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MY FRIEND ASKED ME TO ADOPT HER NEWBORN BABY. SHOULD I DO IT?

The way you answer has huge consequences for the birthmother, you, and the child. Therefore, take time to think about it before you answer. Obviously, your friend – the birthmother – must trust you, and you may feel honored for her to have even asked you the question. In deciding what to do, here are a few things to consider:

  1. Most importantly, do you want a child (or another child if you already have a child or children)? If the answer is not 100% “Yes,” there is no need to read further. You have your answer. 
  2. Unless you are the father of the baby, it is NOT your responsibility to assume the life-long commitment of parenting the child, no matter how desperate your friend is. Do not feel obligated to help your friend.
  3. How will your parenting the child affect your relationship with your friend? What if she wants to make parenting decisions for you, especially if those decisions differ from yours? What if she starts treating you more like a babysitter than the parent of the child? What if, etc?
  4. What is in the child’s best interests? Should you suggest to your friend that she consider other options, such as having a family member of hers help, temporary foster care, or adoption?

If you would like more information about adoption and available living expenses during and after pregnancy for your friend, we at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant, pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. 

Not only do the four adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh have over 100 years of combined legal experience arranging adoptions, Kirsh & Kirsh has been in existence since 1981. As attorneys, we at Kirsh & Kirsh have very high standards for the prospective adoptive parents we choose to represent. All our waiting families are carefully screened and thoroughly investigated. We will arrange for the expectant mother to have contact with the family she chooses on her own terms, without families trying to reach her at all hours of the day or night. 

Our contact information is below. We will answer questions and provide information without cost or obligation. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you or she will ever have to talk or text with us, again. We can help in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL adoptive home for her precious baby, whether she lives in Crawfordsville or Indianapolis, Kokomo or Bloomington, New Albany or Evansville, Hammond or South Bend, Warsaw or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, Michigan, or Illinois.

There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of family options from which you can choose, all of whom are wonderful, carefully screened, loving families FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices about which family adopts your baby and the extent of contact you want after the child’s birth.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime – call/text: 800-333-5736, contact us, or Facebook message. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms who come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption.”  If we do not include those words in our blog posts and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby,” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.

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IN INDIANA, CAN I STILL GET AN ABORTION?

Indiana’s law about abortion, Indiana Code § 16-34, provides a near total ban on abortions except in very limited circumstances and time frames. While some states may allow a woman to have an abortion up to a certain number of weeks into the pregnancy for any reason or just because she wants to abort the fetus, Indiana does not. Therefore, if you do not fit into one of the exceptions found in Indiana Code § 16-34, you will need to look into other options for your baby. For some women who find themselves with an untimely pregnancy, unexpected pregnancy, unplanned pregnancy, or unwanted pregnancy is adoption is an alternative to parenting the child.

If you would like more information about giving your baby up for adoption and available living expenses during and after your pregnancy, you should contact us. We, at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called — Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant) pride ourselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. 

Not only do the four adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh have over 100 years of combined legal experience arranging adoptions, Kirsh & Kirsh has been in existence since 1981. As attorneys, we at Kirsh & Kirsh have very high standards for the prospective adoptive parents we choose to represent. All of our waiting families are carefully screened and thoroughly investigated. We will arrange for you to have contact with the family you choose on your terms, without families trying to reach you at all hours of the day or night. 

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Franklin or Indianapolis, Mooresville or Bloomington, Madison or Newburgh, LaPorte or South Bend, Warsaw or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, Michigan, or Illinois.

There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of family options from which you can choose, all of whom are wonderful, carefully screened, loving families FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices about which family adopts your baby and the extent of contact you want after the child’s birth.

You can call, text, or email us anytime – call/text 800-333-5736, contact us, or send a Facebook message. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms who come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption.”  If we do not include those words in our blog posts and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby,” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.

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WHAT MONEY CAN I RECEIVE IF I PUT UP MY BABY FOR ADOPTION?

At Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”), we file most of the adoptions we arrange in Indiana, even if the birth mother lives in states like Illinois, Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, Michigan, or any state other than Indiana. Under Indiana law, a birth mother may receive living expenses – but not a financial incentive — if she puts her baby up for adoption, or more correctly, makes an adoption plan for her baby.  In short, not in any state can adoptive parents induce a mother to proceed with an adoption by paying her money for the baby. That would constitute the crime of “baby-selling.” Even if payment of money for a child was not illegal, few women could come to peace with themselves if they “sold” their babies. 

However, law makers in many states recognize that if a pregnant woman carries a baby to the end of her pregnancy, she will likely need financial assistance to support herself during that time. Indiana Law legally allows a woman to receive up to $4,000 in living expenses, throughout pregnancy and after delivery. At Kirsh & Kirsh, we find that most women need the full amount and have them sign an affidavit of financial disclosure which we file with the court, disclosing the amount of living expenses she received or expects to receive. 

If you would like to explore adoption, we, at Kirsh & Kirsh — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant, pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. 

The four adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh have over 100 years of combined legal experience arranging adoptions.  Kirsh & Kirsh has been in existence since 1981. As attorneys, we at Kirsh & Kirsh, have very high standards for the prospective adoptive parents we choose to represent. All of our waiting families are carefully screened and thoroughly investigated. We will arrange for you to have contact with the family you choose on your terms, without families trying to reach you at all hours of the day or night. 

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide the information you seek without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us again. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Greenwood or Indianapolis, Columbus or Bloomington, Jasper or Evansville, Gary or Elkhart, Wabash or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, Michigan, or Illinois.

