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HOW CAN I IMPROVE MY LIFE IF I PLACE MY CHILD FOR ADOPTION?

While likely not the first thing a birth mother contemplates putting her baby up for adoption or, more correctly, making an adoption plan, it is something to consider. Not many times in our lives do we get “do-overs.” We often find ourselves in a situation when we think to ourselves, “Next time I will know better or do it differently.” If you put up your baby for adoption through a local adoption agency, national adoption agency, or adoption professionals like Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”), you get the chance to change the trajectory of your life. Imagine the range of things you could do if you did not have the responsibility of caring for a baby until the child reaches adulthood – while knowing that you have given a family the most precious gift one human being can give another – a child. Also, knowing that you have given your child the gift of devoted, loving parents, who can give your child everything you would want for her or him. 

If you would like more information about adoption and available living expenses during and after your pregnancy, we, at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh (“Kirsh & Kirsh”) — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – would be happy to help. Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant, pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. 

At Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, the four adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh have over 100 years of combined legal experience arranging adoptions. Kirsh & Kirsh has been in existence since 1981. We know Indiana Adoption Law inside and out. We can find a wonderful home for your baby regardless of your social and medical history. Please be honest with us and do not worry that no one will want your baby.  There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families, FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices about which family adopts your baby and the extent of contacts you want after the child’s birth. Conversely, if you do not wish to choose the family, we will pick the best family on your behalf.

As attorneys, we at Kirsh & Kirsh, have very high standards for the prospective adoptive parents we choose to represent. All our waiting families are carefully screened and thoroughly investigated. We will arrange for you to have contact with the family you choose on your terms, without families trying to reach you at all hours of the day or night. 

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Carmel or Indianapolis, Sellersburg or Columbus, Evansville or Tell City, Gary or South Bend, Warsaw or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, Michigan, or Illinois.

You can call, text and or email us anytime – call/text: 800-333-5736, contact us, or Facebook message. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.

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WILL THE CHILD I GAVE UP FOR ADOPTION HATE ME BECAUSE THE SIBLINGS GET TO STAY WITH ME?

That is a difficult question to answer, but if that is your biggest concern in deciding whether to put up your child for adoption, you probably should not do an adoption. Of course, children can find all kinds of reasons – some real and some imaginary — to hate their parents completely unrelated to an adoptive placement. As parents our job is to do our best to raise our children to enable them to reach their full potential as productive members of society. Therefore, maybe, the question you should ask yourself is “Can I do that for the children I presently have AND the child I am about to have if I do not give up the newborn for adoption?” Adoption professionals – adoption agencies and adoption attorneys — refer to it as making an “adoption plan,” because that is what a birth mother does, when she decides adoption gives her child (and children she will continue to parent) the best opportunities to lead successful lives. 

If you would like more information about adoption and available living expenses during and after your pregnancy, we, at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh (“Kirsh & Kirsh”) — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – would be happy to help. Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant, pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. 

At Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, the four adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh have over 100 years of combined legal experience arranging adoptions. Kirsh & Kirsh has been in existence since 1981. We know Indiana Adoption Law inside and out. We can find a wonderful home for your baby regardless of your social and medical history. Please be honest with us and do not worry that no one will want your baby.  There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families, FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices about which family adopts your baby and the extent of contacts you want after the child’s birth. Conversely, if you do not wish to choose the family, we will pick the best family on your behalf.

As attorneys, we at Kirsh & Kirsh, have very high standards for the prospective adoptive parents we choose to represent. All our waiting families are carefully screened and thoroughly investigated. We will arrange for you to have contact with the family you choose on your terms, without families trying to reach you at all hours of the day or night. 

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Plainfield or Indianapolis, Madison or Columbus, Evansville or Newburgh, Gary or South Bend, Wabash or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, Michigan, or Illinois.

You can call, text and or email us anytime – call/text: 800-333-5736, contact us, or Facebook message. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.

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WHAT DO I TELL MY OTHER CHILDREN ABOUT WHY I PLACED THEIR NEWBORN BROTHER OR SISTER FOR ADOPTION?

