Tag: Putting My Baby Up For Adoption

Adoption Process Birthmother

I PLAN TO PUT MY BABY UP FOR ADOPTION BUT DO NOT WANT THE BABY TO GO INTO THE FOSTER CARE SYSTEM

There are two ways can assure yourself that your baby will not go into foster care. Make sure the Department of Child Services in Indiana or a similar agency in your home state does not intervene in the adoption. Even if you have had other run-ins with DCS or used drugs during your pregnancy, if you make arrangements to give up your baby for adoption, or more correctly, make an adoption plan for your baby either within the first few hours after giving birth or before you deliver, you can probably avoid DCS involvement, which always involves foster care. The way to eliminate the possibility of your baby going to a foster home is to work with adoption professionals like Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”). The adoptions which Kirsh & Kirsh arranges NEVER involve a baby going into the foster care system. On the other hand, if you want to utilize foster care, you should contact a national adoption agency or a local adoption agency. While adoption agencies rarely use foster care, they license foster parents. 

The four adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh have over 100 years of combined legal experience arranging adoptions.  Kirsh & Kirsh has been in existence since 1981. As attorneys, we at Kirsh & Kirsh, have very high standards for the prospective adoptive parents we choose to represent. In most situations, we can provide you with as many profiles of prospective adoptive parents as you would like to receive. All of our waiting families are carefully screened and thoroughly investigated. We will arrange for you to have contact with the family you choose on your terms, without families trying to reach you at all hours of the day or night. 

If you would like to explore adoption, we, at Kirsh & Kirsh — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. 

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Noblesville or Indianapolis, Columbus or Bedford, Jasper or Evansville, East Chicago or South Bend, Michigan City or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, Michigan, or Illinois.

There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of family options from which you can choose, all of whom are wonderful, carefully screened, loving families FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices about which family adopts your baby and the extent of contact you want after the child’s birth.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime – call/text: 800-333-5736, contact us, or Facebook message. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption.”  If we do not include those words in our blog posts and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby,” then our website will not show up in most expectant moms’ search results in Google.

Adoption Process Birthmother

I AM THINKING ABOUT PUTTING MY BABY UP FOR ADOPTION AND WANT AN OPEN ADOPTION

We, at Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”), were the first among adoption attorneys and local adoption agencies in Indiana to offer expectant mothers and birth mothers open adoptions. Still today, in each adoption, we tailor the degree of openness to meet the needs of the adoptive parents and birth mother. The more open an adoption, the greater the degree of trust which must exist between the birth mother and adoptive parents. Open adoption is not a concept in which “one size fits all.” The most successful open adoptions are those which develop as the adoptive parents and birth mother get to know and feel comfortable with each other. In the adoptions which Kirsh & Kirsh arrange, we caution our clients, the prospective adoptive parents, to make promises to birth mothers they cannot, or do not intend to, keep. We prefer to have them take it slow to avoid disappointing their birth mother by not providing the degree of openness she expects. 

If you would like to explore adoption, we at Kirsh & Kirsh — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant, pride ourselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. 

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide you with the information you seek without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us again. The Kirsh Boys have 90 YEARS OF COMBINED EXPERIENCE practicing adoption law. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Fishers or Indianapolis, Greensburg or Columbus, Evansville or Santa Claus, South Bend or Logansport, Portland or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, or Michigan.

There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of family options from which you can choose, all of whom are wonderful, carefully screened, loving families FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices regarding which family adopts your baby & extent of contact you want after the child’s birth.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime -call/text: 800-333-5736, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or Facebook message: https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans. Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption.” If we do not include those words in our blog posts and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby,” then our website will not show up in most expectant moms’ search results on Google.

Birthmother

I AM THINKING ABOUT PUTTING MY BABY UP FOR ADOPTION. I DON’T WANT TO USE AN ADOPTION AGENCY, BUT I AM AFRAID TO TALK TO AN ATTORNEY. ANY ADVICE?

We understand that the idea of talking to a lawyer can be intimidating, especially if they are perceived as mean, argumentative, and aggressive. The good news is that the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”), are nothing like that.  They and their full-time, professional, caring staff are kind and understanding, and always treat birth mothers and expectant mothers with compassion and respect.

