Tag: Adoption lawyers in Indiana

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HOW WILL THE REVERSAL OF ROE V. WADE IMPACT ADOPTION?

In general, adoption professionals avoid expressing an opinion about abortion or Roe v. Wade because banning or limiting abortion seems self-serving in that it would obviously make more babies available for adoption. In this Blog, we at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”) are not advocating for the overturning of Roe v. Wade by the United States Supreme Court but simply stating statistical facts. The Center for Disease Control (CDC) reported that approximately 625,000 women have abortions each year. According to the National Council for Adoption Factbook, there were just over 18,000 unrelated, domestic adoptions of newborns a year.  If 10% of those women who had abortions gave their babies up for adoption, or more correctly, made adoption plans for their babies, the number of unrelated domestic adoptions would have INCREASED by 62,500 per year – 350%.

If the United States Supreme Court determines that the United States Constitution does not include the right to have an abortion, some states will impose substantial restrictions or limitations on the availability of abortion. In those states, the number of babies available for adoption will increase. However, it is NOT the obligation of pregnant women considering abortion to put up their babies for adoption. A woman facing an unplanned or untimely pregnancy undoubtedly faces the most difficult, gut-wrenching decision one could imagine. Ultimately, she will have to determine what is in her best interests. A woman, who believes that life begins at conception, will also take into consideration the best interests of her unborn child.

If you face an unplanned or untimely pregnancy and would like to explore adoption, we, at Kirsh & Kirsh — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant, pride ourselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment.

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide you with the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. The Kirsh Boys have 90 YEARS OF COMBINED EXPERIENCE practicing adoption law. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Lebanon or Indianapolis, Bloomington or North Vernon, Evansville or New Albany, South Bend or Gary, Auburn or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, or Michigan.

There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of family options from which you can choose, all of whom are wonderful, carefully screened, loving families, FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices regarding which family adopts your baby & extent of contact you want after the child’s birth.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime -call/text: 800-333-5736, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or Facebook message: https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant moms’ search results on Google.

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A LOCAL ADOPTION AGENCY SAID THAT I SHOULD NOT WORK WITH ADOPTION ATTORNEYS KIRSH & KIRSH, P.C. (“KIRSH & KIRSH”) BECAUSE THEY REPRESENT THE ADOPTIVE PARENTS AND THE ADOPTION AGENCY REPRESENTS ME?

Probably what a national adoption agency or local adoption agency told you is that they represent everyone in the adoption triad – the birth mother, child, and the adoptive parents.

Kirsh & Kirsh is an adoption law firm, not an adoption agency. We do not claim to represent the legal interests of everyone. As the Old and New Testaments provide, in a few different ways: no one can serve two masters. While it is a nice thought — representing the interests of both adoptive and birth parents — in practice, it only works if their interests remain perfectly aligned, which means that the prospective adoptive parents intend on adopting and the birth parents intend on giving up their baby for adoption, or more correctly, making an adoption plan for the baby. If either party decides not to proceed, it is hard for an adoption agency to remain neutral. It becomes even more difficult after the birth and adoptive placement of the child. If either side backs out and the agency takes one side or the other, the “losing” side will likely feel that the adoption agency is not looking after their interests. Adoption agencies often respond that their primary responsibility is to the best interests of the child. Again, the “losing” side will, doubtlessly, believe that they seek to do what is in the child’s best interests, and claim that the other side only thinks about their own selfish interests. Understand that this could not only happen if the birth parents decide to parent, but it could also happen if the prospective adoptive parents decide they do not want to adopt – think “sick” baby, as an example.

We, at Kirsh & Kirsh, make it clear to the expectant mothers and birth mothers who contact us asking for our assistance in finding an adoptive home for their newborn or soon-to-be-born or even older child that we represent the legal interests of the adoptive parents. We arrange for expectant and birth mothers to have their own attorneys, at no cost to them. Even though we do not act as the attorney for the birth mother, we are her point of contact and make all of the arrangements for the adoption, including introducing her to prospective adoptive parents. More about that is below.

Kirsh & Kirsh — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant, pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. We cannot make adoption an easy choice, but we can make it less scary by removing some of the unknowns. Ultimately, a birth parent will have to decide if adoption is in their own best interests and the best interests of their child. We, at Kirsh & Kirsh, will not and cannot make that decision for anyone, but we can provide information and answers to questions – that way, you can make a well-informed decision.

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide you with the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. The Kirsh Boys have 90 YEARS OF COMBINED EXPERIENCE practicing adoption law. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Pittsboro or Indianapolis, Greenwood or Columbus, Evansville or Loogootee, or Michigan City or South Bend, Steubenville or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, or Michigan.

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families, FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime -call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or Facebook message: https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant moms’ search results in Google.

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PROSPECTIVE ADOPTIVE PARENTS LOST $40,000 ON A FAILED, OUT-OF-STATE ADOPTION

A few days ago, I, Steve Kirsh, of the adoption law firm of Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”), met prospective adoptive parents via Zoom, who told me that they had been working with a national adoption agency, which matched them with an expectant mother.  They lost $40,000 on the failed adoption, between what they paid in adoption agency fees and living expenses for the birth mother. Unlike Indiana, the state in which the adoption agency operated does not impose a dollar amount limit on living expenses.  Obviously, the significant financial loss upset the prospective adoptive parents, but the agency’s lack of responsiveness throughout the process galled them. They said that unless the agency wanted more money from them, they never heard from the agency. The adoption agency did not inform them that the birth mother could not proceed with the adoption because Child Protective Services (“CPS”) had put a hold on the baby, until the adoptive parents contacted the agency after the birth mother contacted them, asking for more living expenses — AFTER she had already delivered. At that time, the adoption agency caseworker informed them that CPS had stepped in the previous weekend and that they would not be able to adopt the baby.

Under Indiana adoption law and the laws of most, if not all, states, a birth mother cannot legally commit to adoption until after she gives birth. Therefore, every prospective adoptive parent risks disappointment and financial loss, if a birth mother changes her mind and decides to parent her baby. We, at Kirsh & Kirsh, find it hard to justify the amount of money the family lost and the lack of communication. We pride ourselves on promptly responding to all inquiries about newborn adoptions and limiting the financial exposure of failed adoption opportunities. In fact, we structure our legal and adoption services fees to roll-over to subsequent adoption opportunities. Furthermore, we defer the largest amount of those fees until placement so that significant financial losses do not compound the emotional disappointment of not successfully adopting.

By the way, we, at Kirsh & Kirsh, do NOT criticize the birth mother for not proceeding with putting her baby up for adoption and recognize that a birth mother has the absolute right not to give up her baby for adoption, or more correctly, make an adoption plan for her baby.

We find it unfortunate that the national adoption agency allowed the prospective adoptive parents to suffer such a great financial loss and did not communicate better with them about the failed adoption opportunity.

If you are prospective adoptive parents looking for information about adopting a child, or are a birth mother or expectant mother and not sure how to give a child up for adoption, or, more correctly, make an adoption plan for your precious child, please contact us. We will answer your questions, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us costs you nothing nor does it mean you ever have to communicate with us, again. We can assist you with an Indiana adoption no matter whether you live in Auburn or Newburgh, Scottsville or Gary, Huntington or Huntingburg, or any Indiana county or city in between.

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the full extent allowed by law.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime —call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or a Facebook message:  https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results on Google.