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MY FRIEND ASKED ME TO ADOPT HER NEWBORN BABY. SHOULD I DO IT?

The way you answer has huge consequences for the birthmother, you, and the child. Therefore, take time to think about it before you answer. Obviously, your friend – the birthmother – must trust you, and you may feel honored for her to have even asked you the question. In deciding what to do, here are a few things to consider:

Most importantly, do you want a child (or another child if you already have a child or children)? If the answer is not 100% “Yes,” there is no need to read further. You have your answer.
Unless you are the father of the baby, it is NOT your responsibility to assume the life-long commitment of parenting the child, no matter how desperate your friend is. Do not feel obligated to help your friend.
How will your parenting the child affect your relationship with your friend? What if she wants to make parenting decisions for you, especially if those decisions differ from yours? What if she starts treating you more like a babysitter than the parent of the child? What if, etc?
What is in the child’s best interests? Should you suggest to your friend that she consider other options, such as having a family member of hers help, temporary foster care, or adoption?

If you would like more information about adoption and available living expenses during and after pregnancy for your friend, we at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant, pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment.

Not only do the four adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh have over 100 years of combined legal experience arranging adoptions, Kirsh & Kirsh has been in existence since 1981. As attorneys, we at Kirsh & Kirsh have very high standards for the prospective adoptive parents we choose to represent. All our waiting families are carefully screened and thoroughly investigated. We will arrange for the expectant mother to have contact with the family she chooses on her own terms, without families trying to reach her at all hours of the day or night.

Our contact information is below. We will answer questions and provide information without cost or obligation. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you or she will ever have to talk or text with us, again. We can help in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL adoptive home for her precious baby, whether she lives in Crawfordsville or Indianapolis, Kokomo or Bloomington, New Albany or Evansville, Hammond or South Bend, Warsaw or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, Michigan, or Illinois.

There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of family options from which you can choose, all of whom are wonderful, carefully screened, loving families FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices about which family adopts your baby and the extent of contact you want after the child’s birth.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime – call/text: 800-333-5736, c ontact us, or Facebook message. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER: Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans. Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms who come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption.” If we do not include those words in our blog posts and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby,” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.

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I AM PREGNANT AND THINKING ABOUT PUTTING MY BABY UP FOR ADOPTION BUT I AM AFRAID THAT DCS WILL GET INVOLVED AND TAKE THE BABY FROM THE HOSPITAL. WHAT CAN I DO?

The department of child services (or whatever it is called in your state) will not get involved simply because you give up your baby for adoption. Making an adoption plan for your child does not endanger your child causing child protective services to intervene. However, if you have already had problems with DCS and do not want DCS to take custody of your child and put your child in the “System,” your best option is to make arrangements for an adoptive placement before you give birth with adoption professionals like Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”), whose 4 attorneys have over 100 years of combined legal experience helping birth mothers find loving, wonderful, carefully-screened homes for the precious soon-to-be-born babies and newborns. Another alternative is to contact a counselor at a local adoption agency or national adoption and ask the agency to provide counseling to you about your options — including foster care.

If you have an unplanned pregnancy or an untimely pregnancy and are thinking about putting your baby up for adoption and would like more information about living expenses or to explore adoption, we, at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant, pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment.

Not only do the four adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh have over 100 years of combined legal experience arranging adoptions, Kirsh & Kirsh has been in existence since 1981. As attorneys, we at Kirsh & Kirsh, have very high standards for the prospective adoptive parents we choose to represent. All our waiting families are carefully screened and thoroughly investigated. We will arrange for you to have contact with the family you choose on your terms, without families trying to reach you at all hours of the day or night.

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Camby or Indianapolis, Kokomo or Bloomington, Sellersburg or Evansville, Michigan City or South Bend, Angola or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, Michigan, or Illinois.

There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of family options from which you can choose, all of whom are wonderful, carefully screened, loving families FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices about which family adopts your baby and the extent of contact you want after the child’s birth.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime – call/text: 800-333-5736, contact us, or Facebook message. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER: Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans. Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”. If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.

