This question occupies the minds of many, if not all, birth parents who consider giving their newborns and older children up for adoption, or more correctly, making an adoption plan for their child/children. It would be hard not to have such a concern. However, while a parent may consider their child’s opinion about a decision, a parent MUST make decisions based upon what the parent believes serves the child’s best interests, even if the child believes otherwise. Effective parenting is not about garnering the child’s approval but doing what the PARENT believes best serves the child’s present and future well-being. This is especially true as the size of the decision increases. If a parent occasionally allows their child to stay up late rather than going to bed at a reasonable hour, deferring to the child may result in a cranky, tired child the next morning, but it will have little long-term impact on the child’s life. But always allowing a child to spend time playing video games instead of doing their homework will have big consequences for the child’s future. A birth mother who believes that an adoptive home gives her child the best chance to realize his or her full potential, as a productive member of society is UNQUESTIONABLY a course of action that a birth mother needs to make regardless of what the child may think of the decision at some future time. So, in direct answer to the question posed above –your child may not understand why you put the child up for adoption, but, as a parent you must do what YOU believe is best for the child. By the way, it is also quite possible that in the right adoptive home, where you as the birth mother are celebrated for the being the hero that you are, the child may very well come to love you for the decision. 

If you would like more information about adoption and available living expenses during and after your pregnancy, we, at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – would be happy to help. Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant, pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. 

At Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, the four adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh have over 100 years of combined legal experience arranging adoptions. Kirsh & Kirsh has been in existence since 1981. We know Indiana Adoption Law inside and out. We can find a wonderful home for your baby regardless of your social and medical history. Please be honest with us and do not worry that no one will want your baby.  There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families, FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices about which family adopts your baby and the extent of contacts you want after the child’s birth. Conversely, if you do not wish to choose the family, we will pick the best family on your behalf.

As attorneys, we at Kirsh & Kirsh, have very high standards for the prospective adoptive parents we choose to represent. All our waiting families are carefully screened and thoroughly investigated. We will arrange for you to have contact with the family you choose on your terms, without families trying to reach you at all hours of the day or night. 

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Terre Haute or Indianapolis, Shelbyville or Bloomington, Evansville or Sellersburg, Hammond or South Bend, Auburn or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, Michigan, or Illinois.

You can call, text and or email us anytime – call/ text: 800-333-5736contact us, or Facebook message. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.

We, at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”) get asked this question often. We cannot answer for national adoption agencies nor local adoption agencies, but at Kirsh & Kirsh, we try to make the process as straightforward and simple as possible without unnecessary meetings and paperwork. While we will only arrange to place a newborn child up for adoption completely above-board and legally, we do not want to overly burden a birth mother or an expectant mother who already must deal with more than her fair share of stress. 

In the simple terms, in choosing to work with us to give up your baby for adoption, or, more correctly, make an adoption plan for your newborn, you can expect the following:

  1. Meet us in person on the phone, over Zoom, or fill out your information electronically.
  2. Pick a family from profiles we will send to you, talk, text, or meet that family and decide if you want us to match with them with you. Or we will choose the family if you prefer. 
  3. There are a few documents that we will ask you to complete and sign before the baby’s birth –none of which are a consent to adoption. You cannot sign a consent to adoption until after you give birth. In other words, you are not obligated to proceed with the adoption by doing the paperwork. 
  4. You decide if you want to talk with a counselor and have your own attorney.
  5. After you give birth, you will decide if you want to proceed with the adoption. If so, we will arrange for you to sign the consent to adoption. If not, we will go our separate ways. We will never pressure you to proceed or criticize you if you decide to parent the baby. We want you to do whatever YOU believe is best for you and your baby. 

The entire process costs you nothing, and you are not obligated to proceed with the adoption plan you have put together, unless and until you sign a consent to adoption, after you give birth.

If you would like more information about adoption and available living expenses during and after your pregnancy, we, at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant, pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. 

Not only do the four adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh have over 100 years of combined legal experience arranging adoptions, Kirsh & Kirsh has been in existence since 1981. As attorneys, we at Kirsh & Kirsh, have very high standards for the prospective adoptive parents we choose to represent. All our waiting families are carefully screened and thoroughly investigated. We will arrange for you to have contact with the family you choose on your terms, without families trying to reach you at all hours of the day or night. 

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Martinsville or Indianapolis, Columbus or Bloomington, Huntingburg or Vincennes, Elkhart or South Bend, Warsaw or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, Michigan, or Illinois.

There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of family options from which you can choose, all of whom are wonderful, carefully screened, loving families, FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices about which family adopts your baby and the extent of contacts you want after the child’s birth.

You can call, text and or email us anytime — call: 317-575-5555, text: 800-333-5736contact us, or Facebook message. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.

Not long ago, at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”), an expectant mother completed our contact form requesting information about adoption. In the comment section, she expressed concern if she could live with herself if she give her baby up for adoption or, more correctly, as adoption professionals would say, made an adoption plan for her baby. She conveyed a concern many, if not all, birth mothers share. BUT, the question applies equally to the following two options a woman with an unintended pregnancy, unplanned pregnancy, or untimely pregnancy has:

  1. Will I be able to live with myself if I have an abortion? Abortion ends the pregnancy but not the fact of having been pregnant. 
  2. Will I be able to live with myself if I decide to parent my child and cannot provide for my child in the way I think he or she deserves?  

Many of life’s decisions do not have an easy or even good solution. Occasionally, we must choose the least bad alternative or the lesser of evils. That may very well be how a birth mother who does not feel prepared for the fact that she is pregnant will have to reach a decision. However, and we cannot make this point strongly enough, she should not put off deciding hoping her dilemma will disappear. It will not.

If you would like to explore adoption, we, at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant, pride ourselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. 

Not only do the four adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh have over 100 years of combined legal experience arranging adoptions, Kirsh & Kirsh has been in existence since 1981. As attorneys, we at Kirsh & Kirsh, have very high standards for the prospective adoptive parents we choose to represent. All our waiting families are carefully screened and thoroughly investigated. We will arrange for you to have contact with the family you choose on your terms, without families trying to reach you at all hours of the day or night. 

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Franklin or Indianapolis, Columbus or Jasper, New Albany or Newburgh, Gary or South Bend, Warsaw or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, Michigan, or Illinois.

There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of family options from which you can choose, all of whom are wonderful, carefully screened, loving families, FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices about which family adopts your baby and the extent of contacts you want after the child’s birth.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime – call/text: 800-333-5736contact us, or Facebook message. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.