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I HAVE AN ACCIDENTAL PREGNANCY AND DON’T KNOW WHAT TO DO

If we could remove our emotions from decision-making and instead base our decisions on objective facts, most of us would make wiser decisions. As time goes on, emotions fade, but facts remain. Thus, if you could take your emotions out of your decision-making, you will likely come to a better conclusion. Of course, the problem is how do you remove emotions from such a personal decision. Try this – Imagine that a close friend of yours came to you with the same issue. What advice would you give your friend? Pregnancies come to an end in one of three ways — the birth of the baby, abortion, or miscarriage. Since miscarriages are not controllable, the options for your friend include giving birth and abortion. Abortion ends the pregnancy but not the fact that your friend was pregnant. While many women have determined that it was their right to make the decision to abort the pregnancy and have learned to live with it, is hard to imagine that any woman who aborted a child was proud of her decision. You need to ask your friend to think about how she will feel about having had an abortion in the years to come, as the abortion will always be a part of her personal story, even if nobody else knows she had an abortion. 

Giving birth does not necessarily mean parenting the child. Parenting is a lifetime, monumental commitment – not an 18-year obligation. Parents never stop parenting their children. If your friend is not ready to assume that commitment, she may want to consider giving the baby up for adoption or more correctly, making an adoption plan for the child. 

For more information about adoption, contact Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”) — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant, pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. Another option would be to contact a local adoption agency or national adoption agency.

The four adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh have over 100 years of combined legal experience arranging adoptions.  Kirsh & Kirsh has been in existence since 1981. As attorneys, we at Kirsh & Kirsh, have very high standards for the prospective adoptive parents we choose to represent. All of our waiting families are carefully screened and thoroughly investigated. We will arrange for you to have contact with the family you choose on your terms, without families trying to reach you at all hours of the day or night. 

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Terre Haute or Indianapolis, Columbus or Bloomington, Huntingburg or Evansville, Gary or South Bend, Michigan City or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, Michigan, or Illinois.

There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of family options from which you can choose, all of whom are wonderful, carefully screened, loving families FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices about which family adopts your baby and the extent of contact you want after the child’s birth.

You can call, text, and/or email us anytime – call/text: 800-333-5736, contact us, or Facebook message. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.

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WHAT IS THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN AN OPEN ADOPTION AND CLOSED ADOPTION?

Closed adoption, sometimes referred to as a confidential adoption, and open adoption describe the extent to which adoptive parents and birth parents (typically birth mothers) share information both before and after the birth of the child. But, these words do not have universal meanings. Open adoption means different things to different people. For example, some would say that if an adoption does not involve post-placement visitation between the birth mother and child, the adoption is closed. Others believe that the exchange of ANY information before placement or providing written and/or photographic updates after placement makes an adoption open. Accordingly, a pregnant woman or woman who has already given birth and considering putting up their baby for adoption, or more correctly, making an adoption plan for their baby, should ask the adoption agency or adoption attorney whom they have chosen what those words mean in that adoption program. 

In nearly all of the adoptions Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, PC (“Kirsh & Kirsh”) arranges, the adoptive parents and expectant mother share lots of information about each other before the birth parents sign consent to the adoption. Additionally, the adoptive parents send letters and photographs to the birth mother and birth father, if he is involved, after placement. In some adoptions, the birth mother and adoptive parents desire a more open adoption involving post-placement visits between the birth parents and the child. Of course, the degree of openness depends upon the wishes and comfort level of BOTH the birth parents and the adoptive parents. In our years of experience, we have found that some birth mothers want a very closed or confidential adoption, and others prefer a more open arrangement. For that reason, we at Kirsh & Kirsh tailor each adoption to the wants and needs of the birth parents and adoptive parents. We do NOT advocate a ONE SIZE FITS ALL approach when we handle adoptions, nor do we have to consult with a board of directors, as an adoption agency might, if the parties want to try something unique. 

If you would like to explore adoption, we, at Kirsh & Kirsh — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant, pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. 

The four adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh have over 100 years of combined legal experience arranging adoptions.  Kirsh & Kirsh has been in existence since 1981. As attorneys, we at Kirsh & Kirsh, have very high standards for the prospective adoptive parents we choose to represent. All of our waiting families are carefully screened and thoroughly investigated. We will arrange for you to have contact with the family you choose on your terms, without families trying to reach you at all hours of the day or night. 

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Westfield or Indianapolis, North Vernon or Bloomington, Jasper or Evansville, LaPorte or South Bend, Auburn or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, Michigan, or Illinois.

There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of family options from which you can choose, all of whom are wonderful, carefully screened, loving families, FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices about which family adopts your baby and the extent of contacts you want after the child’s birth.

You can call, text and or email us anytime – call/text: 800-333-5736, contact us, or Facebook message. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption.”  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby,” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.

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CAN I SPEND TIME WITH THE BABY IN THE HOSPITAL/DO I HAVE TO SEE THE BABY AT THE HOSPITAL IF I GIVE THE BABY UP FOR ADOPTION?

A birth mother has the sole right to decide how much, if any, time she spends with her baby in the hospital if she gives the baby up for adoption or, more correctly, makes an adoption plan for the baby. Neither under Indiana law nor the law of any other state can a woman sign a binding consent to adoption BEFORE she gives birth. Before signing a consent to adoption, the birth mother has total CONTROL, in the hospital, over how much time, if any, she chooses to spend with her baby. If an adoption agency or adoption attorney tells her otherwise, she needs to look for another adoption attorney or adoption agency to help her facilitate her adoption plan. We, at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”) respect a woman’s right to spend all of the time she wants with her baby in the hospital BOTH BEFORE AND AFTER she signs her consent to adoption. The adoptive parents represented by Kirsh & Kirsh understand that all women have different ways of saying goodbye to their babies. While nothing they do will make the goodbye EASY, they know that making her feel guilty about wanting to spend time with her baby or rushing a birth mother will make the process MORE DIFFICULT.

If you would like to explore adoption, we at Kirsh & Kirsh — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – Steve and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant, have 90 years of combined legal experience arranging adoptions and pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. 

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide the information you seek without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us again. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Mooresville or Indianapolis, Scottsburg or Clarksville, Evansville or Huntingburg, South Bend or Elkhart, Warsaw or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, Michigan, or Illinois.

There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of family options from which you can choose, all of whom are wonderful, carefully screened, loving families FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices about which family adopts your baby and the extent of contact you want after the child’s birth.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime – call/text: 800-333-5736, contact us, or Facebook message. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption.”  If we do not include those words in our blog posts and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby,” then our website will not show up in most expectant moms’ search results in Google.