Can I Give Up My Baby for Adoption Without Telling the Father of the Baby?

Can I Give Up My Baby for Adoption Without Telling the Father of the Baby?

We, at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”) get asked this question for a variety of reasons, including the father abused the birth mother, said he did not believe he fathered the child, disappeared after learning of the pregnancy, in any case is not ready to be a father, and the like. Sometimes, an expectant mother feels ashamed that she let “this” happen to her and wants to keep everything confidential. Whatever the reason, if you are considering placing your child for adoption, it is critical that you consult with experienced adoption attorneys, like Kirsh & Kirsh, about your specific circumstances before deciding what to do about the father. Kirsh & Kirsh has handled numerous adoptions over the last 35 years. In fact, Adoption Attorney Steve Kirsh, wrote the preliminary drafts of much of Indiana’s adoption laws since the 1980’s and has testified in support of adoption legislation in the Indiana General Assembly on dozens of occasions. In 2006, the Indiana General Assembly passed a resolution in which it “[R]ecognizes Steven Kirsh for his dedication and contribution to the field of adoption both in Indiana and on a national and international level and congratulates him on his receipt of the Angels in Adoption award.”

Robert B. Kirsh, Steve’s brother, handles adoptions for Kirsh & Kirsh in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, and Indiana. If you live outside of Indiana but choose an Indiana family to adopt your baby, Kirsh & Kirsh may be able to arrange for the adoption to take advantage of Indiana law which would NOT require you to identify the father of the baby, unless you are married to him or he has otherwise established paternity by a court proceeding or signing a paternity affidavit.
Again, consult an experienced adoption attorney before deciding on a course action. Pursuing other strategies might provide more predictable outcomes. As an example, giving pre-birth notice to the birth father, which we address in another blog, would enable both the expectant mother and adoptive parents to know before birth whether the father will try to stop the adoption. The pre-birth notice option may be available if the baby will be born outside of Indiana but adopted by Indiana adoptive parents. Kirsh & Kirsh represents dozens of prospective adoptive parents who have been carefully screened and investigated and who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes.

Kirsh & Kirsh has helped birth parents finding loving, secure, and happy homes for their precious babies for more than 35 years. We can help you, without cost or obligation on your part. We will always treat you will kindness and respect. Of the many expectant mothers with whom we have worked over years, many, if not most, have needed help paying their with living expenses while they were pregnant and during their postpartum recovery, which is also something we can help with.

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