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DOES KIRSH & KIRSH, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”) HANDLE OPEN ADOPTIONS?

YES! We, at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, help create adoption plans which accommodate the wishes of both the birth parents and prospective adoptive parents. We find that many birth mothers would like to receive written and photographic updates from the adoptive parents letting them know how their children are getting along and simply to satisfy their curiosity about what the children look like In fact, even for those birth parents who do not request updates, Kirsh & Kirsh encourages the adoptive parent to create the updates and put them in safe-keeping in case the birth mother or father later change their minds about receiving the updates. Every birth parent finds peace in their own way. In our experience, seeing photos and receiving written updates about their children reaffirms for the birth parent that they made the right decision in placing the baby up for adoption, or more correctly, making an adoption plan for the baby. Of course, some birth mothers struggle more than others with their decision. Therefore, we, at Kirsh & Kirsh, encourage all expectant mothers and birth mothers to speak with a counselor to help them focus on their reasons and have the tools to deal with their emotions. We will arrange and pay for counseling both before and after the baby is born.

The “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C., are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant – pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. They cannot make adoption an easy choice, but they can make it less scary by removing some of the unknowns. Ultimately, a birth parent will have to decide if adoption is in their own best interests and the best interests of their child. We, at Kirsh & Kirsh, will not and cannot make that decision for anyone, but we can provide information and answers to questions.

Our contact information is below.  We will answer your questions and provide you the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. The Kirsh Boys have 90 YEARS OF COMBINED EXPERIENCE practicing adoption law. We can help you find an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Carmel or Indianapolis, Madison or Bloomington, Evansville or Jasper, or Decatur or Ft. Wayne, New Castle or Richmond, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, or Kentucky.

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families, FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the full extent allowed by law.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime —call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or Facebook message:  https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.

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I NOT PLAN TO GET PREGNANT AND AM NOT READY FOR A BABY, BUT I CANNOT DECIDE IF I SHOULD PLACE THE BABY UP FOR ADOPTION OR HAVE AN ABORTION

A woman with an unintended or unplanned pregnancy has other choices, including, figuring out how to parent the child, finding a family member or friend to help, and arranging temporary foster care, to name a few.

For the purposes of this Blog, let us assume you have explored those options and others, and have concluded you must choose between giving your baby up for adoption or abortion.  How to decide?

Understand that NEITHER CHOICE NOR ANY OF THE OTHER OPTIONS will “undo” the pregnancy and only you can decide what is best for you. By the way, we have intentionally left out consideration of what is best for the unborn child. Let us just focus on what is best for you.

Abortion immediately ends the pregnancy. You will not have to carry the baby to term and feel it kick from the inside or go through the grief associated with leaving the hospital without the baby. On the other hand, you will live the rest of your life knowing that you aborted a child. Some argue that it is not a child – it is a fetus. Perhaps, that is how some come to peace with the decision to abort.

If you chose to put up your baby up for adoption, or more correctly, make an adoption plan for your baby, you will know you put your child’s needs ahead of your own and given a family who cannot conceive a child a “God-like” gift. Although you will grieve the loss of your child, you will know that you have given your child to a family who will devote themselves to seeing that your child grows up happy, with lots of opportunities for fun and adventure, a good education, and bright future.

Neither choice is easy. Neither changes the fact that you are, or were, pregnant. You need to decide which one offers you the greatest peace, not only in the short term but for the rest of your life.

Our contact information is below.  We, at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C., will answer your questions and provide you the information you seek about adoption, without cost or obligation to you. In other words, talking to us costs you nothing nor does it mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. We can assist you with an Indiana adoption no matter whether you live in Greenwood or Indianapolis, Scottsburg or Columbus, Evansville or Sullivan, or Kendallville or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between.

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the full extent allowed by law.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime —call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or a Facebook message:  https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.

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What Options Do I have for an Unplanned Pregnancy?

When most couples learn that they are pregnant, they are overjoyed. If that is not how you felt when you learned you were pregnant or you have an unplanned pregnancy, an untimely pregnancy, or for some, an unwanted pregnancy, you have options besides parenting the child, including,

  1. Giving the baby to a family member to raise,
  2. Safe Haven Abandonment of the child,
  3. Foster care
  4. Abortion, and
  5. Adoption

At Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”), we are most familiar with the option of adoption and since adoption receives little attention as an option for an untimely pregnancy or unplanned pregnancy, this blog entry will provide an overview of adoption.

