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HOLD ON . . . KIRSH & KIRSH, P.C. (“KIRSH & KIRSH”) ARE LAWYERS?!?! HOW CAN A LAWYER HELP ME GIVE UP MY BABY FOR ADOPTION?

Yes, we, at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh are lawyers, and, YES, we can help you find a wonderful, loving, amazing home for your soon-to-be-born baby or precious newborn if you choose to put the baby up for adoption, or better said, make an adoption plan for your baby. Also, we will take care of all of the arrangements including helping you with living expenses, getting you qualified for Medicaid, letting you choose at what hospital you would like to deliver and which doctor you want to see and, arrange for you to speak with a counselor (if, and only, if you wish), and have your own attorney to give you legal advice, all without any cost to you. You can even decide not to proceed with a planned adoption any time up until you sign a consent to adoption, which can only happen after you give birth to the baby.

We, at Kirsh & Kirsh, or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh, are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant – pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. They cannot make adoption an easy choice, but they can make it less scary by removing some of the unknowns. Ultimately, a birth parent will have to decide if adoption is in their own best interests and the best interests of their child. We, at Kirsh & Kirsh, will not and cannot make that decision for anyone, but we can provide information and answers to questions.

Our contact information is below.  We will answer your questions and provide you the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. The Kirsh Boys have 90 YEARS OF COMBINED EXPERIENCE practicing adoption law. We can help you find an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Kokomo or Indianapolis, Bloomington or Martinsville, Evansville or Clarksville, or Elkhart or Ft. Wayne, Richmond or Anderson, or any Indiana city or county in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, or Kentucky.

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families, FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the full extent allowed by law.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime -call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or Facebook message: https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.

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Is There Life After an Adoptive Placement?

Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”) have handled adoptions for more than 35 years, involving numerous successful placements. Kirsh & Kirsh began its adoption program in Indiana and has since extended its adoption program to provide adoption services to pregnant women in Tennessee, Mississippi, and Kentucky.

Last week, I, Steve Kirsh, had a birth mother sign a consent to adoption. I then went to the birth mother’s nurses’ station to give the nurses the chart copies of the documents the hospital needed. After reviewing each document with the charge nurse, the charge nursed asked Mary (not her real name), another OB nurse standing nearby in the nurse’s station, if she wanted to share anything with me. Mary then told me that when she was 19 years old, I met her at a hospital in Northeast Indiana to have her sign a consent to adoption for the baby she placed a baby for adoption through the Kirsh & Kirsh Adoption Program. Mary recounted that after giving up her baby for adoption or, more correctly, making an adoption plan for her baby, she graduated from college with a degree in nursing. She became a registered nurse, with advanced training in sub-specialty of maternity care. She and her husband (not the father of the baby) have been married for 20 years. Mary and her husband have 2 children. She recently had the chance to meet the child she placed for adoption years earlier, as well as her birth grandchild. She told me that adoption gave her the chance to see that her child would be loved and well cared for, while giving her the chance to realize her own dreams.

If you would like to explore adoption from your home or even from your hospital bed after you deliver, please contact us at Kirsh & Kirsh. We have helped many women find loving, secure, happy homes for their precious newborns. We can help you, too.

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes.

You can call, text and or email us anytime. To contact us—call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or Facebook message:  https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

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During the Stay-at-home orders in Indiana, Tennessee, Mississippi, and Kentucky for COVID-19, the Corona Virus, how are Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”) providing adoption services to pregnant women considering giving their babies up for adoption?

Before directly answering that question, we at Kirsh & Kirsh do not believe that women “give up babies” for adoption. The thoughtful, loving, courageous, and loving expectant mothers and birth mothers, with unplanned or untimely pregnancies, who work with us and are not ready for a child or another child, make adoption plans to provide their precious unborn babies or recently born babies the lives, futures, and opportunities they desperately want for their children. A birth mother who places her baby for adoption gives the adoptive parents the gift of a child and her child the gift of a bright future – incredible gifts!

Because Kirsh & Kirsh is an adoption law firm, rather than an adoption agency, we do not take directives from a Board of Directors. We have one or more attorneys licensed to practice law in Indiana, Tennessee, Mississippi, and Kentucky. We tailor each adoption we facilitate in a way that works for both the adoptive parents and birth mothers. Furthermore, Kirsh & Kirsh can react and adjust quickly without waiting for Board of Directors to meet, debate, and formulate a new policy which the director, assistant director, and case workers at the agency must rigidly follow.

