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Adoption Process Birthmother

IF I PLAN TO PUT UP MY BABY FOR ADOPTION, DO I HAVE TO MEET WITH SOMEONE, OR CAN I DO EVERYTHING ELECTRONICALLY IF I WORK WITH ADOPTION ATTORNEYS KIRSH & KIRSH, P.C. (“KIRSH & KIRSH”)?

Answer: Whatever works for you! We, at Kirsh & Kirsh, tailor each adoption to the needs of the birth mother and adoptive parents rather than handling all adoptions the same. As long as the arrangements meet all ethical and legal standards, we will facilitate each adoption in a way that puts the parties most at ease. We know planning an adoption causes stress. Nothing we do will make adoption EASY, but we can make the process EASIER by being flexible. Accordingly, if you want to “meet” with us by Zoom, FaceTime, telephone, email, text, or any other manner that allows us to share information with you and you with us, we will make the arrangements in that way. Very importantly, remember that NOTHING a birth mother does prior to signing a consent to adoption, which she cannot do until after she gives birth, obligates her to proceed with an adoption – no matter how she chooses to communicate with us. 

If you would like to explore adoption, we, at Kirsh & Kirsh — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant, have 100 years of combined legal experience arranging adoptions and pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. 

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Greencastle or Indianapolis, New Albany or Clarksville, Evansville or Huntingburg, South Bend or Gary, Marion or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, Michigan, or Illinois.

There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of family options from which you can choose, all of whom are wonderful, carefully screened, loving families, FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices about which family adopts your baby and the extent of contacts you want after the child’s birth.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime – call/text: 800-333-5736, contact us, or Facebook message. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption.”  If we do not include those words in our blog posts and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby,” then our website will not show up in most expectant moms’ search results in Google.

Adoption Process Birthmother

WOULD A WOMAN CONSIDERING ABORTION NATURALLY CHOOSE ADOPTION?

NO! Adoption is not an alternative to abortion: it is an alternative to parenting when a birth mother is not ready to take on the lifetime commitment of raising a child. Some women get very upset at the notion that a woman who would consider abortion would naturally choose adoption. However, perhaps those women should, at least, give adoption a second thought. Certainly, if a woman considers having an abortion, she must question her desire or ability, or both, to parent the child. Adoption is an alternative to personally parenting a child. Adoption allows the child the opportunity to live life and reach her or his full potential, the birth parents to know that their child is safe and secure, and the adoptive parents to realize their dreams of parenthood. OBVIOUSLY, adoption is not for everyone facing an untimely or unplanned pregnancy, but NO ONE should suggest that it is NOT for ANYONE.

If you would like to explore adoption, we, at Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C.  — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant, pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. 

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide you the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Kokomo  or Indianapolis, Pendleton or Bloomington, Evansville or New Albany, South Bend or Gary, Mishawaka or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, or Michigan.

There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of family options from which you can choose, all of whom are wonderful, carefully screened, loving families, FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices which family adopts your baby & extent of contacts you want after the child’s birth.

You can call, text and or email us anytime -call/text: 800-333-5736, contact us, or Facebook message. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.

Adoption Process Birthmother

I DID NOT WANT TO BE PREGNANT. WHAT CAN I DO IF I CAN’T GET AN ABORTION?

Let’s start with two obvious facts: (1) You cannot undo the fact that you ARE pregnant, and (2) you will give birth to a baby. None of us can change the past. What has happened has already happened — as the expression goes, “You can’t unring the bell.” You need to change your focus to how to make the best of what you consider a bad situation, if you are not happy about being pregnant. Most importantly, you are now responsible for the life of an innocent child, and you need to make the best decision for him or her. 

For most women facing an untimely pregnancy or unplanned pregnancy, they intentionally or unintentionally (by not making other plans) decide to parent the child. In most situations that decision works out well for the mother and child. For those successfully parenting women, who did not plan to get pregnant, they take on the challenge of parenting a child for the rest of their lives and do it well. 

However, not everyone has the desire, skill, and resources to dedicate their lives to the responsibility of raising a child. For those women, they need to look for other alternatives. Some will find that their parents will happily, or out of a sense of obligation to a grandchild, take on the responsibility parenting the child. 

Another alternative, which does not get nearly enough attention, is to put the baby up for adoption, or, more correctly, to make an adoption plan for the child. Nothing will change the fact of the pregnancy, but giving newborn the gift of a loving, secure, happy home and adoptive parents, desperate for a child, the gift of parenthood may just be the best way to turn a bad, even hopeless, situation into the best outcome for all involved, including the birth mother. Not often can any of us change the lives of others in a meaningful way. To give a child the opportunity for a productive happy life and adoptive parents a child to nurture and love is a close to God-like as anything one human can do for another. 

If you would like to explore adoption, we, at Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C.  — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant, pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. 

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide you with the information you seek without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us again. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Fishers or Indianapolis, Westfield or Lafayette, Evansville or Merrillville, South Bend or Granger, Marion or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, or Michigan.

There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of family options from which you can choose, all of whom are wonderful, carefully screened, loving families FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices regarding which family adopts your baby & extent of contact you want after the child’s birth.

You can call, text and or email us anytime – call/text: 800-333-5736, contact us, or Facebook message. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption.”  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant moms’ search results on Google.

Birthmother

IF I PUT UP MY BABY FOR ADOPTION, DO I HAVE TO SEE OR TAKE CARE OF THE BABY IN THE HOSPITAL?

No. Every birth mother who gives her baby up for adoption, or more correctly, makes an adoption plan for her baby, comes to peace with her decision in her own way. We, at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C., will honor whatever decision you make regarding seeing and/or caring for the baby in the hospital. If a birth mother opts not to do so, the prospective adoptive parents or hospital nursery nurses are more than happy to change, hold, feed, and nurture the baby. As obvious as it may sound, a woman, facing an untimely pregnancy and thinking about adoption, should void all of those things that make the decision harder and do all of those things that make her decision easier. Whether or not to see the baby is one of those choices. Over the years handling adoptions, we have found that most women choose to see the baby in the hospital, but adoption is a uniquely personal decision, and even though most women choose to see their babies, not all women make that choice. We make counseling available to the women who contact us about adoption. Frankly, we encourage (but do NOT require) counseling. Discussing with a counselor whether to see the baby may help an expectant mother to decide what is best for her.

Our contact information is below.  We, at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C., will answer your questions and provide you the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. Our adoption attorneys have 90 YEARS OF COMBINED EXPERIENCE practicing adoption law. We can help you find an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Peru or Indianapolis, Kokomo or Bloomington, Evansville or Vincennes, or Rochester or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, or Kentucky.

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families, FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY(married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the full extent allowed by law.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime —call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or a Facebook message:  https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.