Adoption creates a permanent, legal relationship between a child and the adoptive parent(s). Foster care, guardianship, or childcare, and the like may continue for a long time but do not make the caregivers the legal parents of the child. Additionally, adoption ends the legal relationship between the child and birth parents.

By giving a baby up for adoption, or more correctly, making an adoption plan for a baby or placing a baby for adoption, through many adoption agencies and Kirsh & Kirsh, expectant mothers have the option of selecting the adoptive parents for their babies from profiles of carefully screened, thoroughly investigated prospective adoptive parents. Kirsh & Kirsh has the VERY HIGH STANDARDS for the prospective adoptive parents they will accept as clients for adoptive placements.

Adoption gives the baby the gift of a loving, secured, prepared home, the new family the gift of a baby, and the birth mother or birth parents the gift of peace of mind that their precious child will receive a loving home and lifetime of opportunities.

We, at Kirsh & Kirsh, have assisted numerous pregnant women, in Indiana, Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, and around the country, over the last 35+ years find loving, happy, wonderful homes for their babies. We give expectant mothers and birth mothers as much or as little involvement in the family selection process as they would like.

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and happy to assist with living expenses to the full extent allowed by law.

You can call, text and or email us anytime. To contact us—call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or Facebook message:  https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

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I Prefer Not To Talk By Telephone And Am Not Ready To Meet. How Can I Get Adoption Information From Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”)?

If you live in Indiana, Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, or any other state and are pregnant and thinking about giving your baby up for adoption, or more correctly, making an adoption plan or placing your baby for adoption, we, at Kirsh & Kirsh, understand you already face immense stress. Unfortunately, we cannot make your decision easy. However, we have considerable experience handling adoption over the last 35+ years, involving numerous adoptions and can make it easier by providing you the information you want in whatever way you would find comfortable. If you don’t like talking on the phone or just are not ready to take that big of a step, we would be happy to “talk” with via text, email, or website chat. You can reach via text at 317-721-2030, email at AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or go to our website, www.LovingAdoptions.com, click on “I’M PREGNANT” and chat box will appear, where you chat with a member of our team.

We will always treat you will care, confidentiality, kindness, and respect. Of the many pregnant women with whom we have worked over years, many, if not most, have needed help paying their living expenses while they were pregnant and during their postpartum recovery, which our prospective adoptive parent clients have gladly provided.

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes.

By the way, under the laws of  Indiana, Tennessee, Mississippi, or Kentucky, a birth mother cannot make a final, binding decision about adoption until after the baby’s birth and then not until she signs a formal consent to adoption in accordance with the applicable Adoption Statutes. Therefore, in no way does communicating – even meeting us in person – obligate a pregnant woman to proceed with an adoption.

We follow your lead in terms of the pace with which we proceed. We will never pressure you. In addition to texting, emailing, and chatting with us, you can call: 317-575-5555 or connect with us through Facebook message: https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to chat, email, and text messages within minutes of receipt.

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If I Am Placing My Baby For Adoption Do I Have To Speak With A Counselor?

Some adoption agencies and states require adoption counseling for pregnant women considering placing their baby for adoption. We, at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”), do not require that the pregnant women, who have contacted us to help them find an adoptive family for their babies, participate in counseling. We offer counseling and, in fact, recommend counseling, but we do not require it. It can be overwhelming for a woman with an unplanned pregnancy to force her into counseling if she does not want to have any. Therefore Kirsh & Kirsh does not require it, whether you live in Indiana, Tennessee, Mississippi, or Kentucky.

Does Kirsh & Kirsh recommend counseling and make it available? Yes, of course! Over the last 35+ years of handling adoptions, involving numerous birth parents, we have found that those birth parents who make a parenting or adoption plan based on good reasons come to peace with their decision more easily than those who make a decision based solely upon emotions. Making a well-reasoned decision allows a mom to validate her decision by reviewing her reasons and knowing that while she may have second thoughts, her reasons are still valid, and, therefore, she made the right decision. A woman who lets her heart rather than her head guide her decision will have nothing to fall back on when her emotions fade, as emotions usually do.

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If you like to know more about adoption options, contact us at Kirsh & Kirsh. We have helped numerous women with adoption plans over the last 35+ years. We have many loving families (single, gay, Lesbian, and married couples) carefully screened, who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes.

We will always treat your situation with care, confidentiality, kindness, and respect. Of the many pregnant women with whom we have worked over years, many, if not most, have needed help paying their living expenses while they were pregnant and during their postpartum recovery, which our prospective adoptive parent clients have gladly provided.

