your child the best opportunity to realize their full potential and the courage to make a decision that most of society, including your some of your closest friends, will never understand. However, a hard decision does not make it a bad decision. If you want your child to have a loving, secure, happy home, and a world of opportunities, making an adoption plan may be your best parenting decision.  While you will grieve, you will also know that you put your child’s needs ahead of your own, have given you child the gift of life and a good home, and have fulfilled the dream of parenthood for someone who probably would never have a child or another child without you or someone like you.

By the way, another alternative that some women choose includes asking family and friends to assume formal or informal foster care/guardianship of the child. If whatever causes you to question your ability to parent is a short term condition and you are not concerned that it will reoccur, foster care would allow you to get from “Point A” to “Point B” in your life.

If you would like to explore adoption and live in Indiana, Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky or any other state, contact us at Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. We have helped numerous women with adoption plans over the last 35+ years. We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes.

We will always treat you will kindness and respect. Of the many expectant mothers with whom we have worked over years, many, if not most, have needed help paying their living expenses while they were pregnant and during their postpartum recovery.

You can call, text and or email us anytime. To contact us—call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or Facebook message:  https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.