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Adoption Process Birthmother

WHAT IS THE PROCESS IF I PUT MY BABY UP FOR ADOPTION?

We, at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”) get asked this question often. We cannot answer for national adoption agencies nor local adoption agencies, but at Kirsh & Kirsh, we try to make the process as straightforward and simple as possible without unnecessary meetings and paperwork. While we will only arrange to place a newborn child up for adoption completely above-board and legally, we do not want to overly burden a birth mother or an expectant mother who already must deal with more than her fair share of stress. 

In the simple terms, in choosing to work with us to give up your baby for adoption, or, more correctly, make an adoption plan for your newborn, you can expect the following:

  1. Meet us in person on the phone, over Zoom, or fill out your information electronically.
  2. Pick a family from profiles we will send to you, talk, text, or meet that family and decide if you want us to match with them with you. Or we will choose the family if you prefer. 
  3. There are a few documents that we will ask you to complete and sign before the baby’s birth –none of which are a consent to adoption. You cannot sign a consent to adoption until after you give birth. In other words, you are not obligated to proceed with the adoption by doing the paperwork. 
  4. You decide if you want to talk with a counselor and have your own attorney.
  5. After you give birth, you will decide if you want to proceed with the adoption. If so, we will arrange for you to sign the consent to adoption. If not, we will go our separate ways. We will never pressure you to proceed or criticize you if you decide to parent the baby. We want you to do whatever YOU believe is best for you and your baby. 

The entire process costs you nothing, and you are not obligated to proceed with the adoption plan you have put together, unless and until you sign a consent to adoption, after you give birth.

If you would like more information about adoption and available living expenses during and after your pregnancy, we, at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant, pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. 

Not only do the four adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh have over 100 years of combined legal experience arranging adoptions, Kirsh & Kirsh has been in existence since 1981. As attorneys, we at Kirsh & Kirsh, have very high standards for the prospective adoptive parents we choose to represent. All our waiting families are carefully screened and thoroughly investigated. We will arrange for you to have contact with the family you choose on your terms, without families trying to reach you at all hours of the day or night. 

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Martinsville or Indianapolis, Columbus or Bloomington, Huntingburg or Vincennes, Elkhart or South Bend, Warsaw or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, Michigan, or Illinois.

There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of family options from which you can choose, all of whom are wonderful, carefully screened, loving families, FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices about which family adopts your baby and the extent of contacts you want after the child’s birth.

You can call, text and or email us anytime — call: 317-575-5555, text: 800-333-5736, contact us, or Facebook message. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.

Adoption Process Birthmother

WHO NAMES THE BABY IF I PUT UP MY BABY FOR ADOPTION? 

When a baby is born, the hospital will complete an application for the newborn’s birth certificate and send it to the state or local department of health, depending on the state in which the birth mother gives birth. The birth mother’s name and the birth father’s name, if he has signed a paternity affidavit at the hospital or otherwise legally established paternity of the child will appear, as parents, on the original birth certificate. Also, they have the option of naming the baby, with a name meaningful to them. If they (or she, if the father is not involved) gave up the baby for adoption, or more correctly, make an adoption plan for the baby. When the child reaches adulthood, the child can request and receive a copy of the original, pre-adoption, birth certificate from the state department of health, in most states. That birth certificate will include the birth mother and birth father, who had established paternity, as parents and the name they chose for the child. 

Once the court has finalized the adoption, the clerk of the court will complete a record of adoption and send it to the department of health. The department of health will then seal the original birth certificate and replace it with a birth certificate listing the adoptive parents as parents of the child, with whatever name they have chosen for the child. 

Sometimes, birth mothers and adoptive parents agree on a name for the child and that name will appear on the original birth certificate. However, even if the adoptive parents and birth mother coincidentally had the same last name and agreed on the baby’s first and middle names, the state health department would still seal the original birth certificate and issue a new, post-adoption birth certificate because the post-adoption birth certificate would list the adoptive parents as parents of the child. The original birth certificate would show the birth mother (and father if he signed a paternity affidavit or otherwise established paternity) as the parent(s).

If you would like to explore adoption, we, at Kirsh & Kirsh — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant, pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. 

