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Adoption Process Birthmother

HOW DO I FIND A FAMILY IF I DECIDE TO PUT MY BABY UP FOR ADOPTION?

In reality, finding a family is quite easy. Once you tell a few of your acquaintances or friends that you are considering giving your baby up for adoption or, more correctly, making an adoption plan for your baby, you will receive more inquiries than you would like from prospective adoptive parents. They will come out of the woodwork asking you if you will give them your baby. Aside from the obvious hassle of having to deal with lots of such families, that approach does not assure you of the BEST family for your baby or even a family who has the basic qualifications to adopt, such as a normal life expectancy, financial security, lack of criminal convictions, no drug problems, and the like. 

If you would like to make the process easier and assure yourself of finding not just any family to adopt but a really good family, consider contacting reputable, experienced adoption professionals such as Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”), a national adoption agency, or a local adoption agency. 

The four adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh have over 100 years of combined legal experience arranging adoptions.  Kirsh & Kirsh has been in existence since 1981. As attorneys, we at Kirsh & Kirsh have very high standards for the prospective adoptive parents we choose to represent. In most situations, we can provide you with as many profiles of prospective adoptive parents as you would like to receive. All of our waiting families are carefully screened and thoroughly investigated. We will arrange for you to have contact with the family you choose on your terms, without families trying to reach you at all hours of the day or night. 

If you would like to explore adoption, we at Kirsh & Kirsh — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – Steve and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. 

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide the information you seek without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us again. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Fishers or Indianapolis, Columbus or Bloomington, Evansville or Newburgh, Gary or South Bend, Lafayette or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, Michigan, or Illinois.

There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of family options from which you can choose, all of whom are wonderful, carefully screened, loving families FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices about which family adopts your baby and the extent of contact you want after the child’s birth.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime – call/text: 800-333-5736, contact us, or Facebook message. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption.”  If we do not include those words in our blog posts and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby,” then our website will not show up in most expectant moms’ search results in Google.

Birthmother

CAN I KEEP IT A SECRET, IF I ADOPT OUT MY BABY?

Whether you live in Indiana or outside of Indiana, if you work with us, at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”), in all likelihood, we would file the adoption in Indiana. Indiana Adoption Laws make adoption court records STRICTLY CONFIDENTIAL. Additionally, Indiana Adoption Laws do not require you to involve anyone in the adoption whom you do not want to involve. That includes the unwed father of the child. If you are married, you may still not have to involve your husband, if he is not the biological father of the child.

We, at Kirsh & Kirsh — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant, pride ourselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment.

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide you with the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. The Kirsh Boys have 90 YEARS OF COMBINED EXPERIENCE practicing adoption law. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Pendleton or Indianapolis, Bloomington or North Vernon, Evansville or Madison, or South Bend or Shipshewana, Muncie or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, or Michigan.

There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of family options from which you can choose, all of whom are wonderful, carefully screened, loving families, FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime -call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or Facebook message: https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.

Adoption Process Birthmother

MY FRIEND SAID THAT PLACING MY BABY UP FOR ADOPTION IS THE LIKE GIVING THE BABY AWAY

“Giving away” suggests that you are discarding, of getting rid of, your baby, as you might with an old pair of sneakers. A birth mother who has the courage, strength, and fortitude to entrust the life of her precious child to another set of parents is NOT one who has GIVEN AWAY her child. She has put her child’s needs to have a loving, secure, home, with a lifetime of opportunities ahead of her own breaking heart. Several years ago, a birth mother said to us, at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”): “I have ALL THE LOVE IN THE WORLD for my baby, but LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH. I know that given where I am in my life, I will not have the time to give my child the attention that it needs.” At the time, the woman was a full-time nursing student. After placing up her baby for adoption, or more correctly, making an adoption plan for her baby, she completed her nursing degree.

If your friend thinks assuring your child will grow up in a happy, loving home with devoted parents who have the resources and time to attend to your child’s wants and needs is “giving away” the baby, your friend needs to rethink their choice of words, or you need to rethink how much weight you give to your friend’s words.

We, at Kirsh & Kirsh — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant, pride ourselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. We cannot make adoption an easy choice, but we can make it less scary by removing some of the unknowns. Ultimately, a birth parent will have to decide if adoption is in their own best interests and the best interests of their child. We, at Kirsh & Kirsh, will not and cannot make that decision for anyone, but we can provide information and answers to questions – that way, you can make a well-informed decision.

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide you with the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. The Kirsh Boys have 90 YEARS OF COMBINED EXPERIENCE practicing adoption law. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Lebanon or Indianapolis, Edinburgh or Columbus, Evansville or Sellersburg, or South Bend or Warsaw, Marion or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, or Michigan.

