Cairs Admin, Author at Loving Adoptions

CAN THE FATHER OF THE BABY PARTICIPATE IN PUTTING THE BABY UP FOR ADOPTION?

Of course, not all adoption agencies and adoption attorneys share the same philosophy, but we, at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”) welcome a birth father’s cooperation in an adoption. However, not often is the father of the baby as interested in planning an adoption as he was at being present for the conception of the baby.

Yesterday, I met an expectant birth mother and birth father. The father fully supported the expectant mother’s desire to explore adoption for their baby, due to be born any day. He listened closely as I explained what they could expect if they decided to give up the baby for adoption, or, more correctly, make an adoption plan for the baby.

Under Indiana Adoption Law, a birth mother cannot sign a consent to adoption prior to a child’s birth, but the birth father can sign. He wanted to sign the consent at the time of our meeting, in case he could not make it to the hospital when the birth mother would sign her consent to the adoption. Not only did he have a full-time job, he thought he might have to care for their other children, while the mother of the baby was hospitalized for the birth.

He wanted to participate in selecting the adoptive parents from the profiles I gave to them and thought he might like to meet them. He said he would be happy to complete a background form like the one the mother will complete so that his child and the adoptive parents will have important medical and social history information, about him, as well as the mother of the baby.

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide you the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us costs you nothing nor does it mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. We can assist you with an Indiana adoption no matter whether you live in Westfield or Indianapolis, Bloomington or Bedford, Evansville or Newburgh, or Decatur or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana city or county, in between.

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the full extent allowed by law.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime —call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: [email protected], or a Facebook message: https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER: Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans. Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”. If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.

WHEN I FIRST FOUND OUT I WAS PREGNANT, I CONTACTED AN ADOPTION AGENCY. DO I HAVE TO WORK WITH THAT AGENCY OR CAN I USE SOMEONE ELSE TO HELP ME GIVE UP MY BABY FOR ADOPTION?

No. Sometimes a birth mother will contact a national adoption agency or local adoption agency because the agency has advised the birth mother not to work with an adoption attorney or because the adoption agency has a slick website. At times, an expectant mother or birth mother will find that the adoption agency is too hard to reach, she does not like the agency’s policies, the agency’s counselors or social workers pry too much into the birth mother’s affairs, the agency does not have adoptive parents that the birth mother likes or with whom she could imagine placing her baby for adoption, or any number of other reasons. The decision to put up a baby for adoption, or more correctly, make an adoption plan for a baby is too big a decision not to trust completely, or be comfortable with, the adoption facilitator, whether an adoption agency or adoption attorney. Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”) understand this and are happy to meet with any woman thinking about adoption, without cost or obligation on her part, to give her the chance to see if she likes and feels comfortable with, us. In other words, if a woman contacts or even meets with us, she never has to talk with us again.

But, if you would like to work with us, we try our best to accommodate your desires and wishes. We know that every expectant mother, who contacts us, is unique and could care less about “the normal way of doing things.” Birth mothers want whatever makes the impossibly difficult decision of giving up a child for adoption easier – not more complicated.

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide you the information you seek. We can assist you with an Indiana adoption no matter whether you live in Goshen or South Bend, Fort Wayne or Huntington, Madison or Clarksville, or Evansville or Newburgh, or any Indiana county or city in between.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER: Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans. Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption.” If we do not include those words in our blog posts and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby,” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.

I FEAR THAT IF THE FATHER OF THE BABY KNOWS I AM THINKING ABOUT GIVING THE BABY UP FOR ADOPTION, HE WILL USE THE PLANNED ADOPTION AGAINST ME IN A CUSTODY BATTLE.

Over the last 38+ years, we, at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”) have heard this concern many times. In fact, our 4 attorneys have over 90 years of experience practicing adoption law, in Indiana, Tennessee, Mississippi, and Kentucky. In our years of experience, we have never heard of a birth father actually making that argument. But, if one of our birth mothers were to find herself having defended herself in such a case, we would offer to come to court to testify on her behalf that women love their babies and consider putting their babies up for adoption, or, more correctly, make adoption plans for their babies, because they want more for their children than they believe they can provide at that time in their lives. They want what is best for their babies and believe that an adoptive placement would assure the children bright futures, in safe, secure, and loving homes. However, just because a birth mother may believe an adoptive family could provide her child more opportunities and stability than she can provide does not mean that she believes the father of the baby would be able to provide the same opportunities and stability as an adoptive family. In other words, she does not believe the birth father raising the child is the best alternative to adoption.

Consider this analogy: I, Steve Kirsh, am a better-than-average golfer. If I were playing in a golf tournament and had the opportunity to have Tiger Woods finish the round for me to win the tournament, I would take it. But if he were not available, I believe I would have a better chance of winning than my brother, Rob Kirsh, who is a very good adoption attorney but not a very good golfer. In other words, just because I believed someone else would have a better chance of success does not mean that ANYONE besides me would have a better chance.

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide you the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us costs you nothing nor does it mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. We can assist you with an Indiana adoption no matter whether you live in Westfield or Indianapolis, New Albany or Jeffersonville, Jasper or Newburgh, or Warsaw or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between.

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the full extent allowed by law.