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Adoption Process Birthmother

I PLAN TO PUT MY BABY UP FOR ADOPTION BUT DO NOT WANT THE BABY TO GO INTO THE FOSTER CARE SYSTEM

There are two ways can assure yourself that your baby will not go into foster care. Make sure the Department of Child Services in Indiana or a similar agency in your home state does not intervene in the adoption. Even if you have had other run-ins with DCS or used drugs during your pregnancy, if you make arrangements to give up your baby for adoption, or more correctly, make an adoption plan for your baby either within the first few hours after giving birth or before you deliver, you can probably avoid DCS involvement, which always involves foster care. The way to eliminate the possibility of your baby going to a foster home is to work with adoption professionals like Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”). The adoptions which Kirsh & Kirsh arranges NEVER involve a baby going into the foster care system. On the other hand, if you want to utilize foster care, you should contact a national adoption agency or a local adoption agency. While adoption agencies rarely use foster care, they license foster parents. 

The four adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh have over 100 years of combined legal experience arranging adoptions.  Kirsh & Kirsh has been in existence since 1981. As attorneys, we at Kirsh & Kirsh, have very high standards for the prospective adoptive parents we choose to represent. In most situations, we can provide you with as many profiles of prospective adoptive parents as you would like to receive. All of our waiting families are carefully screened and thoroughly investigated. We will arrange for you to have contact with the family you choose on your terms, without families trying to reach you at all hours of the day or night. 

If you would like to explore adoption, we, at Kirsh & Kirsh — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. 

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Noblesville or Indianapolis, Columbus or Bedford, Jasper or Evansville, East Chicago or South Bend, Michigan City or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, Michigan, or Illinois.

There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of family options from which you can choose, all of whom are wonderful, carefully screened, loving families FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices about which family adopts your baby and the extent of contact you want after the child’s birth.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime – call/text: 800-333-5736, contact us, or Facebook message. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption.”  If we do not include those words in our blog posts and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby,” then our website will not show up in most expectant moms’ search results in Google.

Birthmother

MEETING WITH, OR TALKING TO, AN ADOPTION ATTORNEY OR AGENCY ABOUT GIVING MY BABY UP FOR ADOPTION SCARES ME.

We, at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”) understand your fear. Like many national adoption agencies and local adoption agencies, we receive lots of completed contact forms from birth mothers and expectant mothers who have visited our website, www.LovingAdoptions.com, but who then do not respond after initially reaching out to us. We can only imagine that they were either very uncertain about adoption when they completed the contact form or the reality of actually talking about adoption overwhelmed them when we responded to their inquiry.

We, at Kirsh & Kirsh, take a no-pressure, non-judgmental approach, when talking with birth parents about how to put up their babies for adoption, or more correctly, make adoption plans for their newborns or soon-to-be-born babies.  The unknown scares all of us. Ironically, if a pregnant woman, thinking about adoption for her baby, would talk or meet with us, we would make the process less scary by explaining what she could expect in an adoption arranged by our office. We cannot make the decision to place a baby or parent the baby easy, but we can remove the unknowns about adoption, without the birth mother feeling pressured or judged for whatever decision she makes.

Our contact information is below.  We, at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C., will answer your questions and provide you the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. Our adoption attorneys have 90 YEARS OF COMBINED EXPERIENCE practicing adoption law. We can help you find an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Greenwood or Indianapolis, Seymour or Bloomington, Evansville or Vincennes, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, or Kentucky.

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families, FROM ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the full extent allowed by law.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime —call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or Facebook message:  https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.

Adoption Process Birthmother

IF I PUT MY BABY UP FOR ADOPTION, WHO NAMES THE BABY?