The four adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh have over 100 years of combined legal experience arranging adoptions.  Kirsh & Kirsh has been in existence since 1981. As attorneys, we at Kirsh & Kirsh, have very high standards for the prospective adoptive parents we choose to represent. All of our waiting families are carefully screened and thoroughly investigated. We will arrange for you to have contact with the family you choose on your terms, without families trying to reach you at all hours of the day or night. 

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Crawfordsville or Indianapolis, Bedford or Bloomington, Newburgh or Evansville, Hammond or South Bend, Wabash or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, Michigan, or Illinois.

There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of family options from which you can choose, all of whom are wonderful, carefully screened, loving families FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices about which family adopts your baby and the extent of contact you want after the child’s birth.

You can call, text, or email us anytime – call/text: 800-333-5736, contact us, or Facebook message. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.

Adoption Process Birthmother

MY BEST FRIEND WANTS TO ADOPT MY BABY IF I PUT UP MY BABY FOR ADOPTION 

On first thought, this seems like an attractive option for a woman considering giving up her baby for adoption or, more correctly, making an adoption plan for the baby. Obviously, the birth mother knows the prospective adoptive parent and can be like a fly on the wall watching the child grow up. However, before making that decision, there are a few questions you might want to ask yourself: Of all of the prospective adoptive parents in the WORLD, is your best friend the best possible adoptive home you can imagine for your baby, or are you considering your best friend because she is your best friend or because you want the baby close? Would it be better to think about what is in your child’s best interests rather than your friend’s best interests or even your best interests?

Other important questions — what will happen to your relationship with your best friend if she thinks your child still looks at you, rather than her, as a mom? What if she is not okay with lying to the child about your true identity as the child’s mother rather than a “friend?”

As parents, our most important role is to protect our children and help them achieve their full potential. For some birth parents, they decide that adoption is in the best interests of their children. 

If you would like to explore adoption, we, at Kirsh & Kirsh — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. 

The four adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh have over 100 years of combined legal experience arranging adoptions.  Kirsh & Kirsh has been in existence since 1981. As attorneys, we at Kirsh & Kirsh, have very high standards for the prospective adoptive parents we choose to represent. In most situations, we can provide you with as many profiles of prospective adoptive parents as you would like to receive. All of our waiting families are carefully screened and thoroughly investigated. We will arrange for you to have contact with the family you choose on your terms, without families trying to reach you at all hours of the day or night. 

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide the information you seek without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us again. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Noblesville or Indianapolis, Columbus or North Vernon, French Lick or Evansville, East Chicago or South Bend, Warsaw or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, Michigan, or Illinois.

There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of family options from which you can choose, all of whom are wonderful, carefully screened, loving families FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices about which family adopts your baby and the extent of contact you want after the child’s birth.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime – call/text: 800-333-5736, contact us, or send a Facebook message. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption.”  If we do not include those words in our blog posts and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby,” then our website will not show up in most expectant moms’ search results in Google.

Birthmother

WILL I GET INTO TROUBLE IF I TAKE LIVING EXPENSE MONEY FROM THE ADOPTIVE PARENTS AND DON’T PUT UP MY BABY FOR ADOPTION?

Each state has its own criminal statutes and definitions of what constitutes fraud. At the very least, it not right to take money from prospective adoptive parents without intending to give up the baby for adoption, or more correctly, make an adoption plan for the baby. Some states like Indiana, make it a FELONY for a woman pretending to be a birth mother or a birth mother to accept living expenses if she does not intend to make an adoptive placement or is not pregnant. See Indiana Code § 35-46-1-9.5. Besides possible jail time under the criminal statute, the defrauded adoptive parents can sue her for THREE TIMES the amount of money she took PLUS attorney fees under Indiana Code § 34-24-3-1.5.

On the other hand, if a woman sincerely intends to give up her baby for adoption and has an honest change of heart, she will not be in trouble. 

We, at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”), represent lots of carefully screened and fully investigated prospective adoptive parents who will gladly assist an expectant mother intending to proceed with an adoption, the full amount of living expenses allowable by law. Giving a family a baby who cannot give birth to one is as God-like as anything one person can do for another. 

If you would like to explore adoption, we at Kirsh & Kirsh — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant, pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. 

