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Who Will Care For My Baby In The Hospital, If I Place My Baby For Adoption? I Think It Would Be Too Hard To Care For The Baby In The Hospital, But I Do Not Want My Baby To Be Alone In The Hospital

Many expectant mothers, thinking about giving up their babies for adoption, or more correctly, making an adoption plan for their newborns, have said this to us at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”).  Before directly responding, this concern proves what we, at Kirsh & Kirsh, have said for the 35+ years we have arranged adoptions and know to be true: birth mothers place their babies for adoption because they LOVE their babies. They want their children to have better lives than they, the birth mothers, can provide at that time in their lives. If a birth mother did not love her baby, why would she be concerned about the baby being alone in the hospital?!?

Firstly, hospitals NEVER leave babies alone. Babies are ALWAYS under the watchful eye of the nurses. If a birth parent does not feed, change, and hold the baby, the nursery nurses are more than happy to love, nurture, and care for the baby. Hospital nursery nurses work in nurseries because they love taking care of babies. 

Secondly, there is another, perhaps, better solution – at the birth mother’s request, the hospital will allow the adoptive parents into the hospital to personally care for the baby in the hospital until the baby is ready for discharge. In fact, most hospitals will give the prospective adoptive parents their own room on the mother-baby, post-partum unit until the baby is ready for discharge. A birth mother can have as much or as little contact with that baby as she feels comfortable. In our considerable experience, we know that each birth parent handles adoption on their own terms and in their own way. For some, that means not spending time with their babies in the hospital. For those mothers, they can rest assured that their babies will NOT be alone in the hospital. 

We, at Kirsh & Kirsh, have assisted numerous pregnant women, in Indiana, Tennessee, Mississippi, and Kentucky to find loving, happy, wonderful homes for their babies. We give expectant mothers and birth mothers as much or as little involvement in the family selection process as they would like. 

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and happy to assist with living expenses to the full extent allowed by law.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime —call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or a Facebook message:  https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

Birthmother

I Am About To Give Birth And Thinking About Placing My Baby Up For Adoption But Cannot Leave My Home Because Of The COVID-19 “STAY AT HOME” Orders. What Can I Do?

Many pregnant women, in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, Indiana, and around the country, thinking about giving a baby up for adoption (or more correctly stated — making an adoption plan for your unborn baby) have the same concern. If worrying about how to provide for the life inside of you is not hard enough, you may feel that the stay-at-home orders issued by the Governors of Indiana, Tennessee, Mississippi, and Kentucky makes you wonder, “How much more can I take right now?!” It’s safe to say a lot of people are feeling that way without the added stress of questioning their ability or willingness to parent a child at this time in their lives.

In the first place, being a mother requires making hard decisions, beginning during pregnancy. Good mothers ALWAYS place the needs of their children ahead of their own needs. If adoption provides your child the best chance for a bright future, making an adoption plan epitomizes good mothering.

Also, you know your situation better than anyone else, and, deep down, you probably have a hunch if you are prepared to be the mother your baby needs. If you are prepared to be that mother, then that is wonderful. If you know you are not, or you’re not sure— first we commend your courage to consider your other options—then we are here to answer your questions that may help you make the best decision for your baby and you.

If you would like to explore adoption from your home or even from your hospital bed after you deliver, please contact us at the Adoption Law Firm of Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. We have helped numerous women find loving, secure, happy homes for their precious newborns. We can help you, too.

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes.

You can call, text and or email us anytime. To contact us—call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or Facebook message:  https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

Stay safe and let us know how we can help you!

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Is Counseling For Birth Parents at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”) Different than Adoption Agency Counseling?

Yes! Some adoption agencies REQUIRE expectant mother to meet with a counselor. Whether you live in Indiana, Tennessee, Mississippi, or Kentucky, Kirsh & Kirsh does NOT require counseling, although we strongly recommend that a pregnant woman who is considering giving her baby up for adoption or more correctly,  making an adoption plan or placing her baby up for adoption, speak with a counselor. Few decisions in one’s life will be more consequential. It only makes sense to get as much guidance and insight as possible before making such a significant decision, but there is a big difference between seeing an independent counselor recommended by Kirsh & Kirsh and a social worker employed by an adoption agency. Adoption agencies get paid a placement fee if an adoption takes place. Therefore, a counselor or social worker employed by an adoption agency has an inescapable conflict of interest. While a counselor employed by an adoption agency may subscribe to the highest standards of professional conduct and, probably, most of them do, their employer – the adoption agency — only collects a fee if the birth mother gives her baby up for adoption, or, more correctly, makes an adoption plan or places her baby for adoption.  A birth parent might wonder if an agency employed social worker, mindful of the financial needs of the agency, provided the birth parent unbiased advice based upon the birth parent’s best interests or if the financial needs of the adoption agency influenced the counseling the birth parent received.

