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MY FRIEND ASKED ME TO ADOPT HER NEWBORN BABY. SHOULD I DO IT?

The way you answer has huge consequences for the birthmother, you, and the child. Therefore, take time to think about it before you answer. Obviously, your friend – the birthmother – must trust you, and you may feel honored for her to have even asked you the question. In deciding what to do, here are a few things to consider:

  1. Most importantly, do you want a child (or another child if you already have a child or children)? If the answer is not 100% “Yes,” there is no need to read further. You have your answer. 
  2. Unless you are the father of the baby, it is NOT your responsibility to assume the life-long commitment of parenting the child, no matter how desperate your friend is. Do not feel obligated to help your friend.
  3. How will your parenting the child affect your relationship with your friend? What if she wants to make parenting decisions for you, especially if those decisions differ from yours? What if she starts treating you more like a babysitter than the parent of the child? What if, etc?
  4. What is in the child’s best interests? Should you suggest to your friend that she consider other options, such as having a family member of hers help, temporary foster care, or adoption?

If you would like more information about adoption and available living expenses during and after pregnancy for your friend, we at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant, pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. 

Not only do the four adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh have over 100 years of combined legal experience arranging adoptions, Kirsh & Kirsh has been in existence since 1981. As attorneys, we at Kirsh & Kirsh have very high standards for the prospective adoptive parents we choose to represent. All our waiting families are carefully screened and thoroughly investigated. We will arrange for the expectant mother to have contact with the family she chooses on her own terms, without families trying to reach her at all hours of the day or night. 

Our contact information is below. We will answer questions and provide information without cost or obligation. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you or she will ever have to talk or text with us, again. We can help in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL adoptive home for her precious baby, whether she lives in Crawfordsville or Indianapolis, Kokomo or Bloomington, New Albany or Evansville, Hammond or South Bend, Warsaw or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, Michigan, or Illinois.

There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of family options from which you can choose, all of whom are wonderful, carefully screened, loving families FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices about which family adopts your baby and the extent of contact you want after the child’s birth.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime – call/text: 800-333-5736, contact us, or Facebook message. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms who come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption.”  If we do not include those words in our blog posts and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby,” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.

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IN INDIANA, CAN I STILL GET AN ABORTION?

Indiana’s law about abortion, Indiana Code § 16-34, provides a near total ban on abortions except in very limited circumstances and time frames. While some states may allow a woman to have an abortion up to a certain number of weeks into the pregnancy for any reason or just because she wants to abort the fetus, Indiana does not. Therefore, if you do not fit into one of the exceptions found in Indiana Code § 16-34, you will need to look into other options for your baby. For some women who find themselves with an untimely pregnancy, unexpected pregnancy, unplanned pregnancy, or unwanted pregnancy is adoption is an alternative to parenting the child.

If you would like more information about giving your baby up for adoption and available living expenses during and after your pregnancy, you should contact us. We, at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called — Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant) pride ourselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. 

Not only do the four adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh have over 100 years of combined legal experience arranging adoptions, Kirsh & Kirsh has been in existence since 1981. As attorneys, we at Kirsh & Kirsh have very high standards for the prospective adoptive parents we choose to represent. All of our waiting families are carefully screened and thoroughly investigated. We will arrange for you to have contact with the family you choose on your terms, without families trying to reach you at all hours of the day or night. 

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Franklin or Indianapolis, Mooresville or Bloomington, Madison or Newburgh, LaPorte or South Bend, Warsaw or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, Michigan, or Illinois.

There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of family options from which you can choose, all of whom are wonderful, carefully screened, loving families FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices about which family adopts your baby and the extent of contact you want after the child’s birth.

You can call, text, or email us anytime – call/text 800-333-5736, contact us, or send a Facebook message. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms who come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption.”  If we do not include those words in our blog posts and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby,” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.

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I DON’T KNOW WHAT TO DO. I AM PREGNANT AND NOT READY FOR A BABY

Finding out that you have an unintended pregnancy, unplanned pregnancy, untimely pregnancy, or unwanted pregnancy probably caused you to believe it could not be true when you first found out. However, many people let their minds jump to the worst possible outcome whenever they learn of bad news. But, rarely does the “worst” happen, and often, the best solution is not the one that most immediately makes our worries go away. 

