Over the last 38+ years, we, at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”) have heard this concern many times. In fact, our 4 attorneys have over 90 years of experience practicing adoption law, in Indiana, Tennessee, Mississippi, and Kentucky. In our years of experience, we have never heard of a birth father actually making that argument. But, if one of our birth mothers were to find herself having defended herself in such a case, we would offer to come to court to testify on her behalf that women love their babies and consider putting their babies up for adoption, or, more correctly, make adoption plans for their babies, because they want more for their children than they believe they can provide at that time in their lives. They want what is best for their babies and believe that an adoptive placement would assure the children bright futures, in safe, secure, and loving homes. However, just because a birth mother may believe an adoptive family could provide her child more opportunities and stability than she can provide does not mean that she believes the father of the baby would be able to provide the same opportunities and stability as an adoptive family. In other words, she does not believe the birth father raising the child is the best alternative to adoption.
Consider this analogy: I, Steve Kirsh, am a better-than-average golfer. If I were playing in a golf tournament and had the opportunity to have Tiger Woods finish the round for me to win the tournament, I would take it. But if he were not available, I believe I would have a better chance of winning than my brother, Rob Kirsh, who is a very good adoption attorney but not a very good golfer. In other words, just because I believed someone else would have a better chance of success does not mean that ANYONE besides me would have a better chance.
Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide you the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us costs you nothing nor does it mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. We can assist you with an Indiana adoption no matter whether you live in Westfield or Indianapolis, New Albany or Jeffersonville, Jasper or Newburgh, or Warsaw or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between.
We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the full extent allowed by law.
You can call, text, and or email us anytime —call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or a Facebook message: https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.
POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER: Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans. Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”. If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.