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Birthmother

Is There Life After an Adoptive Placement?

Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”) have handled adoptions for more than 35 years, involving numerous successful placements. Kirsh & Kirsh began its adoption program in Indiana and has since extended its adoption program to provide adoption services to pregnant women in Tennessee, Mississippi, and Kentucky.

Last week, I, Steve Kirsh, had a birth mother sign a consent to adoption. I then went to the birth mother’s nurses’ station to give the nurses the chart copies of the documents the hospital needed. After reviewing each document with the charge nurse, the charge nursed asked Mary (not her real name), another OB nurse standing nearby in the nurse’s station, if she wanted to share anything with me. Mary then told me that when she was 19 years old, I met her at a hospital in Northeast Indiana to have her sign a consent to adoption for the baby she placed a baby for adoption through the Kirsh & Kirsh Adoption Program. Mary recounted that after giving up her baby for adoption or, more correctly, making an adoption plan for her baby, she graduated from college with a degree in nursing. She became a registered nurse, with advanced training in sub-specialty of maternity care. She and her husband (not the father of the baby) have been married for 20 years. Mary and her husband have 2 children. She recently had the chance to meet the child she placed for adoption years earlier, as well as her birth grandchild. She told me that adoption gave her the chance to see that her child would be loved and well cared for, while giving her the chance to realize her own dreams.

If you would like to explore adoption from your home or even from your hospital bed after you deliver, please contact us at Kirsh & Kirsh. We have helped many women find loving, secure, happy homes for their precious newborns. We can help you, too.

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes.

You can call, text and or email us anytime. To contact us—call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or Facebook message:  https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

Birthmother

I don’t know if I can do an adoption – I think it will kill me to be without my child

Do NOT believe anyone who tells you that giving a baby up for adoption, or more accurately, making an adoption plan for a baby is easy. IT IS NOT. There is no more difficult a decision than parting with a child – especially, the mother of a newborn who has felt the baby kick from the inside.

However, the decision has little, if anything, to do with wanting to make an adoptive placement. Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”), have met with, and or spoken to, 1000s of expectant mothers and birth mothers over the last 35+ years. Women to do not proceed with adoptions because the want to do it. In fact, in the typical newborn adoption Kirsh & Kirsh handles, the birth mother does not have to proceed with an adoption. These are not like adoptions in which the Department of Children (“DCS”) Services involuntarily terminates parental rights as part of child in need of services (“CHINS”) proceedings.

So, if moms do not want to proceed with an adoption and nobody is forcing them to give up their babies for adoption, why do they do it? They LOVE their precious newborns and want more for their children than they feel that they can provide themselves at that moment in their lives. Parents put the needs of their children ahead of their own interests. That is what good parents do.  Most certainly, a birth mother will grieve the loss of her child when she proceeds with an adoption. If avoiding grief were the only consideration, women would never place babies for adoption.  Parenting involves many things — the most important include providing safe, loving homes and secure and happy futures for children. Most parents fulfill those obligations personally. Those who cannot, look to other options such as help from family and friends and adoptive placements, among other options.

We, Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C., have handled more than 3500 successful adoptions over the last 35+ years.   You can call, text and or email us anytime. We answer our office phone, 317-575-5555, 24/7/365. We also promptly respond to text messages at 317-721-2030 and email at AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.