There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of family options from which you can choose, all of whom are wonderful, carefully screened, loving families FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices about which family adopts your baby and the extent of contact you want after the child’s birth.

You can call, text and or email us anytime – call/ text: 800-333-5736, contact us, or Facebook message. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.

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WHO ARE ADOPTION ATTORNEYS KIRSH & KIRSH, P.C. (“KIRSH & KIRSH”)? CAN THEY FIND A GOOD ADOPTIVE HOME IF I DECIDE TO GIVE UP MY BABY FOR ADOPTION?

To answer the second question first – ABSOLUTELY, we at Kirsh & Kirsh can help you find a fantastic, carefully screened and thoroughly investigated, loving home for your baby if you decide to give up your baby for adoption, or, more correctly stated, make an adoption plan for your soon-to-be-born or newborn baby.

Kirsh & Kirsh is an adoption-only law firm that helps both expectant mothers find loving homes for their precious children and newborns and hopeful adoptive parents find babies to adopt. It provides many of the same functions as a national adoption agency and local adoption agency but does not perform pre-adoptive home studies for prospective adoptive parents nor does it provide counseling for birth parents. Kirsh & Kirsh contracts with independent agencies and counselors to fulfill those roles. In terms of the number of successful adoptive placements and combined legal experience, Kirsh & Kirsh ranks highest among all adoption law firms in Indiana, the Midwest, and, perhaps, the country. The firm has more than 500, 5-Star Google reviews and over 12,000 followers on Facebook.

Steve Kirsh co-founded the firm in 1981 and began handling adoptions in the early 1980s. As the number of adoptions increased, Steve needed help, which is when Joel Kirsh, Steve’s brother got involved in facilitating adoptions. Steve served as president and treasurer of the American Academy of Adoption Attorneys, an internationally recognized association of adoption and ARTs attorneys; received an Angels in Adoption Award by the United States Congress; represented the United States as part of the US delegation to the final drafting session of the Hague Convention on Inter-country Adoption; has made significant contributions to amending Indiana’s adoption laws, which a number of states have copied because Indiana’s laws are among the best in the country. For his efforts, the Indiana General Assembly afforded Steve special recognition. Steve also authored the Adoption Protocol used by nearly all Indiana Hospitals.

Joel Kirsh handles step-parent and family adoptions for the firm, in addition to assisting with newborn adoptions. His knowledge and experience make Joel a valuable member of Kirsh & Kirsh.

After graduating from law school in 2014, Grant Kirsh, Steve’s son, joined the firm and, in a short time, has become a leading attorney in the State of Indiana in foster care adoptions through the Indiana Department of Child Services, more commonly known as DCS.

Rob Kirsh joined Kirsh & Kirsh in 2018. In addition to being licensed to practice law in Indiana, Rob also holds law licenses in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, and Michigan, expanding the adoption practice of Kirsh & Kirsh to most of the Midwest.

We, at Kirsh & Kirsh — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called, pride ourselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. We cannot make adoption an easy choice, but we can make it less scary by removing some of the unknowns. Ultimately, a birth parent will have to decide if adoption is in their own best interests and the best interests of their child. We, at Kirsh & Kirsh, will not and cannot make that decision for anyone, but we can provide information and answers to questions – that way, you can make a well-informed decision.

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide you with the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. The Kirsh Boys have 90 YEARS OF COMBINED EXPERIENCE practicing adoption law. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Bargersville or Indianapolis, Bedford or Columbus, Evansville or New Albany, South Bend or Lafayette, Shelbyville or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, or Michigan.

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families, FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime -call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or Facebook message: https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant moms’ search results in Google.

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I NOT PLAN TO GET PREGNANT AND AM NOT READY FOR A BABY, BUT I CANNOT DECIDE IF I SHOULD PLACE THE BABY UP FOR ADOPTION OR HAVE AN ABORTION

A woman with an unintended or unplanned pregnancy has other choices, including, figuring out how to parent the child, finding a family member or friend to help, and arranging temporary foster care, to name a few.

For the purposes of this Blog, let us assume you have explored those options and others, and have concluded you must choose between giving your baby up for adoption or abortion.  How to decide?

Understand that NEITHER CHOICE NOR ANY OF THE OTHER OPTIONS will “undo” the pregnancy and only you can decide what is best for you. By the way, we have intentionally left out consideration of what is best for the unborn child. Let us just focus on what is best for you.

Abortion immediately ends the pregnancy. You will not have to carry the baby to term and feel it kick from the inside or go through the grief associated with leaving the hospital without the baby. On the other hand, you will live the rest of your life knowing that you aborted a child. Some argue that it is not a child – it is a fetus. Perhaps, that is how some come to peace with the decision to abort.

If you chose to put up your baby up for adoption, or more correctly, make an adoption plan for your baby, you will know you put your child’s needs ahead of your own and given a family who cannot conceive a child a “God-like” gift. Although you will grieve the loss of your child, you will know that you have given your child to a family who will devote themselves to seeing that your child grows up happy, with lots of opportunities for fun and adventure, a good education, and bright future.

Neither choice is easy. Neither changes the fact that you are, or were, pregnant. You need to decide which one offers you the greatest peace, not only in the short term but for the rest of your life.

Our contact information is below.  We, at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C., will answer your questions and provide you the information you seek about adoption, without cost or obligation to you. In other words, talking to us costs you nothing nor does it mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. We can assist you with an Indiana adoption no matter whether you live in Greenwood or Indianapolis, Scottsburg or Columbus, Evansville or Sullivan, or Kendallville or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between.

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the full extent allowed by law.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime —call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or a Facebook message:  https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.