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Birthmother

WHAT WILL MY FRIENDS THINK OF ME IF I PUT UP MY BABY FOR ADOPTION?

While you may let what your friends think of you guide some decisions, you will likely never have a decision more impactful or consequential than the decision to give up your baby for adoption or, more correctly, make an adoption plan for your soon-to-be-born or unborn newborn. An adoption plan impacts not only your life but, more importantly, your baby’s life. Considering your friend’s feelings and opinions may be a “nice” thing to do, and, in some cases, insightful, you, the birth parent, are responsible for your child’s life and future well-being – not your family and friends. Of course, you should gather as much information and seek input from those whom you trust, but, in the end, how they “feel” or “what they may think of you,” should not enter your decision to do what YOU believe is best for YOUR child.

We, at Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant, pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. They cannot make adoption an easy choice, but they can make it less scary by removing some of the unknowns. Ultimately, a birth parent will have to decide if adoption is in their own best interests and the best interests of their child. We, at Kirsh & Kirsh, will not and cannot make that decision for anyone, but we can provide information and answers to questions – that way, you can make a well-informed decision.

Our contact information is below.  We will answer your questions and provide you with the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. The Kirsh Boys have 90 YEARS OF COMBINED EXPERIENCE practicing adoption law. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Plainfield or Indianapolis, Morgantown or Columbus, Evansville or Vincennes, or South Bend or Notre Dame, Decatur or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, or Kentucky.

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families, FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime -call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or Facebook message: https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.

Birthmother

ADOPTION AND ABORTION – THE SIMILARIITES AND DIFFERENCES?

They are the same in some ways but VERY different in what is, perhaps, the most important way.

The similarities include:

  1. Both are very personal decisions.
  2. Both are readily available and legal, in most places.
  3. The birth parents do not have the responsibility for raising the child.
  4. Neither changes the fact that the expectant mother conceived a child and is pregnant.
  5. Both are unforgettable experiences.
  6. They cannot be “undone.”
  7. No matter what decision you make — some will agree with you and some will criticize you.

The differences include:

  1. In an adoption, the birth mother carries the baby for nine months and then leaves the hospital without the baby, while an abortion immediately terminates the pregnancy.
  2. Few people understand how a woman can “give away her baby” through adoption, yet at the same time, nearly ½ of the people living in the United States STRONGLY believe that abortion is “okay.”
  3. Abortion does not give the child an opportunity to live life nor fulfill his or her or his destiny.
  4. Adoption demonstrates a birth mother’s (parent’s) sacrificial love for her/their child by putting the child’s life ahead of her/their own desires, needs, and wants.
  5. In adoption, the child lives.

The “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C., are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant – pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. They cannot make adoption an easy choice, but they can make it less scary by removing some of the unknowns. Ultimately, a birth parent will have to decide if adoption is in their own best interests and the best interests of their child. We, at Kirsh & Kirsh, will not and cannot make that decision for anyone, but we can provide information and answers to questions.

Our contact information is below.  We will answer your questions and provide you the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. The Kirsh Boys have 90 YEARS OF COMBINED EXPERIENCE practicing adoption law. We can help you find an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Brownsburg or Indianapolis, West Lafayette or Bloomington, Evansville or Washington, or Goshen or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, or Kentucky.

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families, FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the full extent allowed by law.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime —call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or Facebook message:  https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.

Birthmother

DID NOT PLAN TO GET PREGNANT

For a lot of women, a positive pregnancy test, while, perhaps, surprising, is not unexpected. In other words, they wanted to get pregnant. On the other hand, for some women, a positive pregnancy test is unexpected and not the news they were hoping for. If you did not plan to get pregnant and are not ready to commit the rest of your life to parenting a child, you might consider making an adoption plan for your unborn child. Do not think of it as giving away or giving up your baby. By arranging to have your baby adopted through experienced, caring adoption professionals like Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C., a local child-placing agency, or national adoption agency, you will be sure your child a bright future, with the opportunity to achieve her or his full potential in a secure and loving home.

