Dealing with an unexpected pregnancy and exploring the adoption options for your baby can be overwhelming. It can feel even more complex trying to understand the adoption process types, open and closed adoptions. So, what do these terms have to do with how the adoption process works? Those are choices that you can make to define the level of contact you would like to have with the adoptive family before and after giving birth. 

Open Adoption: 

Open adoption can help you stay connected with your child after birth. It describes the extent to which a birth mother and adoptive parent can share information both before and after giving her baby up for adoption. It can give you a sense of comfort and ease knowing your baby is in good hands and well-cared for. 

Closed Adoption:

In this kind of adoption, the birth mother and the adoptive family will have no contact both before and after the placement of the child. It may be more difficult for birth parents to deal with their grief and find closure, and adoptive parents may not have access to the medical history when needed.

Still Confused? Contact Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh” — often misspelled as “Kirsch & Kirsch”). 

We are well-known adoption attorneys licensed in Indiana and believe every adoption situation is unique. Choosing between these two types of adoption is a personal decision and depends on what a birthmother feels is best for her and her child. 

We at Kirsh & Kirsh have over 100 years of combined legal experience in Indiana Adoptions. We know adoption laws inside and out. In all the adoptions done by our team, the birth mother and the adoptive family share a lot of information before signing the adoption consent. In modern adoptions, we have seen birth mothers more inclined to open adoptions. While it is rare for birth mothers to make this choice, some of them still choose closed adoption. Some people refer to “closed” adoptions as “confidential” adoptions. 

In the end, the level of openness depends upon the comfort level of both parties involved. We tailor each adoption to the wants and needs of the birth parents and adoptive parents. You may find that a cross between open and closed adoptions works best for you. So, your choice matters the most. 

We work with birth parents all over the country, but we mainly focus on Indiana, Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, Michigan, and Illinois. We do not advocate a ONE-SIZE FITS ALL approach when we handle adoptions. Contact us if you would like to understand more about your unexpected pregnancy options. It is FREE and Confidential. To contact us, call/text 800-333-5736. You can also get in touch with us through email

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blogs are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans. Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms who come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for pregnant moms is “How do I give up my baby for adoption.”  If we do not include those words in our blog posts and instead put “How do I create an adoption plan for my baby,” then our website will not show up in most expectant moms’ search results in Google.

Let’s start with two obvious facts: (1) You cannot undo the fact that you ARE pregnant, and (2) you will give birth to a baby. None of us can change the past. What has happened has already happened — as the expression goes, “You can’t unring the bell.” You need to change your focus to how to make the best of what you consider a bad situation, if you are not happy about being pregnant. Most importantly, you are now responsible for the life of an innocent child, and you need to make the best decision for him or her. 

For most women facing an untimely pregnancy or unplanned pregnancy, they intentionally or unintentionally (by not making other plans) decide to parent the child. In most situations that decision works out well for the mother and child. For those successfully parenting women, who did not plan to get pregnant, they take on the challenge of parenting a child for the rest of their lives and do it well. 

However, not everyone has the desire, skill, and resources to dedicate their lives to the responsibility of raising a child. For those women, they need to look for other alternatives. Some will find that their parents will happily, or out of a sense of obligation to a grandchild, take on the responsibility parenting the child. 

Another alternative, which does not get nearly enough attention, is to put the baby up for adoption, or, more correctly, to make an adoption plan for the child. Nothing will change the fact of the pregnancy, but giving newborn the gift of a loving, secure, happy home and adoptive parents, desperate for a child, the gift of parenthood may just be the best way to turn a bad, even hopeless, situation into the best outcome for all involved, including the birth mother. Not often can any of us change the lives of others in a meaningful way. To give a child the opportunity for a productive happy life and adoptive parents a child to nurture and love is a close to God-like as anything one human can do for another. 

If you would like to explore adoption, we, at Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C.  — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant, pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. 

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide you with the information you seek without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us again. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Fishers or Indianapolis, Westfield or Lafayette, Evansville or Merrillville, South Bend or Granger, Marion or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, or Michigan.

There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of family options from which you can choose, all of whom are wonderful, carefully screened, loving families FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices regarding which family adopts your baby & extent of contact you want after the child’s birth.

You can call, text and or email us anytime – call/text: 800-333-5736contact us, or Facebook message. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption.”  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant moms’ search results on Google.

To answer the second question first – ABSOLUTELY, we at Kirsh & Kirsh can help you find a fantastic, carefully screened and thoroughly investigated, loving home for your baby if you decide to give up your baby for adoption, or, more correctly stated, make an adoption plan for your soon-to-be-born or newborn baby.

Kirsh & Kirsh is an adoption-only law firm that helps both expectant mothers find loving homes for their precious children and newborns and hopeful adoptive parents find babies to adopt. It provides many of the same functions as a national adoption agency and local adoption agency but does not perform pre-adoptive home studies for prospective adoptive parents nor does it provide counseling for birth parents. Kirsh & Kirsh contracts with independent agencies and counselors to fulfill those roles. In terms of the number of successful adoptive placements and combined legal experience, Kirsh & Kirsh ranks highest among all adoption law firms in Indiana, the Midwest, and, perhaps, the country. The firm has more than 500, 5-Star Google reviews and over 12,000 followers on Facebook.

Steve Kirsh co-founded the firm in 1981 and began handling adoptions in the early 1980s. As the number of adoptions increased, Steve needed help, which is when Joel Kirsh, Steve’s brother got involved in facilitating adoptions. Steve served as president and treasurer of the American Academy of Adoption Attorneys, an internationally recognized association of adoption and ARTs attorneys; received an Angels in Adoption Award by the United States Congress; represented the United States as part of the US delegation to the final drafting session of the Hague Convention on Inter-country Adoption; has made significant contributions to amending Indiana’s adoption laws, which a number of states have copied because Indiana’s laws are among the best in the country. For his efforts, the Indiana General Assembly afforded Steve special recognition. Steve also authored the Adoption Protocol used by nearly all Indiana Hospitals.

Joel Kirsh handles step-parent and family adoptions for the firm, in addition to assisting with newborn adoptions. His knowledge and experience make Joel a valuable member of Kirsh & Kirsh.

After graduating from law school in 2014, Grant Kirsh, Steve’s son, joined the firm and, in a short time, has become a leading attorney in the State of Indiana in foster care adoptions through the Indiana Department of Child Services, more commonly known as DCS.

Rob Kirsh joined Kirsh & Kirsh in 2018. In addition to being licensed to practice law in Indiana, Rob also holds law licenses in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, and Michigan, expanding the adoption practice of Kirsh & Kirsh to most of the Midwest.

We, at Kirsh & Kirsh — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called, pride ourselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. We cannot make adoption an easy choice, but we can make it less scary by removing some of the unknowns. Ultimately, a birth parent will have to decide if adoption is in their own best interests and the best interests of their child. We, at Kirsh & Kirsh, will not and cannot make that decision for anyone, but we can provide information and answers to questions – that way, you can make a well-informed decision.

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide you with the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. The Kirsh Boys have 90 YEARS OF COMBINED EXPERIENCE practicing adoption law. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Bargersville or Indianapolis, Bedford or Columbus, Evansville or New Albany, South Bend or Lafayette, Shelbyville or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, or Michigan.

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families, FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime -call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or Facebook message: https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant moms’ search results in Google.