What you ultimately decide is entirely up to you, and you will be the one most impacted by your decision, except that, as a pregnant woman, your decision is complicated by the baby you have conceived. The two conclusions that immediately come to mind for most women in your predicament are parenting the child or aborting it. Obviously, both have long-term consequences for the unborn baby and you. Therefore, you should not only consider what to do now but how the consequences of your present decision will affect the rest of your life. 

An alternative to a situation like yours that does often come to mind is adoption. Before dismissing adoption, you might want to think of the potential benefits to your unborn baby and you, including:

  1. Knowing that you have done something “God-like” for the adoptive parents – given them a child. 
  2. Knowing that you have given your baby a chance for a bright future, in which he or she has the chance to pursue their full potential – maybe your child will be the person who finds the cure for cancer – who knows, but maybe.
  3. Knowing that you have put the needs of others ahead of your own needs and feelings. 

However, putting or giving a child up for adoption — or, more correctly, making an adoption plan — is not all rainbows and lollipops. It will be the hardest decision you ever make – a decision few people have the fortitude and strength to make. 

If you would like more information about adoption and available living expenses during and after your pregnancy, you should contact us. We at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called — Steve and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant) pride ourselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. 

Not only do the four adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh have over 100 years of combined legal experience arranging adoptions, Kirsh & Kirsh has been in existence since 1981. As attorneys, we at Kirsh & Kirsh have very high standards for the prospective adoptive parents we choose to represent. All of our waiting families are carefully screened and thoroughly investigated. We will arrange for you to have contact with the family you choose on your terms, without families trying to reach you at all hours of the day or night. 

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide the information you seek without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us again. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Tipton or Indianapolis, Kokomo or Bloomington, Scottsburg or Vincennes, East Chicago or South Bend, Decatur or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, Michigan, or Illinois.

There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of family options from which you can choose, all of whom are wonderful, carefully screened, loving families FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices about which family adopts your baby and the extent of contact you want after the child’s birth.

You can call, text and or email us anytime – call/text: 800-333-5736, contact us, or Facebook message. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.

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WILL I GET TO SEE MY BABY AS IT GROWS IF I PUT MY BABY UP FOR ADOPTION?

If you want to visit your child after you put my baby up for adoption or, more correctly, make an adoption plan for your baby, ask yourself this question: Do I want to see the child because I want to be a part of the child’s life or do I just want to see for myself that my child is okay?

If to remain a part of the child’s life, you should reconsider whether adoption is in the best interests of your child and your own best interests. If you proceed with an adoption, it is highly unlikely that you will have a meaningful enough relationship with the child to satisfy your need to remain a part of the child’s life, and you should be cautious of a national adoption agency, local adoption agency, or adoption facilitator who makes that promise to you. As a legal matter, adoption terminates the parental rights of the birth parents. 

However, if your desire to visit the child is to see for yourself that the child is doing well, you might want to consider whether photos, letters, and even videos might satisfy your needs. We at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, PC (“Kirsh & Kirsh”) have insisted that adoptive parents provide updates to their birth parents, and, with few exceptions, this arrangement has worked out well for all concerned. We advise adoptive parents to honestly assess what they will feel comfortable doing as to updates – that way, birth parents are never disappointed if the adoptive parents under-promise and over-deliver when agreeing to provide letters and photographs to birth parents. 

If you would like to explore adoption, we at Kirsh & Kirsh — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. 

The four adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh have over 100 years of combined legal experience arranging adoptions.  Kirsh & Kirsh has been in existence since 1981. As attorneys, we at Kirsh & Kirsh have very high standards for the prospective adoptive parents we choose to represent. In most situations, we can provide you with as many profiles of prospective adoptive parents as you would like to receive. All of our waiting families are carefully screened and thoroughly investigated. We will arrange for you to have contact with the family you choose on your terms, without families trying to reach you at all hours of the day or night. 

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide the information you seek without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us again. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Terre Haute or Indianapolis, Columbus or Martinsville, Vincennes or Evansville, Goshen or South Bend, Huntington or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, Michigan, or Illinois.

There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of family options from which you can choose, all of whom are wonderful, carefully screened, loving families FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices about which family adopts your baby and the extent of contact you want after the child’s birth.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime – call/ text: 800-333-5736, contact us, or Facebook message. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption.”  If we do not include those words in our blog posts and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby,” then our website will not show up in most expectant moms’ search results in Google.