The “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh, are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant – pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. They cannot make adoption an easy choice, but they can make it less scary by removing some of the unknowns. Ultimately, a birth parent will have to decide if adoption is in their own best interests and the best interests of their child. We, at Kirsh & Kirsh, will not and cannot make that decision for anyone, but we can provide information and answers to questions.

Our contact information is below.  We will answer your questions and provide you the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. The Kirsh Boys have 90 YEARS OF COMBINED EXPERIENCE practicing adoption law. We can help you find an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Noblesville or Indianapolis, Columbus or Martinsville, Evansville or Tell City, or Warsaw or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, or Kentucky.

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families, FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY(married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the full extent allowed by law.

You can call, text and or email us anytime —call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or Facebook message:  https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.

Adoptive Parent Birthmother

PROSPECTIVE ADOPTIVE PARENTS LOST $40,000 ON A FAILED, OUT-OF-STATE ADOPTION

A few days ago, I, Steve Kirsh, of the adoption law firm of Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”), met prospective adoptive parents via Zoom, who told me that they had been working with a national adoption agency, which matched them with an expectant mother.  They lost $40,000 on the failed adoption, between what they paid in adoption agency fees and living expenses for the birth mother. Unlike Indiana, the state in which the adoption agency operated does not impose a dollar amount limit on living expenses.  Obviously, the significant financial loss upset the prospective adoptive parents, but the agency’s lack of responsiveness throughout the process galled them. They said that unless the agency wanted more money from them, they never heard from the agency. The adoption agency did not inform them that the birth mother could not proceed with the adoption because Child Protective Services (“CPS”) had put a hold on the baby, until the adoptive parents contacted the agency after the birth mother contacted them, asking for more living expenses — AFTER she had already delivered. At that time, the adoption agency caseworker informed them that CPS had stepped in the previous weekend and that they would not be able to adopt the baby.

Under Indiana adoption law and the laws of most, if not all, states, a birth mother cannot legally commit to adoption until after she gives birth. Therefore, every prospective adoptive parent risks disappointment and financial loss, if a birth mother changes her mind and decides to parent her baby. We, at Kirsh & Kirsh, find it hard to justify the amount of money the family lost and the lack of communication. We pride ourselves on promptly responding to all inquiries about newborn adoptions and limiting the financial exposure of failed adoption opportunities. In fact, we structure our legal and adoption services fees to roll-over to subsequent adoption opportunities. Furthermore, we defer the largest amount of those fees until placement so that significant financial losses do not compound the emotional disappointment of not successfully adopting.

By the way, we, at Kirsh & Kirsh, do NOT criticize the birth mother for not proceeding with putting her baby up for adoption and recognize that a birth mother has the absolute right not to give up her baby for adoption, or more correctly, make an adoption plan for her baby.

We find it unfortunate that the national adoption agency allowed the prospective adoptive parents to suffer such a great financial loss and did not communicate better with them about the failed adoption opportunity.

If you are prospective adoptive parents looking for information about adopting a child, or are a birth mother or expectant mother and not sure how to give a child up for adoption, or, more correctly, make an adoption plan for your precious child, please contact us. We will answer your questions, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us costs you nothing nor does it mean you ever have to communicate with us, again. We can assist you with an Indiana adoption no matter whether you live in Auburn or Newburgh, Scottsville or Gary, Huntington or Huntingburg, or any Indiana county or city in between.

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the full extent allowed by law.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime —call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or a Facebook message:  https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results on Google.

Birthmother

I am pregnant and thinking about placing my baby up for adoption. Can Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”) assist me during the COVID 19 Pandemic?

Yes. Even before the COVID-19 pandemic, we, at Kirsh & Kirsh, made ourselves available 24/7 every day of the year. We are pretty good at working remotely, including answering our office phones by a member of our regular office staff rather than an answering service or voice mail.

Whether you are in Indiana, Tennessee, Mississippi, or Kentucky, if you are pregnant and thinking about giving up your baby for adoption or more correctly, making an adoption plan for your baby, we can help you. As an “essential business,“we are exempt from “stay at home” orders, we can travel to meet you or “meet” via telephone, text, email, FaceTime, Zoom, or Skype – in whatever way makes you feel most comfortable.

