Let’s start with two obvious facts: (1) You cannot undo the fact that you ARE pregnant, and (2) you will give birth to a baby. None of us can change the past. What has happened has already happened — as the expression goes, “You can’t unring the bell.” You need to change your focus to how to make the best of what you consider a bad situation, if you are not happy about being pregnant. Most importantly, you are now responsible for the life of an innocent child, and you need to make the best decision for him or her.
For most women facing an untimely pregnancy or unplanned pregnancy, they intentionally or unintentionally (by not making other plans) decide to parent the child. In most situations that decision works out well for the mother and child. For those successfully parenting women, who did not plan to get pregnant, they take on the challenge of parenting a child for the rest of their lives and do it well.
However, not everyone has the desire, skill, and resources to dedicate their lives to the responsibility of raising a child. For those women, they need to look for other alternatives. Some will find that their parents will happily, or out of a sense of obligation to a grandchild, take on the responsibility parenting the child.
Another alternative, which does not get nearly enough attention, is to put the baby up for adoption, or, more correctly, to make an adoption plan for the child. Nothing will change the fact of the pregnancy, but giving newborn the gift of a loving, secure, happy home and adoptive parents, desperate for a child, the gift of parenthood may just be the best way to turn a bad, even hopeless, situation into the best outcome for all involved, including the birth mother. Not often can any of us change the lives of others in a meaningful way. To give a child the opportunity for a productive happy life and adoptive parents a child to nurture and love is a close to God-like as anything one human can do for another.
If you would like to explore adoption, we, at Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant, pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment.
Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide you with the information you seek without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us again. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Fishers or Indianapolis, Westfield or Lafayette, Evansville or Merrillville, South Bend or Granger, Marion or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, or Michigan.
There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of family options from which you can choose, all of whom are wonderful, carefully screened, loving families FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices regarding which family adopts your baby & extent of contact you want after the child’s birth.
You can call, text and or email us anytime – call/text: 800-333-5736, contact us, or Facebook message. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.
POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER: Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans. Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption.” If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant moms’ search results on Google.