Becoming a mother can bring up a tidal wave of emotions, whether planned or unexpected. If you’re considering adoption, you may feel scared, confused, guilty, or overwhelmed. And while friends or family may have their opinions, this is your decision. You deserve answers to the hard questions, “even the ones you’re afraid to ask.”

Let’s talk honestly, without judgment, and with the compassion you need right now.

“Does choosing adoption mean I don’t love my baby?”

Not. It often means the opposite. Choosing adoption can be one of the most selfless and loving decisions a parent makes. It says: I want my child to have the best life possible—even if that life isn’t with me right now.

“What if I change my mind?”

You’re allowed to have doubts. Many women do. Adoption is a big decision—it’s okay to take your time. Most adoption agencies/attorneys like Loving Adoptions by Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C., (“Kirsh & Kirsh” — often misspelled as “Kirsch & Kirsch”) provide counseling and support to help you think through your options. When you contact us, you’re not obligated to choose adoption. You can take your time to decide whether this is the right choice for you, without any pressure from us.

“Will I ever see my baby again?”

Yes, if you want to. Today’s adoptions can be open, semi-open, or closed. In an open adoption, you can choose the family, stay in contact, receive updates, and even have visits, depending on what you and the adoptive family agree on.

You have a voice. You get to shape what the future relationship looks like.

“Will people judge me for giving up my baby?”

The truth? Some might. But many others will admire your strength, courage, and love. And more importantly, you’re not doing this for them. You’re doing it for your child and yourself.

“How do I even start the process?

You start with questions, just like you’re doing now. Then, talk to the adoption professionals who can walk you through the next steps. They’ll help you understand your rights, guide you through creating an adoption plan, and connect you with potential families if and when you’re ready.

“Will I regret this?”

No one can predict the future, but we know this: Women who make this decision thoughtfully, with support, and out of love tend to carry both sadness and peace. Adoption is a loss—but it can also be a gift, a connection, and a legacy of love.

You may grieve, and that’s okay. You may also heal, grow, and move forward, never forgetting your child and always knowing you did what you believed was best.

You’re Not Alone

No matter what you decide, this is your journey. And you deserve answers, compassion, and support every step of the way.

Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C., (“Kirsh & Kirsh”—often misspelled as “Kirsch & Kirsch”) would be a reliable partner in this journey. We are a team of experienced adoption attorneys in Indiana with combined experience arranging adoptions of over 100 years. For over 40 years, we have been helping women like you navigate adoption with care and respect. 

Placing your baby for adoption is a courageous decision. If you need help now, call or text us at 800-333-5736, chat with us online, or email us. Our services are 100% free and confidential. Let us support you as you make the best decision for you and your baby.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  

Please understand that these blogs are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans. Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms who come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for pregnant moms is “How do I give up my baby for adoption.”  If we do not include those words in our blog posts and instead put “How do I create an adoption plan for my baby,” then our website will not show up in most expectant moms’ search results in Google.

Dealing with an unplanned pregnancy can be overwhelming. You may feel scared, unsure, or uncertain about what to do next. Whether you’re just beginning to explore your options or already thinking about giving your baby up for adoption, it’s important to know that you’re not alone and you have choices.

At Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C., (“Kirsh & Kirsh”—often misspelled as “Kirsch & Kirsch”), we’ve been guiding birth mothers through the adoption process for over 40 years. We are a team of experienced adoption attorneys in Indiana with combined experience arranging adoptions for over 100 years. 

Exploring Your Options

The first step is understanding all of your options. That may include parenting, adoption, or other possibilities. You deserve to make an informed decision for you and your baby.

We offer free, confidential guidance with no pressure or obligation. It’s just a safe space to talk and get the answers you need. We will even arrange for you to have your own, independent attorney, to give you private, legal advice if you want one. 