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide you with the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. The Kirsh Boys, Steve, his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his Grant, are sometimes called, have 90 YEARS OF COMBINED EXPERIENCE practicing adoption law. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Plainfield or Indianapolis, Bedford or Columbus, Evansville or New Albany, South Bend or Gary, Kokomo or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, or Michigan.

There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of family options from which you can choose, all of whom are wonderful, carefully screened, loving families, FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices regarding which family adopts your baby & extent of contact you want after the child’s birth.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime -call/text: 800-333-5736, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or Facebook message: https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant moms’ search results on Google.

Birthmother

DO I HAVE TO INVOLVE THE FATHER OF THE BABY IF I AM THINKING ABOUT PUTTING MY BABY UP FOR ADOPTION?

The answer depends on the state in which you live and whether you and the father of the baby are married or have been married to each other in roughly the year preceding the birth of the baby.  Because we, at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”), have our main office in Indiana, we can file most of the adoptions we facilitate in Indiana, even if the birth mother or expectant mother lives in Mississippi, Tennessee, Kentucky, Michigan, or any other state. Indiana has among the best adoption laws in the country. Under Indiana law, an expectant or birth mother does NOT have to identify the father of the child. Indiana law enables a birth father to take the initiative to protect his parental rights if he so desires, by means of the Indiana Putative Father Registry. In 2020, the Indiana General Assembly enacted a bill that extended the concept of the Indiana Putative Father Registry to any state that has its own Putative Father Registry. If a woman conceives a child in any of the twenty-seven states with Putative Father Registries, we, at Kirsh & Kirsh, can file the adoption in Indiana and rely on the Putative Father Registry in the state of in which the woman got pregnant to address the birth father’s parental rights, without the birth mother having to identify him. However, under Indiana law, the Putative Father Registry does not apply to those men who have established paternity by in a court action or by executing a paternity affidavit or to husbands of birth mothers.

We, at Kirsh & Kirsh — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant, pride ourselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment.

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide you with the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. The Kirsh Boys have 90 YEARS OF COMBINED EXPERIENCE practicing adoption law. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Westfield or Indianapolis, Martinsville or Columbus, Jasper or Newburgh, South Bend or Mishawaka, Marion or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, or Michigan.

There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of family options from which you can choose, all of whom are wonderful, carefully screened, loving families, FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices which family adopts your baby & extent of contacts you want after the child’s birth.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime -call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or Facebook message: https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant moms’ search results in Google.

Birthmother

WHAT WILL HAPPEN WHEN I COMPLETE A CONTACT FORM OR OTHERWISE CONTACT ADOPTION ATTORNEYS KIRSH & KIRSH, P.C. (“KIRSH & KIRSH”) ABOUT AN UNTIMELY OR UNPLANNED PREGNANCY?

Great question! The brief answer is that you “are driving the bus.” Tell us where you want to go, and we will help you figure out how to get there. You tell us what information you want about our adoption program and giving a baby up for adoption, or more correctly, making an adoption plan for your newborn baby or child or unborn infant, and we will explain how the process works. Also, you tell us how you want to receive the information – we will text, email, chat, Zoom, talk by telephone, or meet in person. We tailor each adoption plan to the individuals involved. Some birth parents are just “dipping their toes in the water” about adoption and are afraid to communicate with us in any way for fear that doing so will obligate them to put their baby up for adoption or mean that they will be forced to work with us. NOT TRUE! While we are really good at arranging adoptions, we are not so good at reading minds. We cannot tell you how we can help you unless you tell us what you want to know. No two ways about it — the decision to place a child for adoption will be the hardest decision you will ever make. The decision is hard no matter what, even when you are equipped with all of the information about the process. But it can become overwhelmingly difficult—perhaps even impossible—if you don’t have ANY information, or if you have incorrect information. If you contact us, we will respond. If you tell us what you want to know, we will tell you. We will NOT pressure you, try to talk you into adoption, or make you feel bad about yourself.

