Tag: Put Up Baby For Adoption

Birthmother

A LOCAL ADOPTION AGENCY SAID THAT I SHOULD NOT WORK WITH ADOPTION ATTORNEYS KIRSH & KIRSH, P.C. (“KIRSH & KIRSH”) BECAUSE THEY REPRESENT THE ADOPTIVE PARENTS AND THE ADOPTION AGENCY REPRESENTS ME?

Probably what a national adoption agency or local adoption agency told you is that they represent everyone in the adoption triad – the birth mother, child, and the adoptive parents.

Kirsh & Kirsh is an adoption law firm, not an adoption agency. We do not claim to represent the legal interests of everyone. As the Old and New Testaments provide, in a few different ways: no one can serve two masters. While it is a nice thought — representing the interests of both adoptive and birth parents — in practice, it only works if their interests remain perfectly aligned, which means that the prospective adoptive parents intend on adopting and the birth parents intend on giving up their baby for adoption, or more correctly, making an adoption plan for the baby. If either party decides not to proceed, it is hard for an adoption agency to remain neutral. It becomes even more difficult after the birth and adoptive placement of the child. If either side backs out and the agency takes one side or the other, the “losing” side will likely feel that the adoption agency is not looking after their interests. Adoption agencies often respond that their primary responsibility is to the best interests of the child. Again, the “losing” side will, doubtlessly, believe that they seek to do what is in the child’s best interests, and claim that the other side only thinks about their own selfish interests. Understand that this could not only happen if the birth parents decide to parent, but it could also happen if the prospective adoptive parents decide they do not want to adopt – think “sick” baby, as an example.

We, at Kirsh & Kirsh, make it clear to the expectant mothers and birth mothers who contact us asking for our assistance in finding an adoptive home for their newborn or soon-to-be-born or even older child that we represent the legal interests of the adoptive parents. We arrange for expectant and birth mothers to have their own attorneys, at no cost to them. Even though we do not act as the attorney for the birth mother, we are her point of contact and make all of the arrangements for the adoption, including introducing her to prospective adoptive parents. More about that is below.

Kirsh & Kirsh — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant, pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. We cannot make adoption an easy choice, but we can make it less scary by removing some of the unknowns. Ultimately, a birth parent will have to decide if adoption is in their own best interests and the best interests of their child. We, at Kirsh & Kirsh, will not and cannot make that decision for anyone, but we can provide information and answers to questions – that way, you can make a well-informed decision.

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide you with the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. The Kirsh Boys have 90 YEARS OF COMBINED EXPERIENCE practicing adoption law. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Pittsboro or Indianapolis, Greenwood or Columbus, Evansville or Loogootee, or Michigan City or South Bend, Steubenville or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, or Michigan.

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families, FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime -call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or Facebook message: https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant moms’ search results in Google.

Birthmother

IF I PUT UP MY BABY FOR ADOPTION, WILL MY CHILD HATE ME?

Honestly, we, at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”) don’t know. Sometimes children hate their parents for all kinds of “reasons,” both imagined and real. Much of how an adoptee feels about adoption depends on what the adoptive parents say to the adoptee about adoption. An adopted person who grows up in a supportive, loving home, whose adoptive parents recognize and honor the sacrificial love of the birth mother in making an adoption plan will likely NOT have bad feelings about his or her birth parents. However, some children raised by their biological parents hate their parents. Our feelings about our parents largely depend on the love and affection of the parents and the life our parents have provided us.

We, at Kirsh & Kirsh, require that the adoptive parents whom we represent complete a homestudy by an independent, adoption agency. As part of the homestudy process, any reputable national adoption agency or local adoption agency will mandate adoption education as part of the homestudy process, including how birth parents LOVE their children, and, because of that love, they make the hardest decision imaginable by proceeding with an adoption.  Additionally, the adoptive parents represented by Kirsh & Kirsh desperately want to adopt. In our experience, adoptive parents have faced too many hurdles in having children to ever take their children for granted and are fully committed to being the best parents they can possibly be and providing their children a world of opportunities that will allow their child to reach his or her full potential in a loving, supportive, happy home.

At Kirsh & Kirsh – or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant, pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. They cannot make adoption an easy choice, but they can make it less scary by removing some of the unknowns. Ultimately, a birth parent will have to decide if adoption is in their own best interests and the best interests of their child. We, at Kirsh & Kirsh, will not and cannot make that decision for anyone, but we can provide information and answers to questions – that way, you can make a well-informed decision.

Our contact information is below.  We will answer your questions and provide you the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. The Kirsh Boys have 90 YEARS OF COMBINED EXPERIENCE practicing adoption law. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Kokomo or Indianapolis, Greensburg or Columbus, Evansville or Madison, or South Bend or Warsaw, Angola or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi or Kentucky.

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families, FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime -call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or Facebook message: https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.