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I NEED TO PUT UP MY BABY FOR ADOPTION BUT FEAR THAT I WILL CHANGE MY MIND AFTER I GIVE BIRTH. CAN I SIGN A CONSENT TO ADOPTION BEFORE THE BABY IS BORN?

Neither Indiana nor any other state allows an expectant mother, considering giving her baby up for adoption, to irrevocably consent to adoption before she gives birth. Even if a state allows for pre-birth consenting, the state will give the birth mother a few days after birth to change her mind and withdraw her consent to adoption. Unlike many states which make a birth mother wait hours or days after giving birth before signing a consent to adoption, Indiana Code § 31-19-9-2 allows a birth mother to consent to the adoption of her newborn, any time after birth. We at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”) respect a woman’s right to decide for herself if and when she is ready to consent to an adoption. While we want the birth mother sleep on her decision after she gives birth, we will accommodate her wishes as to when she signs so long as the social service and medical staff believe that she has sufficiently recovered from the delivery to understand the consequences of her decision. Also, Indiana law gives the birth mother the opportunity, but not the requirement, to confirm her consent to adoption for the judge, without having to physically appear in court. A birth parent will not face a more difficult decision in their life than the decision to give up their baby for adoption, or more correctly, make an adoption plan, for their child. At Kirsh & Kirsh, we tailor each adoption to the needs of the people involved rather than employing a “one size fits all” approach. 

If you would like to explore adoption, we, at Kirsh & Kirsh — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant, pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. 

The four adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh have over 100 years of combined legal experience arranging adoptions.  Kirsh & Kirsh has been in existence since 1981. As attorneys, we at Kirsh & Kirsh, have very high standards for the prospective adoptive parents we choose to represent. All of our waiting families are carefully screened and thoroughly investigated. We will arrange for you to have contact with the family you choose on your terms, without families trying to reach you at all hours of the day or night. 

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Plainfield or Indianapolis, Terre Haute or Bloomington, Scottsburg or Evansville, Michigan City or South Bend, Marion or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, Michigan, or Illinois.

There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of family options from which you can choose, all of whom are wonderful, carefully screened, loving families FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices about which family adopts your baby and the extent of contact you want after the child’s birth.

You can call, text and or email us anytime – call/text: 800-333-5736, contact us, or Facebook message. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.

Adoption Process Birthmother

I AM THINKING ABOUT PUTTING MY BABY UP FOR ADOPTION AND WANT AN OPEN ADOPTION

We, at Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”), were the first among adoption attorneys and local adoption agencies in Indiana to offer expectant mothers and birth mothers open adoptions. Still today, in each adoption, we tailor the degree of openness to meet the needs of the adoptive parents and birth mother. The more open an adoption, the greater the degree of trust which must exist between the birth mother and adoptive parents. Open adoption is not a concept in which “one size fits all.” The most successful open adoptions are those which develop as the adoptive parents and birth mother get to know and feel comfortable with each other. In the adoptions which Kirsh & Kirsh arrange, we caution our clients, the prospective adoptive parents, to make promises to birth mothers they cannot, or do not intend to, keep. We prefer to have them take it slow to avoid disappointing their birth mother by not providing the degree of openness she expects. 

If you would like to explore adoption, we at Kirsh & Kirsh — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant, pride ourselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. 

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide you with the information you seek without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us again. The Kirsh Boys have 90 YEARS OF COMBINED EXPERIENCE practicing adoption law. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Fishers or Indianapolis, Greensburg or Columbus, Evansville or Santa Claus, South Bend or Logansport, Portland or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, or Michigan.

There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of family options from which you can choose, all of whom are wonderful, carefully screened, loving families FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices regarding which family adopts your baby & extent of contact you want after the child’s birth.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime -call/text: 800-333-5736, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or Facebook message: https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans. Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption.” If we do not include those words in our blog posts and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby,” then our website will not show up in most expectant moms’ search results on Google.

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HOW DO I KNOW ADOPTIVE PARENTS REPRESENTED BY ADOPTION ATTORNEYS KIRSH & KIRSH, P.C. (“KIRSH & KIRSH”) WILL BE A GOOD FAMILY?

We, at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, understand that every woman facing an untimely unplanned pregnancy, who thinks about putting up her baby for adoption or, more correctly, making an adoption plan for the baby, wonders the same thing. In fact, if a birth mother is not certain that her newborn will have a happy, loving, and safe home, she will not proceed with an adoption. This is true whether she works with adoption professionals like Kirsh & Kirsh, a national adoption agency, or a local adoption agency. Even before Indiana Adoption Law made a pre-placement Homestudy and evaluation of prospective adoptive parents a prerequisite to adopting, Kirsh & Kirsh required prospective adoptive parents to undergo evaluation, assessment, and investigation before Kirsh & Kirsh would help them adopt a child. One of the attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh, usually Steve Kirsh, who has 40 years of experience handling adoptions in Indiana, meets with new, prospective adoptive parents, and among other things decides if Kirsh & Kirsh will assist them in adopting a child. If the family chooses to hire Kirsh & Kirsh to help them adopt, we, at Kirsh & Kirsh, have them contact an independent, adoption agency to do a personal and home evaluation of them as adoptive parents. Additionally, the agency performs child abuse,  criminal, FBI fingerprint, and sexual offender checks of the family. If the agency does not approve the family for adoptive placement, Kirsh & Kirsh will not represent them in adoption proceedings. Lastly, Kirsh & Kirsh offers all birth mothers and expectant mothers the opportunity to meet, in person, the prospective adoptive parents and decide for themselves whether they trust the family with their soon-to-be-born or newborn baby.