When talking with children, it is important to provide age-appropriate information and be honest. Obviously, how you explain it to a 5-year-old will differ from what you tell a 15-year-old. For a 5-year-old, as an example, you may want to say something like: “Mommy had a very difficult decision to make and did what she believed was best for you and the baby,” and not go into any more detail.  For the 15-year-old, you may want to explain the reasons that went into your decision. 

However, you need to keep in my mind two very important points, regardless of the age of your children:

  1. You are the parent and the one responsible for caring for your children. With all parental decisions, it is up to YOU to do what is best for your children, even if your children disagree with you.
  2. Seek input from your children, if you want, but you cannot allow children to rule the household, especially with a decision of this magnitude.  

If you would like more information about adoption and available living expenses during and after your pregnancy, we, at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh (“Kirsh & Kirsh”) — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – would be happy to help. Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant, pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. 

At Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, the four adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh have over 100 years of combined legal experience arranging adoptions. Kirsh & Kirsh has been in existence since 1981. We know Indiana Adoption Law inside and out. We can find a wonderful home for your baby regardless of your social and medical history. Please be honest with us and do not worry that no one will want your baby.  There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families, FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices about which family adopts your baby and the extent of contacts you want after the child’s birth. Conversely, if you do not wish to choose the family, we will pick the best family on your behalf.

As attorneys, we at Kirsh & Kirsh, have very high standards for the prospective adoptive parents we choose to represent. All our waiting families are carefully screened and thoroughly investigated. We will arrange for you to have contact with the family you choose on your terms, without families trying to reach you at all hours of the day or night. 

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Noblesville or Indianapolis, Columbus or Bloomington, Evansville or Terre Haute, Michigan City or South Bend, Auburn or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, Michigan, or Illinois.

You can call, text and or email us anytime – call/ text: 800-333-5736, contact us, or Facebook message. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.

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REASONS TO CONSIDER PUTTING YOUR BABY UP FOR ADOPTION

If you have an unexpected pregnancy, unplanned pregnancy, unwanted pregnancy, or untimely pregnancy and are thinking about giving your baby up for adoption, or, more correctly, making an adoption plan for the baby, and you may want to think about the following:

  1. As much as you may want to “undo” the pregnancy, you cannot. Abortion will end the pregnancy but not change the fact of the pregnancy.  Therefore, you need to think about what impact the decision you make now will affect you going forward.
  2. If you were not trying to get pregnant and were not now pregnant, would this be the time in your life when you would plan to have a child?
  3. What goals do you have for yourself? How will raising a child or another child impact those goals? (If you don’t have goals for yourself – why not?)
  4. What goals do you have for the child you are now carrying? Does your parenting the child or making an adoption plan or another alternative give you the best chance of assuring that your child reaches those goals? 

If you would like more information about adoption and available living expenses during and after your pregnancy, we, at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant, pride ourselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. 

Not only do the four adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh have over 100 years of combined legal experience arranging adoptions, Kirsh & Kirsh has been in existence since 1981. As attorneys, we at Kirsh & Kirsh, have very high standards for the prospective adoptive parents we choose to represent. All our waiting families are carefully screened and thoroughly investigated. We will arrange for you to have contact with the family you choose on your terms, without families trying to reach you at all hours of the day or night. 

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us again. We can help you find an AMAZING, WONDERFUL adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Danville or Indianapolis, Bedford or Bloomington, Evansville or Newburgh, Merrillville or South Bend, Huntington or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, Michigan, or Illinois.

There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of family options from which you can choose, all of whom are wonderful, carefully screened, loving families FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices about which family adopts your baby and the extent of contact you want after the child’s birth.

You can call, text and or email us anytime – call/text: 800-333-5736, contact us, or Facebook message. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption.”  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.

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MY FRIEND ASKED ME TO ADOPT HER NEWBORN BABY. SHOULD I DO IT?

The way you answer has huge consequences for the birthmother, you, and the child. Therefore, take time to think about it before you answer. Obviously, your friend – the birthmother – must trust you, and you may feel honored for her to have even asked you the question. In deciding what to do, here are a few things to consider:

  1. Most importantly, do you want a child (or another child if you already have a child or children)? If the answer is not 100% “Yes,” there is no need to read further. You have your answer. 
  2. Unless you are the father of the baby, it is NOT your responsibility to assume the life-long commitment of parenting the child, no matter how desperate your friend is. Do not feel obligated to help your friend.
  3. How will your parenting the child affect your relationship with your friend? What if she wants to make parenting decisions for you, especially if those decisions differ from yours? What if she starts treating you more like a babysitter than the parent of the child? What if, etc?
  4. What is in the child’s best interests? Should you suggest to your friend that she consider other options, such as having a family member of hers help, temporary foster care, or adoption?

