The way you answer has huge consequences for the birthmother, you, and the child. Therefore, take time to think about it before you answer. Obviously, your friend – the birthmother – must trust you, and you may feel honored for her to have even asked you the question. In deciding what to do, here are a few things to consider:

  1. Most importantly, do you want a child (or another child if you already have a child or children)? If the answer is not 100% “Yes,” there is no need to read further. You have your answer. 
  2. Unless you are the father of the baby, it is NOT your responsibility to assume the life-long commitment of parenting the child, no matter how desperate your friend is. Do not feel obligated to help your friend.
  3. How will your parenting the child affect your relationship with your friend? What if she wants to make parenting decisions for you, especially if those decisions differ from yours? What if she starts treating you more like a babysitter than the parent of the child? What if, etc?
  4. What is in the child’s best interests? Should you suggest to your friend that she consider other options, such as having a family member of hers help, temporary foster care, or adoption?

If you would like more information about adoption and available living expenses during and after pregnancy for your friend, we at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant, pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. 

Not only do the four adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh have over 100 years of combined legal experience arranging adoptions, Kirsh & Kirsh has been in existence since 1981. As attorneys, we at Kirsh & Kirsh have very high standards for the prospective adoptive parents we choose to represent. All our waiting families are carefully screened and thoroughly investigated. We will arrange for the expectant mother to have contact with the family she chooses on her own terms, without families trying to reach her at all hours of the day or night. 

Our contact information is below. We will answer questions and provide information without cost or obligation. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you or she will ever have to talk or text with us, again. We can help in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL adoptive home for her precious baby, whether she lives in Crawfordsville or Indianapolis, Kokomo or Bloomington, New Albany or Evansville, Hammond or South Bend, Warsaw or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, Michigan, or Illinois.

There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of family options from which you can choose, all of whom are wonderful, carefully screened, loving families FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices about which family adopts your baby and the extent of contact you want after the child’s birth.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime – call/text: 800-333-5736contact us, or Facebook message. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms who come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption.”  If we do not include those words in our blog posts and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby,” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.

Indiana’s law about abortion, Indiana Code § 16-34, provides a near total ban on abortions except in very limited circumstances and time frames. While some states may allow a woman to have an abortion up to a certain number of weeks into the pregnancy for any reason or just because she wants to abort the fetus, Indiana does not. Therefore, if you do not fit into one of the exceptions found in Indiana Code § 16-34, you will need to look into other options for your baby. For some women who find themselves with an untimely pregnancy, unexpected pregnancy, unplanned pregnancy, or unwanted pregnancy is adoption is an alternative to parenting the child.

If you would like more information about giving your baby up for adoption and available living expenses during and after your pregnancy, you should contact us. We, at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called — Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant) pride ourselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. 

Not only do the four adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh have over 100 years of combined legal experience arranging adoptions, Kirsh & Kirsh has been in existence since 1981. As attorneys, we at Kirsh & Kirsh have very high standards for the prospective adoptive parents we choose to represent. All of our waiting families are carefully screened and thoroughly investigated. We will arrange for you to have contact with the family you choose on your terms, without families trying to reach you at all hours of the day or night. 

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Franklin or Indianapolis, Mooresville or Bloomington, Madison or Newburgh, LaPorte or South Bend, Warsaw or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, Michigan, or Illinois.

There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of family options from which you can choose, all of whom are wonderful, carefully screened, loving families FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices about which family adopts your baby and the extent of contact you want after the child’s birth.

You can call, text, or email us anytime – call/text 800-333-5736contact us, or send a Facebook message. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms who come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption.”  If we do not include those words in our blog posts and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby,” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.

At Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”), we file most of the adoptions we arrange in Indiana, even if the birth mother lives in states like Illinois, Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, Michigan, or any state other than Indiana. Under Indiana law, a birth mother may receive living expenses – but not a financial incentive — if she puts her baby up for adoption, or more correctly, makes an adoption plan for her baby.  In short, not in any state can adoptive parents induce a mother to proceed with an adoption by paying her money for the baby. That would constitute the crime of “baby-selling.” Even if payment of money for a child was not illegal, few women could come to peace with themselves if they “sold” their babies. 

However, law makers in many states recognize that if a pregnant woman carries a baby to the end of her pregnancy, she will likely need financial assistance to support herself during that time. Indiana Law legally allows a woman to receive up to $4,000 in living expenses, throughout pregnancy and after delivery. At Kirsh & Kirsh, we find that most women need the full amount and have them sign an affidavit of financial disclosure which we file with the court, disclosing the amount of living expenses she received or expects to receive. 

If you would like to explore adoption, we, at Kirsh & Kirsh — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant, pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. 

The four adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh have over 100 years of combined legal experience arranging adoptions.  Kirsh & Kirsh has been in existence since 1981. As attorneys, we at Kirsh & Kirsh, have very high standards for the prospective adoptive parents we choose to represent. All of our waiting families are carefully screened and thoroughly investigated. We will arrange for you to have contact with the family you choose on your terms, without families trying to reach you at all hours of the day or night. 

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide the information you seek without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us again. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Greenwood or Indianapolis, Columbus or Bloomington, Jasper or Evansville, Gary or Elkhart, Wabash or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, Michigan, or Illinois.

There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of family options from which you can choose, all of whom are wonderful, carefully screened, loving families FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices about which family adopts your baby and the extent of contact you want after the child’s birth.

You can call, text and or email us anytime – call/ text: 800-333-5736contact us, or Facebook message. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.