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CAN I SPEND TIME WITH THE BABY IN THE HOSPITAL/DO I HAVE TO SEE THE BABY AT THE HOSPITAL IF I GIVE THE BABY UP FOR ADOPTION?

A birth mother has the sole right to decide how much, if any, time she spends with her baby in the hospital if she gives the baby up for adoption or, more correctly, makes an adoption plan for the baby. Neither under Indiana law nor the law of any other state can a woman sign a binding consent to adoption BEFORE she gives birth. Before signing a consent to adoption, the birth mother has total CONTROL, in the hospital, over how much time, if any, she chooses to spend with her baby. If an adoption agency or adoption attorney tells her otherwise, she needs to look for another adoption attorney or adoption agency to help her facilitate her adoption plan. We, at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”) respect a woman’s right to spend all of the time she wants with her baby in the hospital BOTH BEFORE AND AFTER she signs her consent to adoption. The adoptive parents represented by Kirsh & Kirsh understand that all women have different ways of saying goodbye to their babies. While nothing they do will make the goodbye EASY, they know that making her feel guilty about wanting to spend time with her baby or rushing a birth mother will make the process MORE DIFFICULT.

If you would like to explore adoption, we at Kirsh & Kirsh — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – Steve and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant, have 90 years of combined legal experience arranging adoptions and pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment.

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide the information you seek without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us again. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Mooresville or Indianapolis, Scottsburg or Clarksville, Evansville or Huntingburg, South Bend or Elkhart, Warsaw or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, Michigan, or Illinois.

There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of family options from which you can choose, all of whom are wonderful, carefully screened, loving families FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices about which family adopts your baby and the extent of contact you want after the child’s birth.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime – call/text: 800-333-5736, contact us, or Facebook message. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER: Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans. Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption.” If we do not include those words in our blog posts and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby,” then our website will not show up in most expectant moms’ search results in Google.

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DOES INDIANA REQUIRE A HOMESTUDY PRIOR TO AN ADOPTIVE PLACEMENT?

Yes, Indiana Code § 31-19-7-1(a) states: “A child may not be placed in a proposed adoptive home without the prior written approval of a licensed child placing agency or the local office approved for that purpose by the department.” Pre-adoptive approval includes a criminal check, as set forth in Indiana Code § 31-9-2-22.5, of all persons, at least eighteen years old, living in the proposed adoptive home. Indiana Code § 31-19-7-1(b). Additionally, the attorney filing the petition for adoption must file the prior written approval with the petition for adoption, as required by Indiana Code § 31-19-7-7-3. Of note, this statute does not require the filing of the home study with the petition for adoption. Typically, we, at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”), file what we call a “Dear Judge Letter” with the petition for adoption. As the name suggests, the letter begins “Dear Judge.” The adoption agency that completes the home study provides us a letter verifying that the adoption agency has approved the prospective adoptive parents for an adoptive placement and will supervise the placement and submit a report in accordance with Indiana Code §31-19-8.

Isabella Caprario wrote an excellent article about home studies, which addresses many of the commonly asked questions and concerns about home studies.

For more information about adopting a child in Indiana, Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, Michigan, and any state other than New York, please contact us at Kirsh & Kirsh.

Additionally, if you are pregnant and considering giving up your baby for adoption, or more correctly, making an adoption plan for your baby, please contact us. We, at Kirsh & Kirsh — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant, pride ourselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. We cannot make adoption an easy choice, but we can make it less scary by removing some of the unknowns. Ultimately, a birth parent will have to decide if adoption is in their own best interests and the best interests of their child. We, at Kirsh & Kirsh, will not and cannot make that decision for anyone, but we can provide information and answers to questions – that way, you can make a well-informed decision.

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide you with the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. The Kirsh Boys have 90 YEARS OF COMBINED EXPERIENCE practicing adoption law. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Westfield or Indianapolis, Bedford or Columbus, Evansville or Huntingburg, or South Bend or Elkhart, Angola or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, or Michigan.

