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I PLAN TO GIVE UP MY BABY FOR ADOPTION. WHAT WILL HAPPEN AT THE HOSPITAL?

Often pregnant women, who contact us at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”) about placing their babies up for adoption, or more correctly, making an adoption plan for their babies, want to know what will happen in the hospital.

We, at Kirsh & Kirsh, give birth mothers total control over what takes place at the hospital, including who the birth mother chooses to have in labor and delivery with her, who can see and spend time with the baby after birth, how much time the birth mother spends with the baby, whether she wants to care for the baby in the hospital herself or have the nurses or adoptive parents do so, and when she wants the adoptive parents to arrive at the hospital – for labor and delivery, after delivery, prior to her discharge from the hospital, or at any other time. In short, the birth mother makes ALL decisions for the baby and her in the hospital.

Additionally, at Kirsh & Kirsh, we make sure that the birth mother can spend time with the baby, even after she signs her consent to the adoption.

When the baby is ready for discharge from the hospital, the baby leaves into the loving arms of the adoptive parent(s). Kirsh & Kirsh does not require intermediate foster care nor will the Indiana or Tennessee Department of Children Services (“DCS”), the Mississippi Department of Child Protective Services (“CPS”), nor the Kentucky Child Protection Branch (“CHFS”) have any involvement in an adoption arranged by Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh.

Over the last 35+ years, we, at Kirsh & Kirsh, have assisted many pregnant women, in Indiana, Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, and around the country, with finding loving, happy, wonderful homes for their babies. We give expectant mothers and birth mothers as much or as little involvement in the family selection process as they would like.

We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and happy to assist with living expenses to the full extent allowed by law.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime —call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: [email protected], or a Facebook message: https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

Who Will Care For My Baby In The Hospital, If I Place My Baby For Adoption? I Think It Would Be Too Hard To Care For The Baby In The Hospital, But I Do Not Want My Baby To Be Alone In The Hospital

Many expectant mothers, thinking about giving up their babies for adoption, or more correctly, making an adoption plan for their newborns, have said this to us at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”). Before directly responding, this concern proves what we, at Kirsh & Kirsh, have said for the 35+ years we have arranged adoptions and know to be true: birth mothers place their babies for adoption because they LOVE their babies. They want their children to have better lives than they, the birth mothers, can provide at that time in their lives. If a birth mother did not love her baby, why would she be concerned about the baby being alone in the hospital?!?

Firstly, hospitals NEVER leave babies alone. Babies are ALWAYS under the watchful eye of the nurses. If a birth parent does not feed, change, and hold the baby, the nursery nurses are more than happy to love, nurture, and care for the baby. Hospital nursery nurses work in nurseries because they love taking care of babies.

Secondly, there is another, perhaps, better solution – at the birth mother’s request, the hospital will allow the adoptive parents into the hospital to personally care for the baby in the hospital until the baby is ready for discharge. In fact, most hospitals will give the prospective adoptive parents their own room on the mother-baby, post-partum unit until the baby is ready for discharge. A birth mother can have as much or as little contact with that baby as she feels comfortable. In our considerable experience, we know that each birth parent handles adoption on their own terms and in their own way. For some, that means not spending time with their babies in the hospital. For those mothers, they can rest assured that their babies will NOT be alone in the hospital.

We, at Kirsh & Kirsh, have assisted numerous pregnant women, in Indiana, Tennessee, Mississippi, and Kentucky to find loving, happy, wonderful homes for their babies. We give expectant mothers and birth mothers as much or as little involvement in the family selection process as they would like.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime —call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: [email protected], or a Facebook message: https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

I Am Pregnant And Not Ready For A Baby But Don’t Know If I Can Place The Baby For Adoption

At the Adoption Law Firm of Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”) we have met literally numerous of women over the last 35+ years who wanted information about giving up a baby for adoption, or more correctly, making an adoption plan for their soon-to-be-born, newborn babies, and young toddlers. Most, and probably all, of those women have had exactly the concern of whether they would actually be able to follow through with an adoption. To be clear, we are not psychologists, social workers, or counselors. What follows is a short summary of what those professionals have told us over the last 3 ½ decades that we have assisted adoptive parents and birth parents with arrangements for adoptions.

No two ways about it: if you place your baby for adoption, you will grieve the loss of your child much as you would grieve, or have grieved, the loss of a person close to you who passes away. Usually, grief does not last forever and lessens over time, but grief is real, and it is painful. We all grieve the deaths of people close to us. Usually, our degree of grief directly relates to our relationship with the deceased person. The closer the relationship – the more intense the grief. It is hard to imagine a relationship closer than between a mother and her child. Everyone handles grief differently, but you should assume your grief will be intense. However, because a decision is difficult or accompanied by grief, does not mean that decision is a bad one. Not all decisions are easy.

Unlike the example of a dying friend or relative, whether you decide to proceed with an adoption, parent the child, or make another choice, you have control over the decision, which means there will be consequences, which your choice has created, some of which will be SIGNIFICANT. If you decide to parent the child and find that you are not providing your child the life you believe your child deserves, how will you feel? How long will those feelings last? Will they lessen or intensify over time? Will you resent your child because the child prevented you from fulfilling your own dreams? If you have another child or children, what will adding a child to your home do to your ability to take care of that child or children? Of course, there are other options and feelings that will come into play. In other words, avoiding having to come to terms with the grief associated with adoption, does not necessarily mean the road is easy or stress-free, or even best for you. Only you can make that determination.

We encourage the expectant mothers who come to us to find homes for their newborns and young toddlers to speak with counselors to help them understand and deal with their feelings and emotions. Social workers often refer to the adoption decision as a struggle between one’s heart and head. The heart pulling in one direction and the head in another. We believe that counseling helps birth mothers make decisions that they can live with.

If you would like to explore adoption, in Indiana, Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, or anywhere else in the country, without cost or obligation on your part, do not hesitate to contact us. We have helped numerous birth parents find wonderful, loving homes for their babies. We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and happy to assist with living expenses to the full extent allowed by law.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime —call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: [email protected], or a Facebook message: https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.