Our contact information is below.  We, at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, will answer your questions and provide you the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. Our adoption attorneys have 90 YEARS OF COMBINED EXPERIENCE practicing adoption law. We can help you find an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Wabash or Indianapolis, Rensselaer or Bloomington, Evansville or Sullivan, or Lafayette or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, or Kentucky.

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families, FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY(married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the full extent allowed by law.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime —call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or Facebook message:  https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.

Birthmother

I Am Thinking About Putting My Baby Up For Adoption But Don’t Know If The Father Will Try To Stop Me

The laws of Indiana, Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky and some other states do not require a woman, thinking about giving up her baby for adoption, or more correctly “making an adoption plan for their baby,” to identify the father of the child. If the birth mother got pregnant in Indiana, the following blog explains her options: http://www.indianaadoption.com/can-i-give-up-my-baby-for-adoption-even-if-the-father-doesnt-want-me-to/.

But what if the father knows of the pregnancy and possibly the adoption but won’t consent to the adoption even though the birth mother thinks adoption is best for the unborn child? What if the father of the baby just wants to hurt the mother or cause problems for her and thinks he can do so by not consenting to the adoption? How does the birth mother know if the father, with whom she is no longer in a relationship, will really help support and parent the child if she does not make an adoption plan for the child, if he says he will?

Indiana Law provides answers to these questions and applies if either the birth mother or the prospective adoptive parents live in Indiana. In other words, if the birth mother works with an adoption law firm in Indiana, like the Adoption Law Firm of Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”) or an adoption agency in Indiana, and she lives in Indiana, Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, or many other states, the Indiana adoption attorney or adoption agency can use Indiana Code § 31-19-3, the Pre-birth Notice Statute, to accurately assess the sincerity and commitment of a birth father who said that he objects to the adoption or refuses to sign a consent to the adoption. In the “old” days, the birth mother and adoptive parents could either decide not to do the adoption for fear of what the father might do or proceed with an adoptive placement, give the father notice of the adoption AFTER the child’s birth, and hope he would not challenge. This complicated already impossibly difficult decisions.

In the 1990s, Adoption Attorney Steven M. Kirsh of the Adoption Law Firm of Kirsh & Kirsh proposed to the Indiana General Assembly the idea of allowing (but not requiring) adoption attorneys and adoption agencies to give notice of an intended adoption to the alleged father of the unborn child BEFORE THE BABY’S BIRTH. The Indiana General Assembly liked Steve Kirsh’s idea and enacted the Pre-birth Notice Statute in Indiana. Since then other states have followed Indiana’s lead and enacted similar laws.

Therefore, if either the birth mother or prospective parents live in Indiana, the Indiana adoption attorney or adoption agency can give the father of the unborn child notice of the adoption. If the pre-birth notice is correctly given (another reason to involve an experienced adoption attorney, well versed in the laws of Indiana, like Kirsh & Kirsh) and the father does not file a paternity action within 30 days of the receipt of the notice – not the birth of the baby, but the receipt of the notice, the father is deemed to have consented to the adoption, just as if he signed the consent to adoption.

In filing a paternity action, the birth father asks the court to make him legally and financially responsible for the child for the next 18 to 21 years. The Indiana General Assembly has taken the position that if a man undertakes that responsibility, his parental rights will be honored. If not, he cannot object to the adoption of the child. Because Tennessee, Mississippi, and Kentucky, like Indiana, allow a man to file a paternity action before the baby’s birth, the Indiana Pre-birth Notice Statute can be used if the birth mother or adoptive parents live in Indiana.

Over the last 35+ years, we at Kirsh & Kirsh have given many men pre-birth notice of an adoption. Rarely do men object to the adoption, but by using the Pre-birth Notice Statute, the birth mother and adoptive parents know where they stand when the baby arrives.

For more information about the Pre-birth Notice Statute or if you are pregnant and considering making an adoption plan, please contact us at Kirsh & Kirsh. We can help you find a loving, secure, and happy home for your precious baby, among our carefully screened, prospective adoptive parents. We can help you, without cost or obligation on your part. We will always treat you will kindness and respect. Of the many expectant mothers with whom we have worked over years, many, if not most, have needed help paying their living expenses while they were pregnant and during their postpartum recovery.

You can call, text and or email us anytime. To contact us—call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or Facebook message:  https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.