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families, FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime -call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or Facebook message: https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER: Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans. Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”. If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant moms’ search results in Google.

Birthmother

A LOCAL ADOPTION AGENCY TOLD ME THAT I SHOULD NOT WORK WITH ADOPTION ATTORNEYS KIRSH & KIRSH, P.C. (“KIRSH & KIRSH’) BECAUSE THEY REPRESENT THE ADOPTIVE PARENTS AND DON’T CARE ABOUT BIRTH MOTHERS. IS THAT TRUE?

Kirsh & Kirsh usually represents the prospective adoptive parents, BUT IT IS ABSOLUTELY FALSE that Kirsh & Kirsh does not care about birth mothers. Nothing could be further from the truth. We have arranged adoptions in Indiana for more than 35 years. Over that time, we have earned an excellent reputation with expectant mothers and birth mothers because of the genuine concern and care we show them. We know that birth mothers are heroes. Nothing demonstrates a parent’s love for her child more than putting her child’s needs ahead of her own. We treat birth mothers with the kindness and respect they deserve – it is just the right thing to do and consistent with the interests of our clients, the prospective adoptive parents.

We tell expectant mothers at our first meeting with them that we are not their attorneys, what they tell us is not confidential or subject to attorney-client privilege and cannot provide legal advice to them. However, we give birth parents information about loving, carefully screened, prospective adoptive parents, make all the arrangements for the adoption, and remain available 24/7/365 during their pregnancy and after to answer their non-legal questions. In the 90 years of combined experience practicing adoption in Indiana, our 4 attorneys have found that rarely do the questions expectant mothers ask involve legal advice, and when a birth mother asks a question that calls for legal advice, we arrange for them to speak with their own attorney, at NO EXPENSE to them.

We pride ourselves on the relationship we have with birth mothers and appreciate the referrals of new birth mothers by those women, who have previously placed their babies up for adoption, or more correctly made an adoption plan for their babies, make to us. THANK YOU FOR YOUR CONTINUED SUPPORT.

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide you the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. Our adoption attorneys have 90 YEARS OF COMBINED EXPERIENCE practicing adoption law. We can help you find an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Westfield or Indianapolis, Columbus or Shelbyville, Evansville or Jasper, or Warsaw or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, or Kentucky.

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families, FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY(married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the full extent allowed by law.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime —call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or a Facebook message: https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER: Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans. Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”. If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.

Birthmother

I PLAN TO GIVE UP MY BABY FOR ADOPTION. WHAT WILL HAPPEN AT THE HOSPITAL?

Often pregnant women, who contact us at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”) about placing their babies up for adoption, or more correctly, making an adoption plan for their babies, want to know what will happen in the hospital.

We, at Kirsh & Kirsh, give birth mothers total control over what takes place at the hospital, including who the birth mother chooses to have in labor and delivery with her, who can see and spend time with the baby after birth, how much time the birth mother spends with the baby, whether she wants to care for the baby in the hospital herself or have the nurses or adoptive parents do so, and when she wants the adoptive parents to arrive at the hospital – for labor and delivery, after delivery, prior to her discharge from the hospital, or at any other time. In short, the birth mother makes ALL decisions for the baby and her in the hospital.

Additionally, at Kirsh & Kirsh, we make sure that the birth mother can spend time with the baby, even after she signs her consent to the adoption.

When the baby is ready for discharge from the hospital, the baby leaves into the loving arms of the adoptive parent(s). Kirsh & Kirsh does not require intermediate foster care nor will the Indiana or Tennessee Department of Children Services (“DCS”), the Mississippi Department of Child Protective Services (“CPS”), nor the Kentucky Child Protection Branch (“CHFS”) have any involvement in an adoption arranged by Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh.

Over the last 35+ years, we, at Kirsh & Kirsh, have assisted many pregnant women, in Indiana, Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, and around the country, with finding loving, happy, wonderful homes for their babies. We give expectant mothers and birth mothers as much or as little involvement in the family selection process as they would like.

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and happy to assist with living expenses to the full extent allowed by law.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime —call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or a Facebook message: https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

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