Living expenses for placing baby for adoption in America


Many states, including Indiana, allow adoptive parents to assist with expectant and birth mother living expenses to make her life easier but not act as an inducement for a birth parent to put up a baby for adoption or, more correctly, make an adoption plan for a baby. Living expenses include such things as housing, utilities, phone service, maternity clothing, travel, and other miscellaneous expenses related to the second and third trimester of the pregnancy and for up to 6 weeks following the birth of the baby, IN ADDITION TO medical, counseling, and legal fees.

We, at Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”), have expectant and birth mothers complete a simple, one-page worksheet to verify their monthly expenses and then send the moms a check each month based upon their needs and the statutorily allowable expenses.

We DO NOT require expectant and birth mothers to sign a promissory note or contract, requiring the moms to repay living expenses in the event they decide not to proceed with an adoption. Furthermore, so long as a woman intends, in good faith, to proceed with an adoption, Indiana Law does not impose criminal penalties for accepting living expenses and not placing the baby for adoption.

The “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh, are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant – pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. They cannot make adoption an easy choice, but they can make it less scary by removing some of the unknowns. Ultimately, a birth parent will have to decide if adoption is in their own best interests and the best interests of their child. We, at Kirsh & Kirsh, will not and cannot make that decision for anyone, but we can provide information and answers to questions.

Our contact information is below.  We will answer your questions and provide you the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. The Kirsh Boys have 90 YEARS OF COMBINED EXPERIENCE practicing adoption law. We can help you find an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Plainfield or Indianapolis, Columbus or Madison, Evansville or New Albany, or Auburn or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, or Kentucky.

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families, FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the full extent allowed by law.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime —call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email:, or Facebook message: We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.

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