For the pregnant women considering adoption, Kirsh & Kirsh historically liked to meet those women in person. In fact, 3 of our 4 lawyers are pilots, making in person meetings relatively easy. But, because of the stay-at-home orders, we have found that “meeting” an expectant mother via text, phone, FaceTime, Skype, or Zoom works well. In fact, we have found many women prefer to “meet” that way. We always want to do want makes the expectant or birth mother feel comfortable.

If you are pregnant and thinking about adoption in Indiana, Tennessee, Mississippi, or Kentucky, please contact us at the Adoption Law Firm of Kirsh & Kirsh. We have helped numerous women find loving, secure, happy homes for their precious newborns. We can help you, too.

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and happy to assist with living expenses to the full extent allowed by law.

You can call, text and or email us anytime. To contact us—call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or Facebook message:  https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

Stay safe and let us know how we can help you.

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Who are Kirsh & Kirsh and What Do They Do?

Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”) practice adoption law throughout Indiana, Tennessee, Mississippi, and Kentucky, including adoptions with other states. We help pregnant women find loving, secure, carefully screened homes for their babies and prospective adoptive parents find babies to welcome into their homes and hearts.

Kirsh & Kirsh provides the same adoption services as adoption agencies, except we do not perform adoptive home studies, supervise adoptive placements, or provide counseling. Wait, Kirsh & Kirsh does not provide counseling to expectant mothers? We do not employ a counselor on our staff because we think expectant mothers and birth mothers should have the option of speaking with an unbiased, independent counselor. We do, however, routinely refer women to reputable counseling providers. Likewise, we do not provide prenatal OB care, deliver babies, or perform newborn hearing tests, as Kirsh & Kirsh relies upon experts to handle those aspects of an adoption, birth, and postpartum care of newborns.

Unlike some adoption facilitators you might find on the Internet, we have a brick and mortar office, not just a virtual, Internet presence. Steve Kirsh started handling adoptions more than 35 years ago. Shortly thereafter Joel Kirsh, Steve’s brother joined him. More recently, Steve’s son, Grant Kirsh, and Steve’s other brother, Rob Kirsh, joined the practice. In addition to having 4 adoption attorneys, Kirsh & Kirsh has 7 other staff members, who also only work on adoption matters. On most days, you will find our four-legged, fury staff members at our office — Yogi and Hanna (depicted in the photo), Wilson, and Louie at the office. Honestly, they spend most of their time at the office asleep!

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If you would like to explore adoption, contact us at Kirsh & Kirsh. We have helped numerous women with adoption plans over the last 35+ years. We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes.

We will always treat you will kindness and respect. Of the many pregnant women with whom we have worked over years, many, if not most, have needed help paying their living expenses while they were pregnant and during their postpartum recovery.

You can call, text and or email us anytime. To contact us—call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or Facebook message:  https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

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I Am Thinking About Putting My Baby Up For Adoption But Don’t Know If The Father Will Try To Stop Me

The laws of Indiana, Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky and some other states do not require a woman, thinking about giving up her baby for adoption, or more correctly “making an adoption plan for their baby,” to identify the father of the child. If the birth mother got pregnant in Indiana, the following blog explains her options: http://www.indianaadoption.com/can-i-give-up-my-baby-for-adoption-even-if-the-father-doesnt-want-me-to/.

But what if the father knows of the pregnancy and possibly the adoption but won’t consent to the adoption even though the birth mother thinks adoption is best for the unborn child? What if the father of the baby just wants to hurt the mother or cause problems for her and thinks he can do so by not consenting to the adoption? How does the birth mother know if the father, with whom she is no longer in a relationship, will really help support and parent the child if she does not make an adoption plan for the child, if he says he will?

Indiana Law provides answers to these questions and applies if either the birth mother or the prospective adoptive parents live in Indiana. In other words, if the birth mother works with an adoption law firm in Indiana, like the Adoption Law Firm of Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”) or an adoption agency in Indiana, and she lives in Indiana, Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, or many other states, the Indiana adoption attorney or adoption agency can use Indiana Code § 31-19-3, the Pre-birth Notice Statute, to accurately assess the sincerity and commitment of a birth father who said that he objects to the adoption or refuses to sign a consent to the adoption. In the “old” days, the birth mother and adoptive parents could either decide not to do the adoption for fear of what the father might do or proceed with an adoptive placement, give the father notice of the adoption AFTER the child’s birth, and hope he would not challenge. This complicated already impossibly difficult decisions.