If you would like more information about adoption and available living expenses during and after pregnancy for your friend, we at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant, pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. 

Not only do the four adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh have over 100 years of combined legal experience arranging adoptions, Kirsh & Kirsh has been in existence since 1981. As attorneys, we at Kirsh & Kirsh have very high standards for the prospective adoptive parents we choose to represent. All our waiting families are carefully screened and thoroughly investigated. We will arrange for the expectant mother to have contact with the family she chooses on her own terms, without families trying to reach her at all hours of the day or night. 

Our contact information is below. We will answer questions and provide information without cost or obligation. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you or she will ever have to talk or text with us, again. We can help in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL adoptive home for her precious baby, whether she lives in Crawfordsville or Indianapolis, Kokomo or Bloomington, New Albany or Evansville, Hammond or South Bend, Warsaw or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, Michigan, or Illinois.

There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of family options from which you can choose, all of whom are wonderful, carefully screened, loving families FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices about which family adopts your baby and the extent of contact you want after the child’s birth.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime – call/text: 800-333-5736, contact us, or Facebook message. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms who come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption.”  If we do not include those words in our blog posts and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby,” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.

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WHAT IS THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN AN OPEN ADOPTION AND CLOSED ADOPTION?

Closed adoption, sometimes referred to as a confidential adoption, and open adoption describe the extent to which adoptive parents and birth parents (typically birth mothers) share information both before and after the birth of the child. But, these words do not have universal meanings. Open adoption means different things to different people. For example, some would say that if an adoption does not involve post-placement visitation between the birth mother and child, the adoption is closed. Others believe that the exchange of ANY information before placement or providing written and/or photographic updates after placement makes an adoption open. Accordingly, a pregnant woman or woman who has already given birth and considering putting up their baby for adoption, or more correctly, making an adoption plan for their baby, should ask the adoption agency or adoption attorney whom they have chosen what those words mean in that adoption program. 

In nearly all of the adoptions Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, PC (“Kirsh & Kirsh”) arranges, the adoptive parents and expectant mother share lots of information about each other before the birth parents sign consent to the adoption. Additionally, the adoptive parents send letters and photographs to the birth mother and birth father, if he is involved, after placement. In some adoptions, the birth mother and adoptive parents desire a more open adoption involving post-placement visits between the birth parents and the child. Of course, the degree of openness depends upon the wishes and comfort level of BOTH the birth parents and the adoptive parents. In our years of experience, we have found that some birth mothers want a very closed or confidential adoption, and others prefer a more open arrangement. For that reason, we at Kirsh & Kirsh tailor each adoption to the wants and needs of the birth parents and adoptive parents. We do NOT advocate a ONE SIZE FITS ALL approach when we handle adoptions, nor do we have to consult with a board of directors, as an adoption agency might, if the parties want to try something unique. 

If you would like to explore adoption, we, at Kirsh & Kirsh — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant, pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. 

The four adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh have over 100 years of combined legal experience arranging adoptions.  Kirsh & Kirsh has been in existence since 1981. As attorneys, we at Kirsh & Kirsh, have very high standards for the prospective adoptive parents we choose to represent. All of our waiting families are carefully screened and thoroughly investigated. We will arrange for you to have contact with the family you choose on your terms, without families trying to reach you at all hours of the day or night. 

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Westfield or Indianapolis, North Vernon or Bloomington, Jasper or Evansville, LaPorte or South Bend, Auburn or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, Michigan, or Illinois.

There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of family options from which you can choose, all of whom are wonderful, carefully screened, loving families, FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices about which family adopts your baby and the extent of contacts you want after the child’s birth.

You can call, text and or email us anytime – call/text: 800-333-5736, contact us, or Facebook message. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption.”  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby,” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.