Our contact information is below.  We, at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C., will answer your questions and provide you the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us costs you nothing nor does it mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. We can assist you with an Indiana adoption no matter whether you live in Frankfort or Indianapolis, Bloomington or Whitestown, Evansville or Vincennes, or Auburn or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between.

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the full extent allowed by law.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime —call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or Facebook message:  https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.

Birthmother

ADOPTION AND ABORTION – THE SIMILARIITES AND DIFFERENCES?

They are the same in some ways but VERY different in what is, perhaps, the most important way.

The similarities include:

  1. Both are very personal decisions.
  2. Both are readily available and legal, in most places.
  3. The birth parents do not have the responsibility for raising the child.
  4. Neither changes the fact that the expectant mother conceived a child and is pregnant.
  5. Both are unforgettable experiences.
  6. They cannot be “undone.”
  7. No matter what decision you make — some will agree with you and some will criticize you.

The differences include:

  1. In an adoption, the birth mother carries the baby for nine months and then leaves the hospital without the baby, while an abortion immediately terminates the pregnancy.
  2. Few people understand how a woman can “give away her baby” through adoption, yet at the same time, nearly ½ of the people living in the United States STRONGLY believe that abortion is “okay.”
  3. Abortion does not give the child an opportunity to live life nor fulfill his or her or his destiny.
  4. Adoption demonstrates a birth mother’s (parent’s) sacrificial love for her/their child by putting the child’s life ahead of her/their own desires, needs, and wants.
  5. In adoption, the child lives.

The “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C., are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant – pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. They cannot make adoption an easy choice, but they can make it less scary by removing some of the unknowns. Ultimately, a birth parent will have to decide if adoption is in their own best interests and the best interests of their child. We, at Kirsh & Kirsh, will not and cannot make that decision for anyone, but we can provide information and answers to questions.

Our contact information is below.  We will answer your questions and provide you the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. The Kirsh Boys have 90 YEARS OF COMBINED EXPERIENCE practicing adoption law. We can help you find an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Brownsburg or Indianapolis, West Lafayette or Bloomington, Evansville or Washington, or Goshen or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, or Kentucky.

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families, FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the full extent allowed by law.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime —call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or Facebook message:  https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.

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WHAT WILL HAPPEN WHEN I COMPLETE A CONTACT FORM OR OTHERWISE CONTACT ADOPTION ATTORNEYS KIRSH & KIRSH, P.C. (“KIRSH & KIRSH”) ABOUT AN UNTIMELY OR UNPLANNED PREGNANCY?

Great question! The brief answer is that you “are driving the bus.” Tell us where you want to go, and we will help you figure out how to get there. You tell us what information you want about our adoption program and giving a baby up for adoption, or more correctly, making an adoption plan for your newborn baby or child or unborn infant, and we will explain how the process works. Also, you tell us how you want to receive the information – we will text, email, chat, Zoom, talk by telephone, or meet in person. We tailor each adoption plan to the individuals involved. Some birth parents are just “dipping their toes in the water” about adoption and are afraid to communicate with us in any way for fear that doing so will obligate them to put their baby up for adoption or mean that they will be forced to work with us. NOT TRUE! While we are really good at arranging adoptions, we are not so good at reading minds. We cannot tell you how we can help you unless you tell us what you want to know. No two ways about it — the decision to place a child for adoption will be the hardest decision you will ever make. The decision is hard no matter what, even when you are equipped with all of the information about the process. But it can become overwhelmingly difficult—perhaps even impossible—if you don’t have ANY information, or if you have incorrect information. If you contact us, we will respond. If you tell us what you want to know, we will tell you. We will NOT pressure you, try to talk you into adoption, or make you feel bad about yourself.

Our contact information is below.  We, at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, will answer your questions and provide you the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. Our adoption attorneys have 90 YEARS OF COMBINED EXPERIENCE practicing adoption law. We can help you find an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Wabash or Indianapolis, Rensselaer or Bloomington, Evansville or Sullivan, or Lafayette or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, or Kentucky.

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families, FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY(married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the full extent allowed by law.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime —call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or Facebook message:  https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.

Birthmother

IF I PUT UP MY BABY FOR ADOPTION, DO I HAVE TO SEE OR TAKE CARE OF THE BABY IN THE HOSPITAL?

