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WHAT IS THE PROCESS IF I PUT MY BABY UP FOR ADOPTION?

We, at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”) get asked this question often. We cannot answer for national adoption agencies nor local adoption agencies, but at Kirsh & Kirsh, we try to make the process as straightforward and simple as possible without unnecessary meetings and paperwork. While we will only arrange to place a newborn child up for adoption completely above-board and legally, we do not want to overly burden a birth mother or an expectant mother who already must deal with more than her fair share of stress. 

In the simple terms, in choosing to work with us to give up your baby for adoption, or, more correctly, make an adoption plan for your newborn, you can expect the following:

  1. Meet us in person on the phone, over Zoom, or fill out your information electronically.
  2. Pick a family from profiles we will send to you, talk, text, or meet that family and decide if you want us to match with them with you. Or we will choose the family if you prefer. 
  3. There are a few documents that we will ask you to complete and sign before the baby’s birth –none of which are a consent to adoption. You cannot sign a consent to adoption until after you give birth. In other words, you are not obligated to proceed with the adoption by doing the paperwork. 
  4. You decide if you want to talk with a counselor and have your own attorney.
  5. After you give birth, you will decide if you want to proceed with the adoption. If so, we will arrange for you to sign the consent to adoption. If not, we will go our separate ways. We will never pressure you to proceed or criticize you if you decide to parent the baby. We want you to do whatever YOU believe is best for you and your baby. 

The entire process costs you nothing, and you are not obligated to proceed with the adoption plan you have put together, unless and until you sign a consent to adoption, after you give birth.

If you would like more information about adoption and available living expenses during and after your pregnancy, we, at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant, pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. 

Not only do the four adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh have over 100 years of combined legal experience arranging adoptions, Kirsh & Kirsh has been in existence since 1981. As attorneys, we at Kirsh & Kirsh, have very high standards for the prospective adoptive parents we choose to represent. All our waiting families are carefully screened and thoroughly investigated. We will arrange for you to have contact with the family you choose on your terms, without families trying to reach you at all hours of the day or night. 

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Martinsville or Indianapolis, Columbus or Bloomington, Huntingburg or Vincennes, Elkhart or South Bend, Warsaw or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, Michigan, or Illinois.

There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of family options from which you can choose, all of whom are wonderful, carefully screened, loving families, FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices about which family adopts your baby and the extent of contacts you want after the child’s birth.

You can call, text and or email us anytime — call: 317-575-5555, text: 800-333-5736, contact us, or Facebook message. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.

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REASONS TO CONSIDER PUTTING YOUR BABY UP FOR ADOPTION

If you have an unexpected pregnancy, unplanned pregnancy, unwanted pregnancy, or untimely pregnancy and are thinking about giving your baby up for adoption, or, more correctly, making an adoption plan for the baby, and you may want to think about the following:

  1. As much as you may want to “undo” the pregnancy, you cannot. Abortion will end the pregnancy but not change the fact of the pregnancy.  Therefore, you need to think about what impact the decision you make now will affect you going forward.
  2. If you were not trying to get pregnant and were not now pregnant, would this be the time in your life when you would plan to have a child?
  3. What goals do you have for yourself? How will raising a child or another child impact those goals? (If you don’t have goals for yourself – why not?)
  4. What goals do you have for the child you are now carrying? Does your parenting the child or making an adoption plan or another alternative give you the best chance of assuring that your child reaches those goals? 

If you would like more information about adoption and available living expenses during and after your pregnancy, we, at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant, pride ourselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. 

Not only do the four adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh have over 100 years of combined legal experience arranging adoptions, Kirsh & Kirsh has been in existence since 1981. As attorneys, we at Kirsh & Kirsh, have very high standards for the prospective adoptive parents we choose to represent. All our waiting families are carefully screened and thoroughly investigated. We will arrange for you to have contact with the family you choose on your terms, without families trying to reach you at all hours of the day or night. 

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us again. We can help you find an AMAZING, WONDERFUL adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Danville or Indianapolis, Bedford or Bloomington, Evansville or Newburgh, Merrillville or South Bend, Huntington or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, Michigan, or Illinois.

There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of family options from which you can choose, all of whom are wonderful, carefully screened, loving families FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices about which family adopts your baby and the extent of contact you want after the child’s birth.

You can call, text and or email us anytime – call/text: 800-333-5736, contact us, or Facebook message. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption.”  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.

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IF I PUT MY BABY UP FOR ADOPTION, CAN I PICK THE ADOPTIVE FAMILY?

