This question occupies the minds of many, if not all, birth parents who consider giving their newborns and older children up for adoption, or more correctly, making an adoption plan for their child/children. It would be hard not to have such a concern. However, while a parent may consider their child’s opinion about a decision, a parent MUST make decisions based upon what the parent believes serves the child’s best interests, even if the child believes otherwise. Effective parenting is not about garnering the child’s approval but doing what the PARENT believes best serves the child’s present and future well-being. This is especially true as the size of the decision increases. If a parent occasionally allows their child to stay up late rather than going to bed at a reasonable hour, deferring to the child may result in a cranky, tired child the next morning, but it will have little long-term impact on the child’s life. But always allowing a child to spend time playing video games instead of doing their homework will have big consequences for the child’s future. A birth mother who believes that an adoptive home gives her child the best chance to realize his or her full potential, as a productive member of society is UNQUESTIONABLY a course of action that a birth mother needs to make regardless of what the child may think of the decision at some future time. So, in direct answer to the question posed above –your child may not understand why you put the child up for adoption, but, as a parent you must do what YOU believe is best for the child. By the way, it is also quite possible that in the right adoptive home, where you as the birth mother are celebrated for the being the hero that you are, the child may very well come to love you for the decision. 

If you would like more information about adoption and available living expenses during and after your pregnancy, we, at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – would be happy to help. Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant, pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. 

At Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, the four adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh have over 100 years of combined legal experience arranging adoptions. Kirsh & Kirsh has been in existence since 1981. We know Indiana Adoption Law inside and out. We can find a wonderful home for your baby regardless of your social and medical history. Please be honest with us and do not worry that no one will want your baby.  There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families, FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices about which family adopts your baby and the extent of contacts you want after the child’s birth. Conversely, if you do not wish to choose the family, we will pick the best family on your behalf.

As attorneys, we at Kirsh & Kirsh, have very high standards for the prospective adoptive parents we choose to represent. All our waiting families are carefully screened and thoroughly investigated. We will arrange for you to have contact with the family you choose on your terms, without families trying to reach you at all hours of the day or night. 

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Terre Haute or Indianapolis, Shelbyville or Bloomington, Evansville or Sellersburg, Hammond or South Bend, Auburn or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, Michigan, or Illinois.

You can call, text and or email us anytime – call/ text: 800-333-5736contact us, or Facebook message. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.

The answer depends on the state in which you live and whether you and the father of the baby are married or have been married to each other in roughly the year preceding the birth of the baby.  Because we, at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”), have our main office in Indiana, we can file most of the adoptions we facilitate in Indiana, even if the birth mother or expectant mother lives in Mississippi, Tennessee, Kentucky, Michigan, or any other state. Indiana has among the best adoption laws in the country. Under Indiana law, an expectant or birth mother does NOT have to identify the father of the child. Indiana law enables a birth father to take the initiative to protect his parental rights if he so desires, by means of the Indiana Putative Father Registry. In 2020, the Indiana General Assembly enacted a bill that extended the concept of the Indiana Putative Father Registry to any state that has its own Putative Father Registry. If a woman conceives a child in any of the twenty-seven states with Putative Father Registries, we, at Kirsh & Kirsh, can file the adoption in Indiana and rely on the Putative Father Registry in the state of in which the woman got pregnant to address the birth father’s parental rights, without the birth mother having to identify him. However, under Indiana law, the Putative Father Registry does not apply to those men who have established paternity by in a court action or by executing a paternity affidavit or to husbands of birth mothers.

We, at Kirsh & Kirsh — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant, pride ourselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment.

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide you with the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. The Kirsh Boys have 90 YEARS OF COMBINED EXPERIENCE practicing adoption law. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Westfield or Indianapolis, Martinsville or Columbus, Jasper or Newburgh, South Bend or Mishawaka, Marion or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, or Michigan.

There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of family options from which you can choose, all of whom are wonderful, carefully screened, loving families, FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices which family adopts your baby & extent of contacts you want after the child’s birth.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime -call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or Facebook message: https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant moms’ search results in Google.

Many states, including Indiana, allow adoptive parents to assist with expectant and birth mother living expenses to make her life easier but not act as an inducement for a birth parent to put up a baby for adoption or, more correctly, make an adoption plan for a baby. Living expenses include such things as housing, utilities, phone service, maternity clothing, travel, and other miscellaneous expenses related to the second and third trimester of the pregnancy and for up to 6 weeks following the birth of the baby, IN ADDITION TO medical, counseling, and legal fees.

We, at Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”), have expectant and birth mothers complete a simple, one-page worksheet to verify their monthly expenses and then send the moms a check each month based upon their needs and the statutorily allowable expenses.

We DO NOT require expectant and birth mothers to sign a promissory note or contract, requiring the moms to repay living expenses in the event they decide not to proceed with an adoption. Furthermore, so long as a woman intends, in good faith, to proceed with an adoption, Indiana Law does not impose criminal penalties for accepting living expenses and not placing the baby for adoption.