Contacting us or “meeting” is free and does not obligate you to proceed with an adoption or even to work with us. We will answer your questions and explain the process so you can make a decision that YOU think best serves your baby’s and your best interests.

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes.

We follow your lead in terms of the pace with which we proceed. In addition to texting, emailing, and chatting with us, you can call: 317-575-5555 or connect with us through Facebook message:  https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails, text, and chat messages within minutes of receipt.

Stay safe and let us know how we can help you.

Birthmother

I Am Pregnant Or Have Already Given Birth And Thinking About Giving My Baby Up For Adoption. Can Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C., Help Me Find A Good Home For My Baby?

Yes! In that the Adoption law firm of Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (Kirsh & Kirsh) only handles adoptions, we have lots of prospective adoptive parents who have asked us to help them find a baby to adopt.

Since we are based in Indiana and have waiting families who would adopt in Indiana a baby born in other states such as Tennessee, Mississippi, and Kentucky, Indiana law allows us to provide adoption services to expectant mothers and those who have already given birth in states outside of Indiana. Adoption services include matching birth mothers with prospective adoptive parents. Given that Kirsh & Kirsh is the largest adoption program in Indiana and, perhaps, the Midwest, we have the greatest variety of really wonderful, carefully screened, prospective adoptive parents from which a woman thinking about giving up her baby for adoption, or more correctly, making an adoption plan, can choose. We know that birth parents must Love, or at the very least, be comfortable with, the adoptive family in order to make an adoptive placement.

Some birth parents want a lot of involvement in the selection of families and others want to leave the decision to us. We will arrange an adoption in whatever way gives the birth mother the greatest peace of mind. Many of our expectant moms and birth mothers want to look at profiles of the families which include lots of photos. A lot want to speak with the prospective adoptive parents by telephone, and some want to meet them in person. How ever a mom selects the prospective adoptive parents, if she chooses one of the Kirsh & Kirsh families, she will not make a mistake. All the prospective adoptive parents, whom we represent, will provide a wonderful, happy home and a lifetime of opportunities for a baby.

For information about our waiting families, please contact us at Kirsh & Kirsh. We will always treat you will kindness and respect. Of the many expectant mothers with whom we have worked over years, many, if not most, have needed help paying their living expenses while they were pregnant and during their postpartum recovery.

You can call, text and or email us anytime. To contact us—call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or Facebook message:  https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

 

Birthmother

I don’t know if I can do an adoption – I think it will kill me to be without my child

Do NOT believe anyone who tells you that giving a baby up for adoption, or more accurately, making an adoption plan for a baby is easy. IT IS NOT. There is no more difficult a decision than parting with a child – especially, the mother of a newborn who has felt the baby kick from the inside.

However, the decision has little, if anything, to do with wanting to make an adoptive placement. Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”), have met with, and or spoken to, 1000s of expectant mothers and birth mothers over the last 35+ years. Women to do not proceed with adoptions because the want to do it. In fact, in the typical newborn adoption Kirsh & Kirsh handles, the birth mother does not have to proceed with an adoption. These are not like adoptions in which the Department of Children (“DCS”) Services involuntarily terminates parental rights as part of child in need of services (“CHINS”) proceedings.

So, if moms do not want to proceed with an adoption and nobody is forcing them to give up their babies for adoption, why do they do it? They LOVE their precious newborns and want more for their children than they feel that they can provide themselves at that moment in their lives. Parents put the needs of their children ahead of their own interests. That is what good parents do.  Most certainly, a birth mother will grieve the loss of her child when she proceeds with an adoption. If avoiding grief were the only consideration, women would never place babies for adoption.  Parenting involves many things — the most important include providing safe, loving homes and secure and happy futures for children. Most parents fulfill those obligations personally. Those who cannot, look to other options such as help from family and friends and adoptive placements, among other options.

We, Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C., have handled more than 3500 successful adoptions over the last 35+ years.   You can call, text and or email us anytime. We answer our office phone, 317-575-5555, 24/7/365. We also promptly respond to text messages at 317-721-2030 and email at AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.