Surprisingly, BOTH the adoptive parents AND the birth mother name the baby, but not necessarily the same name. This may sound confusing, but it is not. After the baby is born, the birth certificate clerk at the hospital or the hospital registrar will ask the birth mother if she would like to name the baby. Some birth mothers consult with the prospective adoptive parents and name the baby what the adoptive parents have chosen, others choose a name meaningful to them, and still, others leave the name blank. However, whether or not the birth mother chooses a name, the adoptive parents will name the baby, and the state department of health will issue a new post-adoption birth certificate as part of the adoption proceedings, EVEN IF the birth mother and adoptive parents chose the name together. You might ask, why would the state department of health issue a new birth certificate if the birth mother and adoptive parents agree on the name. The answer is that the original birth certificate will show the birth mother’s name (and birth father’s name, if he signs a paternity affidavit at the hospital) as the child’s parent or parents. The post-adoption birth certificate will list the adoptive parents as parents of the child.

The four attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C., have 93 years of combined experience practicing adoption law. If you have questions about putting your baby up for adoption, or more correctly, making an adoption plan for your baby, don’t hesitate to contact us. We have assisted numerous birth mothers with their adoption plans and will be more than happy to help you. We will answer your questions and provide you the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us costs you nothing, nor does it mean you ever have to talk or text with us again. We can assist you with an Indiana adoption no matter whether you live in Plymouth or Huntingburg, Madison or Marion, Winamac or Bedford, or any Indiana county or city in between.

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the full extent allowed by law.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime —call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or a Facebook message:  https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption.”  If we do not include those words in our blog posts and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby,” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.

Adoptive Parent Birthmother

PROSPECTIVE ADOPTIVE PARENTS LOST $40,000 ON A FAILED, OUT-OF-STATE ADOPTION

A few days ago, I, Steve Kirsh, of the adoption law firm of Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”), met prospective adoptive parents via Zoom, who told me that they had been working with a national adoption agency, which matched them with an expectant mother.  They lost $40,000 on the failed adoption, between what they paid in adoption agency fees and living expenses for the birth mother. Unlike Indiana, the state in which the adoption agency operated does not impose a dollar amount limit on living expenses.  Obviously, the significant financial loss upset the prospective adoptive parents, but the agency’s lack of responsiveness throughout the process galled them. They said that unless the agency wanted more money from them, they never heard from the agency. The adoption agency did not inform them that the birth mother could not proceed with the adoption because Child Protective Services (“CPS”) had put a hold on the baby, until the adoptive parents contacted the agency after the birth mother contacted them, asking for more living expenses — AFTER she had already delivered. At that time, the adoption agency caseworker informed them that CPS had stepped in the previous weekend and that they would not be able to adopt the baby.

Under Indiana adoption law and the laws of most, if not all, states, a birth mother cannot legally commit to adoption until after she gives birth. Therefore, every prospective adoptive parent risks disappointment and financial loss, if a birth mother changes her mind and decides to parent her baby. We, at Kirsh & Kirsh, find it hard to justify the amount of money the family lost and the lack of communication. We pride ourselves on promptly responding to all inquiries about newborn adoptions and limiting the financial exposure of failed adoption opportunities. In fact, we structure our legal and adoption services fees to roll-over to subsequent adoption opportunities. Furthermore, we defer the largest amount of those fees until placement so that significant financial losses do not compound the emotional disappointment of not successfully adopting.

By the way, we, at Kirsh & Kirsh, do NOT criticize the birth mother for not proceeding with putting her baby up for adoption and recognize that a birth mother has the absolute right not to give up her baby for adoption, or more correctly, make an adoption plan for her baby.

We find it unfortunate that the national adoption agency allowed the prospective adoptive parents to suffer such a great financial loss and did not communicate better with them about the failed adoption opportunity.

If you are prospective adoptive parents looking for information about adopting a child, or are a birth mother or expectant mother and not sure how to give a child up for adoption, or, more correctly, make an adoption plan for your precious child, please contact us. We will answer your questions, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us costs you nothing nor does it mean you ever have to communicate with us, again. We can assist you with an Indiana adoption no matter whether you live in Auburn or Newburgh, Scottsville or Gary, Huntington or Huntingburg, or any Indiana county or city in between.

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the full extent allowed by law.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime —call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or a Facebook message:  https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results on Google.