This question occupies the minds of many, if not all, birth parents who consider giving their newborns and older children up for adoption, or more correctly, making an adoption plan for their child/children. It would be hard not to have such a concern. However, while a parent may consider their child’s opinion about a decision, a parent MUST make decisions based upon what the parent believes serves the child’s best interests, even if the child believes otherwise. Effective parenting is not about garnering the child’s approval but doing what the PARENT believes best serves the child’s present and future well-being. This is especially true as the size of the decision increases. If a parent occasionally allows their child to stay up late rather than going to bed at a reasonable hour, deferring to the child may result in a cranky, tired child the next morning, but it will have little long-term impact on the child’s life. But always allowing a child to spend time playing video games instead of doing their homework will have big consequences for the child’s future. A birth mother who believes that an adoptive home gives her child the best chance to realize his or her full potential, as a productive member of society is UNQUESTIONABLY a course of action that a birth mother needs to make regardless of what the child may think of the decision at some future time. So, in direct answer to the question posed above –your child may not understand why you put the child up for adoption, but, as a parent you must do what YOU believe is best for the child. By the way, it is also quite possible that in the right adoptive home, where you as the birth mother are celebrated for the being the hero that you are, the child may very well come to love you for the decision. 

If you would like more information about adoption and available living expenses during and after your pregnancy, we, at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – would be happy to help. Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant, pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. 

At Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, the four adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh have over 100 years of combined legal experience arranging adoptions. Kirsh & Kirsh has been in existence since 1981. We know Indiana Adoption Law inside and out. We can find a wonderful home for your baby regardless of your social and medical history. Please be honest with us and do not worry that no one will want your baby.  There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families, FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices about which family adopts your baby and the extent of contacts you want after the child’s birth. Conversely, if you do not wish to choose the family, we will pick the best family on your behalf.

As attorneys, we at Kirsh & Kirsh, have very high standards for the prospective adoptive parents we choose to represent. All our waiting families are carefully screened and thoroughly investigated. We will arrange for you to have contact with the family you choose on your terms, without families trying to reach you at all hours of the day or night. 

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Terre Haute or Indianapolis, Shelbyville or Bloomington, Evansville or Sellersburg, Hammond or South Bend, Auburn or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, Michigan, or Illinois.

You can call, text and or email us anytime – call/ text: 800-333-5736contact us, or Facebook message. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.

Great Question and a reason you should work with an experienced, ethical adoption professional, whether it is a national adoption agency, local adoption agency, or adoption professionals like the adoption law firm of Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (Kirsh & Kirsh). The four Kirsh attorneys have over 100 years of combined legal experience arranging adoptions. Also, Kirsh & Kirsh has been in existence since 1981 and has over 600 5-star Google reviews. 

Secondly, you should consider a wide variety of prospective adoptive parents. It is not likely you would marry the first person you dated! If your best friend tells you that she knows a family who wants to adopt and you choose that family, you have based your decision on the recommendation of, perhaps, a well-intentioned friend, but probably not a person qualified to determine if her friend has the qualifications to adopt much less provide the necessary opportunities, support, and guidance for your child to live a productive, happy life.  Again, the experience of Kirsh & Kirsh will provide you with additional peace of mind.

Thirdly, adoption professionals like Kirsh & Kirsh will give you the opportunity to read about, talk with, and even meet prospective adoptive parents, if you wish. Trust your instincts. It will not take long for you to feel a connection with prospective adoptive parents or not. 

Lastly, and most importantly you need to understand that in life, there are no guarantees about anything. Frankly, if you are being honest with yourself, you will realize there are no guarantees that if you decide to parent your child, you will have made the best decision for your child. All you can do with any important life-decision is gather as much information as possible, trust your instincts, and have faith that things will work out for the best. 

If you would like more information about adoption and available living expenses during and after your pregnancy, we, at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant, pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. 

Not only do the four adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh have over 100 years of combined legal experience arranging adoptions, Kirsh & Kirsh has been in existence since 1981. As attorneys, we at Kirsh & Kirsh have extremely high standards for the prospective adoptive parents we choose to represent. All our waiting families are carefully screened and thoroughly investigated. We will arrange for you to have contact with the family you choose on your terms, without families trying to reach you at all hours of the day or night. 

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Kokomo or Indianapolis, Sellersburg or Bloomington, Evansville or Jasper, Michigan City or South Bend, Goshen or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, Michigan, or Illinois.

There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of family options from which you can choose, all of whom are wonderful, carefully screened, loving families FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices about which family adopts your baby and the extent of contact you want after the child’s birth.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime – call/text: 800-333-5736contact us, or Facebook message. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.

Receiving living expenses and getting money for the baby are NOT the same. Neither Indiana nor any other state allows adoptive parents to give a birth mother money for the baby. In fact, doing so would constitute the crime of “baby selling” in many states. As an example, Indiana Code § 35-46-1-9 makes it a felony to receive or pay moneyfor the baby. However, like many states, Indiana allows adoptive parents to give a birth mother or an expectant mother living expenses to help her with her pregnancy-related expenses during her pregnancy and for the postpartum period. 

If you have an untimely pregnancy or unplanned pregnancy and are thinking about giving your baby up for adoption or, more correctly, making an adoption plan for your young child or newborn and would like more information about living expenses or to explore adoption, we, at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”) — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant, pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. 

The four adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh have over 100 years of combined legal experience arranging adoptions.  Kirsh & Kirsh has been in existence since 1981. As attorneys, we at Kirsh & Kirsh, have very high standards for the prospective adoptive parents we choose to represent. All of our waiting families are carefully screened and thoroughly investigated. We will arrange for you to have contact with the family you choose on your terms, without families trying to reach you at all hours of the day or night. 

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Rushville or Indianapolis, Greenwood or Bloomington, Newburgh or Sullivan, Gary or South Bend, Rensselaer or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, Michigan, or Illinois.

There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of family options from which you can choose, all of whom are wonderful, carefully screened, loving families FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices about which family adopts your baby and the extent of contact you want after the child’s birth.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime – call/text: 800-333-5736contact us, or Facebook message. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption.”  If we do not include those words in our blog posts and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby,” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.