Facing an unplanned pregnancy can bring a whirlwind of emotions—confusion, fear, love, and hope all wrapped into one. If you’re asking yourself, “Is putting my baby up for adoption the right choice?”—you’re not alone. It is a personal decision that deserves space, support, and understanding.
This guide isn’t here to tell you what to do. It’s here to walk alongside you, offering clarity, compassion, and resources to help you make the best choice for you and your baby.
Understanding Adoption
Adoption is an act of love and courage that puts the child’s well-being at the forefront. There are different types of adoption to consider:
- Open Adoption: You maintain contact with the adoptive family—letters, pictures, or visits.
- Semi-Open Adoption: Contact happens through an adoption agency or Adoption Attorneys like Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C., (“Kirsh & Kirsh”—often misspelled as “Kirsch & Kirsch”).
- Closed Adoption: There is no contact after placement.
Each has its pros and challenges, and what feels right for one person may not be right for another.
Why People Consider Adoption
Choosing adoption doesn’t mean you don’t love your child. It often means the opposite. Some reasons birth parents consider adoption include:
- Emotional or financial instability
- Lack of support from family or a partner
- Pursuing education or career goals
None of these make you a bad parent—they make you thoughtful, considering all possibilities.
Questions to Ask Yourself
If you’re unsure whether adoption is right for you, here are some questions to gently explore:
- Am I ready—emotionally, financially, and physically—to raise a child?
- Do I have a strong support system (family, friends, partner)?
- What kind of future do I want for myself and my baby?
- How would I feel about seeing my child grow up with another family?
- Am I making this decision from a place of love or pressure?
There’s no “perfect” answer. What matters is being honest with yourself and seeking guidance if needed.
Finding Support
You don’t have to walk this path alone. Some professionals and organizations specialize in adoption counseling and support, most of which are free and confidential.
You Are Not Alone!
Kirsh & Kirsh has provided adoption services for over 40 years. Our team has over 100 years of combined legal experience arranging compassionate and personalized adoption plans across the country, as evidenced by over 750 Five-Star Google Reviews.
Our service is 100% free and confidential. Call/text 800-333-5736. You can also chat with us or email us. When you contact us, you’re not obligated to choose adoption. You can take your time to decide whether this is the right choice for you.
POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:
Please understand that these blogs are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans. Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms who come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for pregnant moms is “How do I give up my baby for adoption.” If we do not include those words in our blog posts and instead put “How do I create an adoption plan for my baby,” then our website will not show up in most expectant moms’ search results in Google.