In the 1990s, Adoption Attorney Steven M. Kirsh of the Adoption Law Firm of Kirsh & Kirsh proposed to the Indiana General Assembly the idea of allowing (but not requiring) adoption attorneys and adoption agencies to give notice of an intended adoption to the alleged father of the unborn child BEFORE THE BABY’S BIRTH. The Indiana General Assembly liked Steve Kirsh’s idea and enacted the Pre-birth Notice Statute in Indiana. Since then other states have followed Indiana’s lead and enacted similar laws.

Therefore, if either the birth mother or prospective parents live in Indiana, the Indiana adoption attorney or adoption agency can give the father of the unborn child notice of the adoption. If the pre-birth notice is correctly given (another reason to involve an experienced adoption attorney, well versed in the laws of Indiana, like Kirsh & Kirsh) and the father does not file a paternity action within 30 days of the receipt of the notice – not the birth of the baby, but the receipt of the notice, the father is deemed to have consented to the adoption, just as if he signed the consent to adoption.

In filing a paternity action, the birth father asks the court to make him legally and financially responsible for the child for the next 18 to 21 years. The Indiana General Assembly has taken the position that if a man undertakes that responsibility, his parental rights will be honored. If not, he cannot object to the adoption of the child. Because Tennessee, Mississippi, and Kentucky, like Indiana, allow a man to file a paternity action before the baby’s birth, the Indiana Pre-birth Notice Statute can be used if the birth mother or adoptive parents live in Indiana.

Over the last 35+ years, we at Kirsh & Kirsh have given many men pre-birth notice of an adoption. Rarely do men object to the adoption, but by using the Pre-birth Notice Statute, the birth mother and adoptive parents know where they stand when the baby arrives.

For more information about the Pre-birth Notice Statute or if you are pregnant and considering making an adoption plan, please contact us at Kirsh & Kirsh. We can help you find a loving, secure, and happy home for your precious baby, among our carefully screened, prospective adoptive parents. We can help you, without cost or obligation on your part. We will always treat you will kindness and respect. Of the many expectant mothers with whom we have worked over years, many, if not most, have needed help paying their living expenses while they were pregnant and during their postpartum recovery.

You can call, text and or email us anytime. To contact us—call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or Facebook message:  https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

 

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I don’t know if I can do an adoption – I think it will kill me to be without my child

Do NOT believe anyone who tells you that giving a baby up for adoption, or more accurately, making an adoption plan for a baby is easy. IT IS NOT. There is no more difficult a decision than parting with a child – especially, the mother of a newborn who has felt the baby kick from the inside.

However, the decision has little, if anything, to do with wanting to make an adoptive placement. Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”), have met with, and or spoken to, 1000s of expectant mothers and birth mothers over the last 35+ years. Women to do not proceed with adoptions because the want to do it. In fact, in the typical newborn adoption Kirsh & Kirsh handles, the birth mother does not have to proceed with an adoption. These are not like adoptions in which the Department of Children (“DCS”) Services involuntarily terminates parental rights as part of child in need of services (“CHINS”) proceedings.

So, if moms do not want to proceed with an adoption and nobody is forcing them to give up their babies for adoption, why do they do it? They LOVE their precious newborns and want more for their children than they feel that they can provide themselves at that moment in their lives. Parents put the needs of their children ahead of their own interests. That is what good parents do.  Most certainly, a birth mother will grieve the loss of her child when she proceeds with an adoption. If avoiding grief were the only consideration, women would never place babies for adoption.  Parenting involves many things — the most important include providing safe, loving homes and secure and happy futures for children. Most parents fulfill those obligations personally. Those who cannot, look to other options such as help from family and friends and adoptive placements, among other options.

We, Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C., have handled more than 3500 successful adoptions over the last 35+ years.   You can call, text and or email us anytime. We answer our office phone, 317-575-5555, 24/7/365. We also promptly respond to text messages at 317-721-2030 and email at AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.