If you make any life decision based upon solid reasons, those reasons will bring comfort when you question your decision. However, even the most rational, well-thought-out, righteous decision can also cause sadness. Undoubtedly, every woman who has ever placed a baby for adoption has second-guessed themselves and experienced feelings of grief and sadness. Certainly, if you do not give up, or more correctly, make an adoption plan for, your baby, you will not suffer the grief and sadness that goes along parting with your child. However, if handled correctly, the grief associated with placing a baby for adoption subsides. Like losing a close friend or relative to death, one does not forget the lost friend or relative, but the acute pain lessens over time. Many adoption counselors would say the same about the feelings of loss associated with adoption.
However, a woman who does not proceed with an adoption plan, does not assure herself of a lifetime of happiness as a parent. Parenting is hard in the best of circumstances. Parenting without long term support and resources (not just money) can cause a lifetime of grief and sadness. Watching a child grow up knowing that you are not providing your child with opportunities that will allow him or her to reach their potential in life can create feelings of guilty and intense sadness that do not diminish with time.
If you question your emotional, financial (and etc.) readiness to parent your soon-to-be-born baby, you should look into adoption with a reputable adoption agency or an experienced adoption attorney. Under Indiana, Mississippi, Tennessee, Kentucky law and the laws of most states, even if you wanted to commit to an adoption before that baby is born, you cannot.
We at Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”) work with expectant and birth mothers considering adoption throughout Kentucky, Mississippi, Tennessee and Indiana and have talked to many women like you. We have lots of loving, carefully screened and investigated, prospective, adoptive parents who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes. You will find that we are nice, knowledgeable, and completely non-judgmental. We never pressure you to choose adoption. We will treat you with kindness and respect. Frankly, many of the women with whom we talk and even meet decide not to proceed with an adoption plan. That’s fine. We will arrange for you to speak with a counselor and your own attorney, if you wish, at NO COST to you. At least then, you can make a better-informed decision – at decision you can live with.
You may contact us at Kirsh & Kirsh without cost or obligation on your part. Birth mothers NEVER pay a fee to Kirsh & Kirsh. See what we have to offer before making the most important decision of your life. You can call, text and or email us anytime. We answer our office phone, 317-575-5555, 24/7/365. We also promptly respond to text messages at 317-721-2030 and email at AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.