ABSOLUTELY, if you work with Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”). Years ago, pregnant women, with untimely pregnancies or unplanned pregnancies would go to adoption agencies to give up for adoption their babies, or more correctly, make adoption plans for their newborns. The agencies, using their own criteria, decided who would adopt a woman’s baby, with little or no input from her. Adoption Law Firms like Kirsh & Kirsh understood that pregnant women wanted to decide for themselves who would adopt. Of course, they wanted the prospective adoptive parents to undergo careful screening and investigation, but the expectant mothers, who would be entrusting the lives of their precious babies to a family, found greater peace if they could direct which family adopted. Now, almost all local adoption agencies and national adoption agencies follow the model that Kirsh & Kirsh pioneered in Indiana nearly 40 years ago and give the birth parents the option of choosing the adoptive parents.

We at Kirsh & Kirsh have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families, FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the full extent allowed by law.

The “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh, are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant – pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. They cannot make adoption an easy choice, but they can make it less scary by removing some of the unknowns. Ultimately, a birth parent will have to decide if adoption is in their own best interests and the best interests of their child. We, at Kirsh & Kirsh, will not and cannot make that decision for anyone, but we can provide information and answers to questions.

Our contact information is below.  We will answer your questions and provide you the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. The Kirsh Boys have 90 YEARS OF COMBINED EXPERIENCE practicing adoption law. We can help you find an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Russiaville or Kokomo, Columbus or Indianapolis, Evansville or Connersville, or Richmond or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, or Kentucky.

You can call, text and or email us anytime —call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or Facebook message:  https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.

Birthmother

I AM ABOUT TO HAVE A BABY. WHY SHOULDN’T I JUST GIVE THE BABY TO MY BEST FRIEND WHO WANTS THE BABY RATHER THAN GOING TO THE TROUBLE OF ARRANGING AN ADOPTION, WHICH I HEARD IS EXPENSIVE AND DIFFICULT?

In the first place, adoption is NOT expensive for birth mothers – THEY PAY NOTHING. With most local adoption agencies and national adoption agencies, and adoption law firms, like Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”) the adoptive parents pay all costs associated with adopting – birth parents pay nothing.

Additionally, even though, we, at Kirsh & Kirsh, do NOT require birth mothers or expectant mothers to attend endless meetings or jump through a bunch of hoops, making an adoption plan for a baby takes time and requires effort. But, after all, you are, QUITE LITERALLY, talking about your child’s ENTIRE LIFE. We, at Kirsh & Kirsh, will make the process as efficient and straightforward as possible.

But understand, the trade-off for putting forth the time and effort is the assurance that your baby will have the opportunity to receive a happy, loving, financially secure home, with a family who has the resources – emotional, financial, and otherwise — to help your child achieve her or his full potential.

Lastly, some departments of children services, prosecuting attorneys, and child protection agencies might consider giving a baby to another person without formal, legal arrangements, as child neglect or child abandonment, subjecting the birth parent to criminal prosecution or entanglement with the department of children’s services, including with a birth parent’s other children

Our contact information is below.  We, at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, will answer your questions and provide you the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. Our adoption attorneys have 90 YEARS OF COMBINED EXPERIENCE practicing adoption law. We can help you find an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Connersville or Indianapolis, Seymour or Bloomington, Evansville or Vincennes, or Warsaw or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, or Kentucky.

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families, FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY(married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the full extent allowed by law.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime —call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or Facebook message:  https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.

Birthmother

I AM NOT DUE FOR SEVERAL MONTHS, BUT JUST FOUND OUT I AM PREGNANT. IS IT TOO EARLY TO SPEAK WITH AN ADOPTION ATTORNEY OR ADOPTION AGENCY ABOUT GIVING MY BABY UP FOR ADOPTION?

It is not too early if you contact Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”). While some local adoption agencies and national adoption adoptions do not want to spend time with a newly pregnant, expectant mother or birth mother, we, at Kirsh & Kirsh, are happy to talk with you about adoption whenever you want, no matter how many weeks or months remain before your due date. In fact, we will “meet” in any manner you like – in person or by text, Zoom, telephone, or FaceTime. You tell us what is most comfortable for you. We do NOT take a “one size fits all” approach. If a woman has an unplanned pregnancy or untimely pregnancy and thinking about giving the baby up for adoption, or more correctly, making an adoption plan for the baby, we are happy to take the time to explain how adoption works and answer her questions whether 8 months and 6 days remain before the due date, has already given birth, or any time in between.

The “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh, are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant – pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. They cannot make adoption an easy choice, but they can make it less scary by removing some of the unknowns. Ultimately, a birth parent will have to decide if adoption is in their own best interests and the best interests of their child. We, at Kirsh & Kirsh, will not and cannot make that decision for anyone, but we can provide information and answers to questions.

Our contact information is below.  We will answer your questions and provide you the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. The Kirsh Boys have 90 YEARS OF COMBINED EXPERIENCE practicing adoption law. We can help you find an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Carmel or Indianapolis, Columbus or North Vernon, Evansville or Madison, or Decatur or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, or Kentucky.

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families, FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY(married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the full extent allowed by law.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime —call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or Facebook message:  https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.