Choosing the Type of Adoption That Feels Right

A big part of the adoption process is deciding what kind of relationship you want to have with your child and the adoptive family. You have three main choices:

  • Open Adoption: You stay in touch with the adoptive family, with the option for regular communication or visits.
  • Semi-Open Adoption: Updates (like letters and photos) are shared through our team, allowing you to stay informed while maintaining privacy.
  • Closed Adoption: No direct contact or identifying information is shared after placement.

We’re here to explain each option and help you make the decision that is comfortable for you.

Working with Trusted Adoption Professionals

Choosing the right adoption professionals is one of your most important steps. At Kirsh & Kirsh, we are experienced Indiana adoption attorneys focusing entirely on adoption law. We’ve helped countless women through this journey with care and sensitivity.

When you work with us, you’ll get help with:

  • Understanding your rights
  • Choosing from a wide selection of loving, pre-screened adoptive families
  • Accessing free emotional support and counseling

Creating Your Personalized Adoption Plan

Think of this plan as your roadmap (with an off-ramp if you choose not to give up your baby for adoption). You’ll get to make choices about:

  • The type of adoption (open, semi-open, or closed)
  • The kind of adoptive family 

Want to Talk? We’re Here for You 24/7

Every adoption story is unique. Reaching out doesn’t mean you’re committing to anything—it just means you’re exploring. We’re here to support you, answer your questions, and respect your privacy.

Our service is 100% free and confidential. Call/text 800-333-5736. You can also chat or email us.

Positive adoption language Disclaimer: 

Please understand that these blogs are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans. Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms who come to us at first do not know what that means. The most common search term on the internet for pregnant moms is “How do I give up my baby for adoption?” If we do not include those words in our blog posts and instead put “How do I create an adoption plan for my baby?” then our website will not show up in most expectant moms’ search results in Google.

You didn’t see this coming. One test, two lines—and suddenly, everything feels like it’s spinning. You didn’t plan for this. You might be shocked, scared, or overwhelmed. Take a deep breath. You are not alone. Finding out you’re pregnant when you weren’t expecting it can hit hard. This is your life and your choice. Friends and family will likely try to tell you what you should do, but they will not live with the consequences of your decision. Objective, unbiased, non-judgmental, unplanned pregnancy help is out there, and support is closer than you think.

You Have Options

When you’re staring at a positive test, it might feel like your choices are being made for you. But that’s not true. You have options and the right to make your own decision. However, think about the long-term impact of the decision you make.  

  • Parenting: Maybe you didn’t plan to be a parent right now—or ever—but that doesn’t mean you can’t rise to the challenge with the right support. 
  • Adoption: For some, choosing adoption is a way to give their child a stable life with a family who cannot wait to devote their entire lives to your child, while still having the chance to stay connected, depending on the type of adoption chosen. It’s not “giving up.” It’s making a conscious, courageous decision.
  • Abortion: If this is the path you’re considering, seek out accurate, non-judgmental medical advice to understand your choices, risks, and the timeframe involved.

Seek Professional Support

At Loving Adoptions by Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C., we guide birth mothers in creating their personalized adoption plans. We provide free and confidential adoption services throughout the country. Our adoption support team will be by your side every step of the way. 

We are Indiana adoption professionals with 100+ years of combined legal experience arranging adoptions. For over 40 years, we have helped many pregnant women with guidance and support as they go through their pregnancy and decide to put their child up for adoption

Choosing a licensed adoption attorney like us ensures you work with professionals who adhere to ethical and legal standards. Our team works 24/7/365, so you can contact us anytime.

Let’s Talk—When You’re Ready

You don’t have to figure it all out alone. If you’re considering adoption or need someone to talk to about your pregnancy, we’re here. Contact us if you would like to understand more about your unexpected pregnancy options. To contact us, call/text 800-333-5736. You can also get in touch with us through email

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  

Please understand that these blogs are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans. Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms who come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for pregnant moms is “How do I give up my baby for adoption.”  If we do not include those words in our blog posts and instead put “How do I create an adoption plan for my baby,” then our website will not show up in most expectant moms’ search results in Google.