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families, FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime -call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or Facebook message: https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant moms’ search results in Google.

Birthmother

I DON’T KNOW IF I CAN PUT UP MY BABY FOR ADOPTION

Very few women who think about giving up their babies for adoption, or more correctly, making adoption plans for their babies actually proceed to make adoption plans for their newborns. For a birth parent to place a baby in an adoptive home, the birth parent must believe and have faith that the adoptive parents can and will provide the child with a loving, secure, and happy home, with a lifetime of opportunities – beyond what they, the birth parents realistically believe they can provide the child. We, at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”), have met with a great number of expectant mothers and birth mothers over the last 35+ years of our firm’s existence. Many more women decide to parent their babies (as is ABSOLUTELY their right) than proceed with adoptions. Interestingly, the ones who make adoption plans are probably the opposite of who most people would think are the likely candidates. The older, more mature, better educated, stable, forward-thinking a woman, the MORE likely she will place her baby for adoption. Those women tend to have a more realistic idea of the time and commitment of parenthood. We, at Kirsh & Kirsh, are very selective about the prospective adoptive parents we accept as clients. All are thoroughly investigated by independent adoption agencies.

We, at Kirsh & Kirsh — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant, pride ourselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. We cannot make adoption an easy choice, but we can make it less scary by removing some of the unknowns. Ultimately, a birth parent will have to decide if adoption is in their own best interests and the best interests of their child. We, at Kirsh & Kirsh, will not and cannot make that decision for anyone, but we can provide information and answers to questions – that way, you can make a well-informed decision.

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide you with the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. The Kirsh Boys have 90 YEARS OF COMBINED EXPERIENCE practicing adoption law. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Noblesville or Indianapolis, Bloomington or Columbus, Evansville or New Albany, or South Bend or Rochester, Auburn or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, or Michigan.

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families, FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime -call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or Facebook message: https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant moms’ search results in Google.

Birthmother

WILL I EVER SEE THE CHILD AGAIN, IF I GIVE MY BABY UP FOR ADOPTION?

Yes, probably, but no one can give a guaranteed “Yes” to that question. However, at Adoption Attorneys, Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”), over the last nearly 40 years of handing adoptions in Indiana and beyond, almost never does an adult adoptee tell us that he or she would not welcome meeting their birth parents. On the other hand, with all due respect, the answer to that question should not dictate whether a birth mother or birth father will put up their child for adoption or, more correctly, make an adoption plan for the child. The birth parents’ life situations either make adoption a high probability way of assuring that their child will have a world of opportunities and a bright future, or they do not.

We, at Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant, pride ourselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. We cannot make adoption an easy choice, but we can make it less scary by removing some of the unknowns. Ultimately, a birth parent will have to decide if adoption is in their own best interests and the best interests of their child. We, at Kirsh & Kirsh, will not and cannot make that decision for anyone, but we can provide information and answers to questions – that way, you can make a well-informed decision.

Our contact information is below.  We will answer your questions and provide you with the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. The Kirsh Boys have 90 YEARS OF COMBINED EXPERIENCE practicing adoption law. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Arcadia or Indianapolis, Jasper or Columbus, Evansville or Huntingburg, or South Bend or Gary, Huntington or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, or Kentucky.

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families, FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime -call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or Facebook message: https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.

Adoption Process Birthmother

DO I HAVE TO STAY WITH THE ADOPTION AGENCY I CONTACTED WHEN I FIRST THOUGHT ABOUT PUTTING MY NEWBORN UP FOR ADOPTION?

No, you don’t. At times, a birth mother will contact a national adoption agency or local adoption agency because the adoption agency has an eye-catching website, or a friend used that agency, or because the agency has told the birth mother not to work with an adoption attorney, probably because of competitive jealousy. Sometimes, a birth mother will find that the adoption agency is too rigid in their requirements of her, that social workers or adoption agency counselors pry too much into her business, or the agency does not have adoptive parents whom the birth mother LOVES or with whom she could imagine placing her baby for adoption. The decision to put up a baby for adoption, or more correctly, make an adoption plan for a baby is too big a decision not to completely trust, or feel comfortable with, the adoption facilitator, whether an adoption attorney or adoption agency. We, at adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”) are happy to meet with any woman thinking about adoption, without cost or obligation on her part, to give her the chance to see if she feels comfortable with us and our way of accommodating birth mother’s wishes. In other words, if a woman contacts or even meets with us, she never has to talk with us again.

We, at Kirsh & Kirsh, or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh, are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant – pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. They cannot make adoption an easy choice, but they can make it less scary by removing some of the unknowns. Ultimately, a birth parent will have to decide if adoption is in their own best interests and the best interests of their child. We, at Kirsh & Kirsh, will not and cannot make that decision for anyone, but we can provide information and answers to questions.