You can call, text and or email us anytime. To contact us—call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or Facebook message:  https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

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What Options Do I Have? I Did Not Plan To Get Pregnant

Most people will tell you that you have 2 options – parent or abort the baby. They neglect to mention at third alternative – give the baby up for adoption or more correctly “make an adoption plan for the baby.” Unless you have already given birth, you don’t have to make a final decision now. Whatever you decide will have lasting consequences for you and the baby.  Take a deep breath and consider your options.

Everyone knows the option of parenting and that is the one most women choose. In fact, not making a decision leaves you with that outcome. But, ask yourself the fundamental question which guides all good parenting choices: “What is in my child’s best interests”? If you believe you have the resources and desire to devote the rest of your life parenting your child, you should choose this option. “The rest of my life”? No, wait – I thought I would finish raising my child when he or she turned 18 years. Wrong – parenting is a lifetime commitment, which gets harder as children get older, because a parent’s ability to influence their decisions diminishes. As a parent you will always have the desire to give your children the benefit of your knowledge and experience. Of course, you need to provide the necessities – food, shelter, care, education, and, of course, LOVE. However, Love alone is not sufficient.

When you honestly consider your current situation, you may conclude you cannot provide your child the life, future, and opportunities you want for your child. That leaves you with two options – abortion or adoption. Some women will not consider abortion as an option and move directly to adoption, but let’s assume for the sake of discussion you would consider aborting the child or, as some would say “fetus” to make it feel less like taking a life, particularly the life of a child. But, you must understand that while abortion ends the pregnancy, it does not change the fact that you were pregnant. Presumably, some women will be able to put the abortion out of their minds and will not associate the abortion with ending an innocent child’s life. A woman who has had an abortion will likely tell you that some degree of guilt will follow you through life.

Another alternative – provide for your child by means of an adoptive placement. The downside includes being pregnant until you give birth, which may last weeks or months more, depending on your due date. Feeling a baby kick from the inside, giving birth, and then leaving the hospital without your baby will likely be the hardest thing you do in your life. It takes a firm belief and faith that adoption gives your child the best opportunity to realize their full potential and the courage to make a decision that most of society, including your some of your closest friends, will never understand. However, a hard decision does not make it a bad decision. If you want your child to have a loving, secure, happy home, and a world of opportunities, making an adoption plan may be your best parenting decision.  While you will grieve, you will also know that you put your child’s needs ahead of your own, have given you child the gift of life and a good home, and have fulfilled the dream of parenthood for someone who probably would never have a child or another child without you or someone like you.

By the way, another alternative that some women choose includes asking family and friends to assume formal or informal foster care/guardianship of the child. If whatever causes you to question your ability to parent is a short term condition and you are not concerned that it will reoccur, foster care would allow you to get from “Point A” to “Point B” in your life.

If you would like to explore adoption and live in Indiana, Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky or any other state, contact us at Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. We have helped numerous women with adoption plans over the last 35+ years. We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes.

We will always treat you will kindness and respect. Of the many expectant mothers with whom we have worked over years, many, if not most, have needed help paying their living expenses while they were pregnant and during their postpartum recovery.

You can call, text and or email us anytime. To contact us—call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or Facebook message:  https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

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I Don’t Want To Talk With Anyone About Creating An Adoption Plan But Would Like A Brief Overview

We, at Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”), an adoption law firm with attorneys licensed in Indiana, Tennessee, Mississippi, and Kentucky, have arranged numerous successful adoptions, over the last 35+ years. We help expectant mothers find adoptive parents for their babies and prospective adoptive parents match with birth mothers, thinking about giving up a baby for adoption (making an adoption plan). We can assist whether you are pregnant or have already given birth.

Independent agencies thoroughly investigate the families we choose to represent as prospective adoptive parents. All have extensive criminal, child abuse, sexual offender, and FBI fingerprint checks.

As a birth parent, you can have as much or as little involvement as you would like in the selection of the family. You can read about them and look at their photos, talk with them by telephone, or meet them in person before making your decision. Any of our clients whom you choose as adoptive parents will provide your child a loving, happy, and secure home and afford your child a good education and the opportunity for a bright future.

Even if you were certain about adoption, you cannot make a final decision until after the baby is born. In other words, talking and interacting with us does not obligate you proceed with an adoption.

