Becoming a mother can bring up a tidal wave of emotions, whether planned or unexpected. If you’re considering adoption, you may feel scared, confused, guilty, or overwhelmed. And while friends or family may have their opinions, this is your decision. You deserve answers to the hard questions, “even the ones you’re afraid to ask.”
Let’s talk honestly, without judgment, and with the compassion you need right now.
“Does choosing adoption mean I don’t love my baby?”
Not. It often means the opposite. Choosing adoption can be one of the most selfless and loving decisions a parent makes. It says: I want my child to have the best life possible—even if that life isn’t with me right now.
“What if I change my mind?”
You’re allowed to have doubts. Many women do. Adoption is a big decision—it’s okay to take your time. Most adoption agencies/attorneys like Loving Adoptions by Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C., (“Kirsh & Kirsh” — often misspelled as “Kirsch & Kirsch”) provide counseling and support to help you think through your options. When you contact us, you’re not obligated to choose adoption. You can take your time to decide whether this is the right choice for you, without any pressure from us.
“Will I ever see my baby again?”
Yes, if you want to. Today’s adoptions can be open, semi-open, or closed. In an open adoption, you can choose the family, stay in contact, receive updates, and even have visits, depending on what you and the adoptive family agree on.
You have a voice. You get to shape what the future relationship looks like.
“Will people judge me for giving up my baby?”
The truth? Some might. But many others will admire your strength, courage, and love. And more importantly, you’re not doing this for them. You’re doing it for your child and yourself.
“How do I even start the process?“
You start with questions, just like you’re doing now. Then, talk to the adoption professionals who can walk you through the next steps. They’ll help you understand your rights, guide you through creating an adoption plan, and connect you with potential families if and when you’re ready.
“Will I regret this?”
No one can predict the future, but we know this: Women who make this decision thoughtfully, with support, and out of love tend to carry both sadness and peace. Adoption is a loss—but it can also be a gift, a connection, and a legacy of love.
You may grieve, and that’s okay. You may also heal, grow, and move forward, never forgetting your child and always knowing you did what you believed was best.
You’re Not Alone
No matter what you decide, this is your journey. And you deserve answers, compassion, and support every step of the way.
Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C., (“Kirsh & Kirsh”—often misspelled as “Kirsch & Kirsch”) would be a reliable partner in this journey. We are a team of experienced adoption attorneys in Indiana with combined experience arranging adoptions of over 100 years. For over 40 years, we have been helping women like you navigate adoption with care and respect.
Placing your baby for adoption is a courageous decision. If you need help now, call or text us at 800-333-5736, chat with us online, or email us. Our services are 100% free and confidential. Let us support you as you make the best decision for you and your baby.
POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:
Please understand that these blogs are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans. Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms who come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for pregnant moms is “How do I give up my baby for adoption.” If we do not include those words in our blog posts and instead put “How do I create an adoption plan for my baby,” then our website will not show up in most expectant moms’ search results in Google.