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide you with the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Noblesville or Indianapolis, Shelbyville or Bloomington, Evansville or Newburgh, South Bend or Michigan City, Auburn or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, or Michigan.

There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of family options from which you can choose, all of whom are wonderful, carefully screened, loving families FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices regarding which family adopts your baby & extent of contact you want after the child’s birth.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime -call/text: 800-333-5736, contact us, or Facebook message. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption.”  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby,” then our website will not show up in most expectant moms’ search results on Google.

Birthmother

WHEN I FIRST FOUND OUT I WAS PREGNANT, I CONTACTED AN ADOPTION AGENCY. DO I HAVE TO WORK WITH THAT AGENCY OR CAN I USE SOMEONE ELSE TO HELP ME GIVE UP MY BABY FOR ADOPTION?

No. Sometimes a birth mother will contact a national adoption agency or local adoption agency because the agency has advised the birth mother not to work with an adoption attorney or because the adoption agency has a slick website. At times, an expectant mother or birth mother will find that the adoption agency is too hard to reach, she does not like the agency’s policies, the agency’s counselors or social workers pry too much into the birth mother’s affairs, the agency does not have adoptive parents that the birth mother likes or with whom she could imagine placing her baby for adoption, or any number of other reasons. The decision to put up a baby for adoption, or more correctly, make an adoption plan for a baby is too big a decision not to trust completely, or be comfortable with, the adoption facilitator, whether an adoption agency or adoption attorney. Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”) understand this and are happy to meet with any woman thinking about adoption, without cost or obligation on her part, to give her the chance to see if she likes and feels comfortable with, us. In other words, if a woman contacts or even meets with us, she never has to talk with us again.

But, if you would like to work with us, we try our best to accommodate your desires and wishes. We know that every expectant mother, who contacts us, is unique and could care less about “the normal way of doing things.” Birth mothers want whatever makes the impossibly difficult decision of giving up a child for adoption easier – not more complicated.

Our contact information is below.  We will answer your questions and provide you the information you seek. We can assist you with an Indiana adoption no matter whether you live in Goshen or South Bend, Fort Wayne or Huntington, Madison or Clarksville, or Evansville or Newburgh, or any Indiana county or city in between.

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the full extent allowed by law.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime —call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or a Facebook message:  https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption.”  If we do not include those words in our blog posts and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby,” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.

Birthmother

I PUT UP MY BABY FOR ADOPTION AND WANT THE BABY BACK. HOW DO I DO THAT?

In many states, it is not possible, but it depends on the state in which the adoption attorney or adoption agency files the adoption and what the birth mother signed allowing the child to be placed for adoption. If the birth mother signed a consent to adoption in Indiana, Indiana law does not give a birth parent the right to change the right to change their mind and get the child back. Most Indiana adoption agencies, national adoption agencies, and Indiana adoption attorneys, Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”), included, will have the birth mother confirm her consent to adoption for the court in Indiana adoptions. If a birth mother confirms her consent to adoption for the judge in Indiana by telephone, Zoom, or in person, Indiana Adoption statutes do not provide a way to withdraw her consent to adoption and get the baby back. If the birth mother has not confirmed her consent to adoption for the court, the birth mother could, within 30 days of signing the consent, file a motion with the court, ask the court for a hearing, and, at that hearing attempt to prove the child’s best interests dictate that the court allow her to withdraw her consent. In the many newborn adoptions Kirsh & Kirsh has facilitated, rarely, has a birth mother tried to withdraw her consent, largely because Kirsh & Kirsh does not pressure women to sign consents to adoption and gives them plenty of opportunity not to sign the consent to adoption, up to and including during the consent to adoption signing.

We have over the 35+ years of experience arranging adoptions in Indiana and have assisted numerous birth mothers with their adoption plans. Below will be information about how to contact us. We will answer your questions and provide you the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us costs you nothing nor does it mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. We can assist you with an Indiana adoption no matter whether you live in Ft. Wayne or Evansville, Clarksville or Gary, South Bend or Jasper, or any Indiana county or city in between.

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the full extent allowed by law.

You can call, text and or email us anytime —call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or Facebook message:  https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.