We understand that not every expectant mother or birth mother is ready to talk by telephone or meet in person. We will communicate with you however you would like, in confidential, private way.

To obtain more information, you can call, text and or email us anytime — call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or Facebook message: https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

 

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A Family Approached Me About Letting Them Adopt My Baby – Should I Let Them?

While it may seem like a difficult or overwhelming task at first, the reality is if you are pregnant and thinking about giving up your baby for adoption (or more correctly – making an adoption plan) finding families wanting to adopt a baby is actually quite easy. Someone always knows someone, who knows someone, who wants a baby. Families hoping to adopt may have already approached you or had someone else approach you for them. It may help that your sister or best friend (or aunt, or co-worker, or friend of a friend, etc.) says that they think a particular family would provide a good home for your baby, but are you willing to, quite literally, entrust your child’s life to a person or persons based upon the recommendation of a well-intentioned, but untrained, friend? Do the prospective adoptive parents have health, marital, financial, or criminal problems? A history of substance or physical abuse? Those are not things that people typically disclose to others, particularly if they believe it would reflect on them poorly, and especially if they are wanting to adopt someone’s baby. (These things are, however, disclosed during the home study process.) Sure, you may want to help them, but ask yourself – what is most important to me? Helping a seemingly nice family or being confident you have found a safe, secure, loving home for your unborn baby? Wouldn’t you like to consider a number of already carefully, pre-screened prospective adoptive parents?

Placing a baby for adoption takes incredible courage, thoughtfulness, and most importantly trust that the adoptive parents will provide your child with the best life possible, with opportunities to enjoy life and reach their full potential. That is why you should consider working with a licensed, adoption agency or experienced adoption attorney, who can match you with those carefully screened and homestudy approved families.

We at Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”), have assisted numerous expectant and birth mothers find just the right family for their babies. We have four licensed attorneys in Indiana, one of whom is also licensed in Kentucky, Tennessee, and Mississippi. If you do not live in one of those states we can find an experienced adoption professional to assist you in your state of residence. We will provide you with profiles of lots of wonderful, carefully screened families, and if you would like, we will arrange for you to talk with them by telephone or meet them in person. Or, if you would rather, we will select a family for you. It is entirely your decision. Working with us gives you options for your baby’s future.

You may contact us at Kirsh & Kirsh without cost or obligation on your part. Birth mothers NEVER pay a fee to Kirsh & Kirsh. See what we have to offer before making the most important decision of your life. You can call, text and or email us anytime. We answer our office phone, 317-575-5555, 24/7/365. We also promptly respond to text messages at 317-721-2030 and email at AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

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Time For Every Season

“There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven . . . .”

For years at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”), we have told our prospective adoptive parent clients to have faith that when “their” baby comes along, the baby will find his or her way into their hearts and homes. Likewise, we have assured birth mothers that when the “right” family comes along, the birth mother will just know.

Recently, at Kirsh & Kirsh, an adoptive mom came to visit with her beautiful and joyful 3-year-old daughter, who found her way into their family’s hearts and homes by what can only be described as divine intervention. About 3 years ago, a hospital social worker contacted us (we love hospital social workers!) and asked if we could find a family for a newborn, Chinese girl, with Down Syndrome and other medical complications.

Through our national networking efforts, we found the perfect family for our baby – wonderful family who had had previously adopted a Chinese, baby girl with Down Syndrome and other medical complications. Their previously adopted daughter thrived with the love and attention of the adoptive family. Furthermore, the prospective adoptive parents embraced the then current birth mother’s desire for openness in the adoption. After reading the family’s profile, the birth parents talked with the prospective adoptive parents by telephone and then met them in person.

As difficult as the decision was for them, the birth parents LOVED the adoptive parents and knew that the adoptive parents could provide the life, future, and opportunities they desperately want for their daughter. The birth mother and father both had full time jobs, and the birth mother also attended college full time. They loved their newly born daughter dearly, and as much as their hearts were telling them otherwise, they knew that they simply did not have the resources to provide for her in the way she would need. They wanted more for her than they could give, and in the most selfless act of love, put her needs before their own. The adoptive mom, her husband, and other children adore the newest edition to their family and could not appreciate more the loving sacrifice the birth mother and father made for their daughter and them.

We, Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C., have handled more than 3500 successful adoptions over the last 35+ years. You can call, text and or email us anytime. We answer our office phone, 317-575-5555, 24/7/365. We also promptly respond to text messages at 317-721-2030 and email at AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.