The “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh, are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant – pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. They cannot make adoption an easy choice, but they can make it less scary by removing some of the unknowns. Ultimately, a birth parent will have to decide if adoption is in their own best interests and the best interests of their child. We, at Kirsh & Kirsh, will not and cannot make that decision for anyone, but we can provide information and answers to questions.

Our contact information is below.  We will answer your questions and provide you the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. The Kirsh Boys have 90 YEARS OF COMBINED EXPERIENCE practicing adoption law. We can help you find an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Plainfield or Indianapolis, Columbus or Madison, Evansville or New Albany, or Auburn or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, or Kentucky.

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families, FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the full extent allowed by law.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime —call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or Facebook message:  https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.

Birth parents do not pay for the services of Kirsh & Kirsh. The adoptive parents – rather than birth mothers — pay the fees of Kirsh & Kirsh. In addition to providing our services free of charge to expectant mothers, we will arrange for expectant and birth mothers to consult with their own attorney and speak with a counselor, if they wish, AT NO COST. Also, the adoptive parent clients of Kirsh & Kirsh will assist birth mothers with living expenses, as allowed by Indiana law.

Our attorneys have 90 years of combined experience arranging adoptions in Indiana. We help birth mothers and expectant mothers find secure, loving, and happy homes for their precious soon-to-be-born and newborn babies. We have lots of thoroughly investigated, carefully screened families, who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their homes and hearts. Like local adoption agencies and national adoption agencies, Indiana Law allows adoption attorneys to provide adoption services to birth parents, which includes matching birthmothers with adoptive parents of the birthmother’s choosing. We, at Kirsh & Kirsh, give birth mothers and expectant mothers the option of deciding how much involvement they want to have in choosing adoptive parents. Some women want to read about, talk to, and meet prospective adoptive parents. Others want us, at Kirsh & Kirsh, to pick the family.

Our contact information is below.  We will answer your questions and provide you the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. We can help you find an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Carmel or Indianapolis, Elkhart or South Bend, Madison or New Albany, or Huntington or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, or Kentucky.

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families, FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY(married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the full extent allowed by law.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime —call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or Facebook message:  https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.

Great question! The brief answer is that you “are driving the bus.” Tell us where you want to go, and we will help you figure out how to get there. You tell us what information you want about our adoption program and giving a baby up for adoption, or more correctly, making an adoption plan for your newborn baby or child or unborn infant, and we will explain how the process works. Also, you tell us how you want to receive the information – we will text, email, chat, Zoom, talk by telephone, or meet in person. We tailor each adoption plan to the individuals involved. Some birth parents are just “dipping their toes in the water” about adoption and are afraid to communicate with us in any way for fear that doing so will obligate them to put their baby up for adoption or mean that they will be forced to work with us. NOT TRUE! While we are really good at arranging adoptions, we are not so good at reading minds. We cannot tell you how we can help you unless you tell us what you want to know. No two ways about it — the decision to place a child for adoption will be the hardest decision you will ever make. The decision is hard no matter what, even when you are equipped with all of the information about the process. But it can become overwhelmingly difficult—perhaps even impossible—if you don’t have ANY information, or if you have incorrect information. If you contact us, we will respond. If you tell us what you want to know, we will tell you. We will NOT pressure you, try to talk you into adoption, or make you feel bad about yourself.

Our contact information is below.  We, at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, will answer your questions and provide you the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. Our adoption attorneys have 90 YEARS OF COMBINED EXPERIENCE practicing adoption law. We can help you find an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Wabash or Indianapolis, Rensselaer or Bloomington, Evansville or Sullivan, or Lafayette or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, or Kentucky.

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families, FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY(married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the full extent allowed by law.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime —call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or Facebook message:  https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.

We, at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”) understand your fear. Like many national adoption agencies and local adoption agencies, we receive lots of completed contact forms from birth mothers and expectant mothers who have visited our website, www.LovingAdoptions.com, but who then do not respond after initially reaching out to us. We can only imagine that they were either very uncertain about adoption when they completed the contact form or the reality of actually talking about adoption overwhelmed them when we responded to their inquiry.

We, at Kirsh & Kirsh, take a no-pressure, non-judgmental approach, when talking with birth parents about how to put up their babies for adoption, or more correctly, make adoption plans for their newborns or soon-to-be-born babies.  The unknown scares all of us. Ironically, if a pregnant woman, thinking about adoption for her baby, would talk or meet with us, we would make the process less scary by explaining what she could expect in an adoption arranged by our office. We cannot make the decision to place a baby or parent the baby easy, but we can remove the unknowns about adoption, without the birth mother feeling pressured or judged for whatever decision she makes.

Our contact information is below.  We, at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C., will answer your questions and provide you the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. Our adoption attorneys have 90 YEARS OF COMBINED EXPERIENCE practicing adoption law. We can help you find an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Greenwood or Indianapolis, Seymour or Bloomington, Evansville or Vincennes, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, or Kentucky.

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families, FROM ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the full extent allowed by law.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime —call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or Facebook message:  https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.