Doesn’t Kirsh & KIrsh earn a fee if the adoption takes place? Yes. However, the big difference is that Kirsh & Kirsh does NOT have social workers on staff. Kirsh & Kirsh refers the pregnant women with whom they work to independent counselors. The Kirsh & Kirsh referred counselors get paid whether or not the birth parent proceeds with an adoption. Those counselors do not have a stake in the outcome of birth mother’s decision the way an adoption agency has a stake in her adoption decision.

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If you would like to explore adoption, contact us at Kirsh & Kirsh. We have helped many women with adoption plans over the last 35+ years. We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes.

We will always treat you will care, confidentiality, kindness, and respect. Of the many pregnant women with whom we have worked over years, many, if not most, have needed help paying their living expenses while they were pregnant and during their postpartum recovery, which our prospective adoptive parent clients have gladly provided.

You can call, text and or email us anytime. To contact us—call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or Facebook message:  https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

Birthmother

A Family Approached Me About Letting Them Adopt My Baby – Should I Let Them?

While it may seem like a difficult or overwhelming task at first, the reality is if you are pregnant and thinking about giving up your baby for adoption (or more correctly – making an adoption plan) finding families wanting to adopt a baby is actually quite easy. Someone always knows someone, who knows someone, who wants a baby. Families hoping to adopt may have already approached you or had someone else approach you for them. It may help that your sister or best friend (or aunt, or co-worker, or friend of a friend, etc.) says that they think a particular family would provide a good home for your baby, but are you willing to, quite literally, entrust your child’s life to a person or persons based upon the recommendation of a well-intentioned, but untrained, friend? Do the prospective adoptive parents have health, marital, financial, or criminal problems? A history of substance or physical abuse? Those are not things that people typically disclose to others, particularly if they believe it would reflect on them poorly, and especially if they are wanting to adopt someone’s baby. (These things are, however, disclosed during the home study process.) Sure, you may want to help them, but ask yourself – what is most important to me? Helping a seemingly nice family or being confident you have found a safe, secure, loving home for your unborn baby? Wouldn’t you like to consider a number of already carefully, pre-screened prospective adoptive parents?

Placing a baby for adoption takes incredible courage, thoughtfulness, and most importantly trust that the adoptive parents will provide your child with the best life possible, with opportunities to enjoy life and reach their full potential. That is why you should consider working with a licensed, adoption agency or experienced adoption attorney, who can match you with those carefully screened and homestudy approved families.

We at Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”), have assisted numerous expectant and birth mothers find just the right family for their babies. We have four licensed attorneys in Indiana, one of whom is also licensed in Kentucky, Tennessee, and Mississippi. If you do not live in one of those states we can find an experienced adoption professional to assist you in your state of residence. We will provide you with profiles of lots of wonderful, carefully screened families, and if you would like, we will arrange for you to talk with them by telephone or meet them in person. Or, if you would rather, we will select a family for you. It is entirely your decision. Working with us gives you options for your baby’s future.

You may contact us at Kirsh & Kirsh without cost or obligation on your part. Birth mothers NEVER pay a fee to Kirsh & Kirsh. See what we have to offer before making the most important decision of your life. You can call, text and or email us anytime. We answer our office phone, 317-575-5555, 24/7/365. We also promptly respond to text messages at 317-721-2030 and email at AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

Birthmother

 Can Kirsh & Kirsh help me find a family for my baby?

I am thinking about giving my baby up for adoption. I see that Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C.  (Kirsh & Kirsh), has over 350, 5-Star Google reviews.  Can Kirsh & Kirsh help me find a family for my baby?

Yes. As attorneys, Kirsh & Kirsh provides adoption services, throughout Tennessee, Mississippi, Indiana, and soon Kentucky, to expectant mothers and birthmothers, which includes matching them with prospective adoptive parents. Not only does Kirsh & Kirsh provide legal services for adoptions, they can also match prospective adoptive parents with expectant mothers and birth mothers. The adoptive parents represented by Kirsh & Kirsh are very carefully screened and investigated by independent agencies. Kirsh & Kirsh will provide profiles, which include lots of photographs and descriptions of the families of waiting parents hoping to adopt, to expectant mothers and birth mothers. After reading about a family and looking at their pictures, moms can decide to talk with, or meet, the prospective adoptive parents in person. At Kirsh & Kirsh, we believe that in order to proceed with an adoption plan for their unborn or newly born babies, birth mothers must not only believe that adoption is in their, and their children’s, best interests, they also must LOVE the prospective adoptive parents. Moms need to know that the prospective adoptive parents will provide a loving, safe home, and the brightest of futures for her precious baby.  Kirsh & Kirsh helps facilitate whatever degree of an open adoption is comfortable for the birth mother and prospective adoptive parents. Kirsh & Kirsh also makes sure that the birth mother can speak with her own attorney, at no expense to her, to be sure that she fully understands her rights in an adoption. For more information about making an adoption plan for at baby (giving a baby up for adoption), feel free to contact Kirsh & Kirsh, any time, day or night, via phone at 317-575-5555, text at 317-721-2030, or  email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com.