Our contact information is below.  We will answer your questions and provide you with the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. The Kirsh Boys have 90 YEARS OF COMBINED EXPERIENCE practicing adoption law. We can help you find an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in McCordsville or Indianapolis, Bloomington or Terre Haute, Evansville or New Albany, or Angola or Ft. Wayne, Richmond or South Bend, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, or Kentucky.

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families, FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the full extent allowed by law.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime –call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or Facebook message: https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant moms’ search results in Google.

Birthmother

IF I PUT UP MY BABY FOR ADOPTION, WILL MY CHILD HATE ME?

Honestly, we, at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”) don’t know. Sometimes children hate their parents for all kinds of “reasons,” both imagined and real. Much of how an adoptee feels about adoption depends on what the adoptive parents say to the adoptee about adoption. An adopted person who grows up in a supportive, loving home, whose adoptive parents recognize and honor the sacrificial love of the birth mother in making an adoption plan will likely NOT have bad feelings about his or her birth parents. However, some children raised by their biological parents hate their parents. Our feelings about our parents largely depend on the love and affection of the parents and the life our parents have provided us.

We, at Kirsh & Kirsh, require that the adoptive parents whom we represent complete a homestudy by an independent, adoption agency. As part of the homestudy process, any reputable national adoption agency or local adoption agency will mandate adoption education as part of the homestudy process, including how birth parents LOVE their children, and, because of that love, they make the hardest decision imaginable by proceeding with an adoption.  Additionally, the adoptive parents represented by Kirsh & Kirsh desperately want to adopt. In our experience, adoptive parents have faced too many hurdles in having children to ever take their children for granted and are fully committed to being the best parents they can possibly be and providing their children a world of opportunities that will allow their child to reach his or her full potential in a loving, supportive, happy home.

At Kirsh & Kirsh – or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant, pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. They cannot make adoption an easy choice, but they can make it less scary by removing some of the unknowns. Ultimately, a birth parent will have to decide if adoption is in their own best interests and the best interests of their child. We, at Kirsh & Kirsh, will not and cannot make that decision for anyone, but we can provide information and answers to questions – that way, you can make a well-informed decision.

Our contact information is below.  We will answer your questions and provide you the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. The Kirsh Boys have 90 YEARS OF COMBINED EXPERIENCE practicing adoption law. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Kokomo or Indianapolis, Greensburg or Columbus, Evansville or Madison, or South Bend or Warsaw, Angola or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi or Kentucky.

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families, FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime -call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or Facebook message: https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.

Birthmother

I JUST FOUND OUT THAT MY TEENAGED DAUGHTER IS PREGNANT. SHE IS NOT READY TO BE A MOTHER. WHAT SHOULD I DO?

As the father of 3 boys and having been married for more than 45 years, I often recall what my father’s words: “Steve, don’t worry; it is just the first 20 years that are the hardest.”  I remember him telling me that when my boys were toddlers and going through the terrible twos.  As a parent of children who are now between the ages of 38 and 43, I realized that although my dad was trying to be funny, the first twenty years are really not the hardest.  As children get older, they face bigger problems.  As newborns, our biggest challenge was getting up in the middle of the night to change a dirty diaper, feed a hungry baby, or comfort a crying child.  “Monster Repellant Spray” (a.k.a. Lysol) worked wonders keeping the night monsters at bay when the boys were little, and it was bedtime. As they got older, their problems grew in complexity.  Even as a father of a forty-three old son, I still find myself giving lots of (often unsolicited) advice.

So what does this have to do with parenting a pregnant, teenage daughter?  The point is that parenting does not mean that you have to submit to your child’s wishes.  Parenting means that you assume responsibility and guide your children to the decision that is best for them.

Therefore, my advice to a parent of a teenage daughter, who is pregnant, is don’t stop being a parent because they happen to be pregnant.  With teenagers, you often have to convince them that it was their idea to take action, and, sometimes, a subtle approach is better than a more direct one. But if your first attempt at convincing them does not work, you must continue to try.

A pregnant teen faces the most difficult decision of her life and cannot possibly comprehend the commitment it takes to parent a child. And even though they may think they know everything as a teenager, they don’t.  That is where parenting comes in.

There is a balance because Indiana law does not allow a person to give a coerced consent to adoption.  And, in fact, a consent to adoption that is coerced would not be valid.  However, as a parent, you have the responsibility to guide and protect your child even if your child does not agree. Parenting is not about consensus building or winning popularity contests. Parenting is about raising your child to help them achieve their full potential.

