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MY FRIEND ASKED ME TO ADOPT HER NEWBORN BABY. SHOULD I DO IT?

The way you answer has huge consequences for the birthmother, you, and the child. Therefore, take time to think about it before you answer. Obviously, your friend – the birthmother – must trust you, and you may feel honored for her to have even asked you the question. In deciding what to do, here are a few things to consider:

  1. Most importantly, do you want a child (or another child if you already have a child or children)? If the answer is not 100% “Yes,” there is no need to read further. You have your answer. 
  2. Unless you are the father of the baby, it is NOT your responsibility to assume the life-long commitment of parenting the child, no matter how desperate your friend is. Do not feel obligated to help your friend.
  3. How will your parenting the child affect your relationship with your friend? What if she wants to make parenting decisions for you, especially if those decisions differ from yours? What if she starts treating you more like a babysitter than the parent of the child? What if, etc?
  4. What is in the child’s best interests? Should you suggest to your friend that she consider other options, such as having a family member of hers help, temporary foster care, or adoption?

If you would like more information about adoption and available living expenses during and after pregnancy for your friend, we at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant, pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. 

Not only do the four adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh have over 100 years of combined legal experience arranging adoptions, Kirsh & Kirsh has been in existence since 1981. As attorneys, we at Kirsh & Kirsh have very high standards for the prospective adoptive parents we choose to represent. All our waiting families are carefully screened and thoroughly investigated. We will arrange for the expectant mother to have contact with the family she chooses on her own terms, without families trying to reach her at all hours of the day or night. 

Our contact information is below. We will answer questions and provide information without cost or obligation. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you or she will ever have to talk or text with us, again. We can help in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL adoptive home for her precious baby, whether she lives in Crawfordsville or Indianapolis, Kokomo or Bloomington, New Albany or Evansville, Hammond or South Bend, Warsaw or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, Michigan, or Illinois.

There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of family options from which you can choose, all of whom are wonderful, carefully screened, loving families FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices about which family adopts your baby and the extent of contact you want after the child’s birth.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime – call/text: 800-333-5736, contact us, or Facebook message. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms who come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption.”  If we do not include those words in our blog posts and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby,” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.

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MY BABY WILL BE BORN ADDICTED TO DRUGS. WILL ANYONE WANT TO ADOPT MY BABY?

Because of the large number of prospective adoptive parents whom we represent, we, at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”), have many, carefully screened, loving families who would welcome in their hearts and homes a drug-addicted or drug-exposed newborn, even if the baby needed to stay in NICU for several days, while the baby went through drug withdrawals. We know that expectant mothers who consider adoption and birth mothers who give up their babies for adoption, or more correctly, make an adoption plan, for their babies, are heroes! Many of our moms try to quit using drugs when they find out they are pregnant. Some succeed. Some do not. We have a pool of waiting families who have told us a birth mother’s drug use and a baby’s addiction to drugs like Heroin and Meth will not stop them from wanting to adopt and providing the child with whatever special care the baby will need throughout the child’s life.

Also, it is important to know that hospitals must contact the child protection agency and/or department of children services when a baby is born with drugs in her or his system. If we get involved prior to, or immediately, after the child’s birth we can often keep the baby from going into the foster care system.

The “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh, are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant – pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. They cannot make adoption an easy choice, but they can make it less scary by removing some of the unknowns. Ultimately, a birth parent will have to decide if adoption is in their own best interests and the best interests of their child. We, at Kirsh & Kirsh, will not and cannot make that decision for anyone, but we can provide information and answers to questions.

Our contact information is below.  We will answer your questions and provide you the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. The Kirsh Boys have 90 YEARS OF COMBINED EXPERIENCE practicing adoption law. We can help you find an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Anderson or Indianapolis, Columbus or Martinsville, Evansville or Huntingburg, or Warsaw or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, or Kentucky.

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families, FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the full extent allowed by law.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime —call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or Facebook message:  https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.