No. Every birth mother who gives her baby up for adoption, or more correctly, makes an adoption plan for her baby, comes to peace with her decision in her own way. We, at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C., will honor whatever decision you make regarding seeing and/or caring for the baby in the hospital. If a birth mother opts not to do so, the prospective adoptive parents or hospital nursery nurses are more than happy to change, hold, feed, and nurture the baby. As obvious as it may sound, a woman, facing an untimely pregnancy and thinking about adoption, should void all of those things that make the decision harder and do all of those things that make her decision easier. Whether or not to see the baby is one of those choices. Over the years handling adoptions, we have found that most women choose to see the baby in the hospital, but adoption is a uniquely personal decision, and even though most women choose to see their babies, not all women make that choice. We make counseling available to the women who contact us about adoption. Frankly, we encourage (but do NOT require) counseling. Discussing with a counselor whether to see the baby may help an expectant mother to decide what is best for her.

Our contact information is below.  We, at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C., will answer your questions and provide you the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. Our adoption attorneys have 90 YEARS OF COMBINED EXPERIENCE practicing adoption law. We can help you find an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Peru or Indianapolis, Kokomo or Bloomington, Evansville or Vincennes, or Rochester or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, or Kentucky.

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families, FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY(married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the full extent allowed by law.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime —call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or a Facebook message:  https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.

Adoption Process Birthmother

IF I PUT MY BABY UP FOR ADOPTION, WHO NAMES THE BABY?

Surprisingly, BOTH the adoptive parents AND the birth mother name the baby, but not necessarily the same name. This may sound confusing, but it is not. After the baby is born, the birth certificate clerk at the hospital or the hospital registrar will ask the birth mother if she would like to name the baby. Some birth mothers consult with the prospective adoptive parents and name the baby what the adoptive parents have chosen, others choose a name meaningful to them, and still, others leave the name blank. However, whether or not the birth mother chooses a name, the adoptive parents will name the baby, and the state department of health will issue a new post-adoption birth certificate as part of the adoption proceedings, EVEN IF the birth mother and adoptive parents chose the name together. You might ask, why would the state department of health issue a new birth certificate if the birth mother and adoptive parents agree on the name. The answer is that the original birth certificate will show the birth mother’s name (and birth father’s name, if he signs a paternity affidavit at the hospital) as the child’s parent or parents. The post-adoption birth certificate will list the adoptive parents as parents of the child.

The four attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C., have 93 years of combined experience practicing adoption law. If you have questions about putting your baby up for adoption, or more correctly, making an adoption plan for your baby, don’t hesitate to contact us. We have assisted numerous birth mothers with their adoption plans and will be more than happy to help you. We will answer your questions and provide you the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us costs you nothing, nor does it mean you ever have to talk or text with us again. We can assist you with an Indiana adoption no matter whether you live in Plymouth or Huntingburg, Madison or Marion, Winamac or Bedford, or any Indiana county or city in between.

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the full extent allowed by law.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime —call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or a Facebook message:  https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption.”  If we do not include those words in our blog posts and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby,” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.

Birthmother

I PUT UP MY BABY FOR ADOPTION AND WANT THE BABY BACK. HOW DO I DO THAT?

In many states, it is not possible, but it depends on the state in which the adoption attorney or adoption agency files the adoption and what the birth mother signed allowing the child to be placed for adoption. If the birth mother signed a consent to adoption in Indiana, Indiana law does not give a birth parent the right to change the right to change their mind and get the child back. Most Indiana adoption agencies, national adoption agencies, and Indiana adoption attorneys, Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”), included, will have the birth mother confirm her consent to adoption for the court in Indiana adoptions. If a birth mother confirms her consent to adoption for the judge in Indiana by telephone, Zoom, or in person, Indiana Adoption statutes do not provide a way to withdraw her consent to adoption and get the baby back. If the birth mother has not confirmed her consent to adoption for the court, the birth mother could, within 30 days of signing the consent, file a motion with the court, ask the court for a hearing, and, at that hearing attempt to prove the child’s best interests dictate that the court allow her to withdraw her consent. In the many newborn adoptions Kirsh & Kirsh has facilitated, rarely, has a birth mother tried to withdraw her consent, largely because Kirsh & Kirsh does not pressure women to sign consents to adoption and gives them plenty of opportunity not to sign the consent to adoption, up to and including during the consent to adoption signing.

We have over the 35+ years of experience arranging adoptions in Indiana and have assisted numerous birth mothers with their adoption plans. Below will be information about how to contact us. We will answer your questions and provide you the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us costs you nothing nor does it mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. We can assist you with an Indiana adoption no matter whether you live in Ft. Wayne or Evansville, Clarksville or Gary, South Bend or Jasper, or any Indiana county or city in between.

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the full extent allowed by law.

You can call, text and or email us anytime —call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or Facebook message:  https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.