The “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh, are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant – pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. They cannot make adoption an easy choice, but they can make it less scary by removing some of the unknowns. Ultimately, a birth parent will have to decide if adoption is in their own best interests and the best interests of their child. We, at Kirsh & Kirsh, will not and cannot make that decision for anyone, but we can provide information and answers to questions.

Our contact information is below.  We will answer your questions and provide you the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. The Kirsh Boys have 90 YEARS OF COMBINED EXPERIENCE practicing adoption law. We can help you find an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Noblesville or Indianapolis, Columbus or Bloomington, Evansville or Vincennes, or Winamac or Ft. Wayne, Richmond or West Lafayette, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, or Kentucky.

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families, FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the full extent allowed by law.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime -call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or Facebook message: https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.

 

Birthmother

CAN I RECEIVE HELP WITH MY EXPENSES IF I GIVE UP A BABY FOR ADOPTION?

Many states, including Indiana, allow adoptive parents to assist with expectant and birth mother living expenses to make her life easier but not act as an inducement for a birth parent to put up a baby for adoption or, more correctly, make an adoption plan for a baby. Living expenses include such things as housing, utilities, phone service, maternity clothing, travel, and other miscellaneous expenses related to the second and third trimester of the pregnancy and for up to 6 weeks following the birth of the baby, IN ADDITION TO medical, counseling, and legal fees.

We, at Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”), have expectant and birth mothers complete a simple, one-page worksheet to verify their monthly expenses and then send the moms a check each month based upon their needs and the statutorily allowable expenses.

We DO NOT require expectant and birth mothers to sign a promissory note or contract, requiring the moms to repay living expenses in the event they decide not to proceed with an adoption. Furthermore, so long as a woman intends, in good faith, to proceed with an adoption, Indiana Law does not impose criminal penalties for accepting living expenses and not placing the baby for adoption.

The “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh, are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant – pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. They cannot make adoption an easy choice, but they can make it less scary by removing some of the unknowns. Ultimately, a birth parent will have to decide if adoption is in their own best interests and the best interests of their child. We, at Kirsh & Kirsh, will not and cannot make that decision for anyone, but we can provide information and answers to questions.

Our contact information is below.  We will answer your questions and provide you the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. The Kirsh Boys have 90 YEARS OF COMBINED EXPERIENCE practicing adoption law. We can help you find an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Plainfield or Indianapolis, Columbus or Madison, Evansville or New Albany, or Auburn or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, or Kentucky.

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families, FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the full extent allowed by law.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime —call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or Facebook message:  https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.

Birthmother

I AM REALLY UNCERTAIN ABOUT PUTTING MY BABY UP FOR ADOPTION. WHAT CAN I DO?

As the expression goes, “Information is Power.” GET MORE INFORMATION about adoption from a compassionate, kind, experienced, adoption professional. In our 90 years of combined, legal, experience arranging adoptions, we, at Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”) have identified the two most common reasons that make expectant mothers uncertain about giving a baby up for adoption, or more correctly, making an adoption plan for their children: Firstly, the obvious reason – adoption is an IMPOSSIBLY DIFFICULT DECISION and, secondly, they don’t have enough information, or worse, have the wrong information. Getting correct information WITHOUT FEELING PRESSURED, will NOT make adoption an easy decision, but it will enable you to decide based on fact, not fiction. Here is an example. Let’s say you needed to get a COVID vaccination, but a well-meaning, BUT UNINFORMED, close friend told you that after the nurse gave you the shot, she would cut off your arm. As much as you might have thought getting the vaccine was a good idea, you would probably not get the shot, if it meant having your arm amputated. There may be valid reasons not to get a COVID vaccination, but fear that you will have your arm cut off is not one of them. Likewise, many birth mothers have very good reasons, not to give up a baby for adoption, but not everything well-meaning friends have told you might be true. Even if you are really uncertain about adoption, contact an adoption professional to get correct information about the process. We, at Kirsh & Kirsh, will provide that information.

The “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh, are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant – pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. They cannot make adoption an easy choice, but they can make it less scary by removing some of the unknowns. Ultimately, a birth parent will have to decide if adoption is in their own best interests and the best interests of their child. We, at Kirsh & Kirsh, will not and cannot make that decision for anyone, but we can provide information and answers to questions.

Our contact information is below.  We will answer your questions and provide you the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. The Kirsh Boys have 90 YEARS OF COMBINED EXPERIENCE practicing adoption law. We can help you find an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Logansport or Indianapolis, Columbus or Bloomington, Vincennes or Huntingburg, or Kokomo or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, or Kentucky.

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families, FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the full extent allowed by law.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime —call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or Facebook message:  https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.