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I DON’T KNOW WHAT TO DO. I AM PREGNANT AND NOT READY FOR A BABY

Finding out that you have an unintended pregnancy, unplanned pregnancy, untimely pregnancy, or unwanted pregnancy probably caused you to believe it could not be true when you first found out. However, many people let their minds jump to the worst possible outcome whenever they learn of bad news. But, rarely does the “worst” happen, and often, the best solution is not the one that most immediately makes our worries go away. 

What you ultimately decide is entirely up to you, and you will be the one most impacted by your decision, except that, as a pregnant woman, your decision is complicated by the baby you have conceived. The two conclusions that immediately come to mind for most women in your predicament are parenting the child or aborting it. Obviously, both have long-term consequences for the unborn baby and you. Therefore, you should not only consider what to do now but how the consequences of your present decision will affect the rest of your life. 

An alternative to a situation like yours that does often come to mind is adoption. Before dismissing adoption, you might want to think of the potential benefits to your unborn baby and you, including:

  1. Knowing that you have done something “God-like” for the adoptive parents – given them a child. 
  2. Knowing that you have given your baby a chance for a bright future, in which he or she has the chance to pursue their full potential – maybe your child will be the person who finds the cure for cancer – who knows, but maybe.
  3. Knowing that you have put the needs of others ahead of your own needs and feelings. 

However, putting or giving a child up for adoption — or, more correctly, making an adoption plan — is not all rainbows and lollipops. It will be the hardest decision you ever make – a decision few people have the fortitude and strength to make. 

If you would like more information about adoption and available living expenses during and after your pregnancy, you should contact us. We at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called — Steve and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant) pride ourselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. 

Not only do the four adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh have over 100 years of combined legal experience arranging adoptions, Kirsh & Kirsh has been in existence since 1981. As attorneys, we at Kirsh & Kirsh have very high standards for the prospective adoptive parents we choose to represent. All of our waiting families are carefully screened and thoroughly investigated. We will arrange for you to have contact with the family you choose on your terms, without families trying to reach you at all hours of the day or night. 

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide the information you seek without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us again. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Tipton or Indianapolis, Kokomo or Bloomington, Scottsburg or Vincennes, East Chicago or South Bend, Decatur or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, Michigan, or Illinois.

There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of family options from which you can choose, all of whom are wonderful, carefully screened, loving families FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices about which family adopts your baby and the extent of contact you want after the child’s birth.

You can call, text and or email us anytime – call/text: 800-333-5736, contact us, or Facebook message. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.

Adoption Adoption Process Birthmother

IF I PUT UP MY BABY FOR ADOPTION, CAN I RECEIVE LIVING EXPENSES OR MONEY FOR THE BABY?

Receiving living expenses and getting money for the baby are NOT the same. Neither Indiana nor any other state allows adoptive parents to give a birth mother money for the baby. In fact, doing so would constitute the crime of “baby selling” in many states. As an example, Indiana Code § 35-46-1-9 makes it a felony to receive or pay moneyfor the baby. However, like many states, Indiana allows adoptive parents to give a birth mother or an expectant mother living expenses to help her with her pregnancy-related expenses during her pregnancy and for the postpartum period. 

If you have an untimely pregnancy or unplanned pregnancy and are thinking about giving your baby up for adoption or, more correctly, making an adoption plan for your young child or newborn and would like more information about living expenses or to explore adoption, we, at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”) — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant, pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. 

The four adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh have over 100 years of combined legal experience arranging adoptions.  Kirsh & Kirsh has been in existence since 1981. As attorneys, we at Kirsh & Kirsh, have very high standards for the prospective adoptive parents we choose to represent. All of our waiting families are carefully screened and thoroughly investigated. We will arrange for you to have contact with the family you choose on your terms, without families trying to reach you at all hours of the day or night. 

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Rushville or Indianapolis, Greenwood or Bloomington, Newburgh or Sullivan, Gary or South Bend, Rensselaer or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, Michigan, or Illinois.

There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of family options from which you can choose, all of whom are wonderful, carefully screened, loving families FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices about which family adopts your baby and the extent of contact you want after the child’s birth.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime – call/text: 800-333-5736, contact us, or Facebook message. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption.”  If we do not include those words in our blog posts and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby,” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.

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I don’t know if I can do an adoption – I think it will kill me to be without my child

Do NOT believe anyone who tells you that giving a baby up for adoption, or more accurately, making an adoption plan for a baby is easy. IT IS NOT. There is no more difficult a decision than parting with a child – especially, the mother of a newborn who has felt the baby kick from the inside.

However, the decision has little, if anything, to do with wanting to make an adoptive placement. Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”), have met with, and or spoken to, 1000s of expectant mothers and birth mothers over the last 35+ years. Women to do not proceed with adoptions because the want to do it. In fact, in the typical newborn adoption Kirsh & Kirsh handles, the birth mother does not have to proceed with an adoption. These are not like adoptions in which the Department of Children (“DCS”) Services involuntarily terminates parental rights as part of child in need of services (“CHINS”) proceedings.

So, if moms do not want to proceed with an adoption and nobody is forcing them to give up their babies for adoption, why do they do it? They LOVE their precious newborns and want more for their children than they feel that they can provide themselves at that moment in their lives. Parents put the needs of their children ahead of their own interests. That is what good parents do.  Most certainly, a birth mother will grieve the loss of her child when she proceeds with an adoption. If avoiding grief were the only consideration, women would never place babies for adoption.  Parenting involves many things — the most important include providing safe, loving homes and secure and happy futures for children. Most parents fulfill those obligations personally. Those who cannot, look to other options such as help from family and friends and adoptive placements, among other options.

We, Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C., have handled more than 3500 successful adoptions over the last 35+ years.   You can call, text and or email us anytime. We answer our office phone, 317-575-5555, 24/7/365. We also promptly respond to text messages at 317-721-2030 and email at AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.