Cairs Admin, Author at Loving Adoptions

HOW DO I FIND A FAMILY IF I DECIDE TO PUT MY BABY UP FOR ADOPTION?

In reality, finding a family is quite easy. Once you tell a few of your acquaintances or friends that you are considering giving your baby up for adoption or, more correctly, making an adoption plan for your baby, you will receive more inquiries than you would like from prospective adoptive parents. They will come out of the woodwork asking you if you will give them your baby. Aside from the obvious hassle of having to deal with lots of such families, that approach does not assure you of the BEST family for your baby or even a family who has the basic qualifications to adopt, such as a normal life expectancy, financial security, lack of criminal convictions, no drug problems, and the like.

If you would like to make the process easier and assure yourself of finding not just any family to adopt but a really good family, consider contacting reputable, experienced adoption professionals such as Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”), a national adoption agency, or a local adoption agency.

The four adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh have over 100 years of combined legal experience arranging adoptions. Kirsh & Kirsh has been in existence since 1981. As attorneys, we at Kirsh & Kirsh have very high standards for the prospective adoptive parents we choose to represent. In most situations, we can provide you with as many profiles of prospective adoptive parents as you would like to receive. All of our waiting families are carefully screened and thoroughly investigated. We will arrange for you to have contact with the family you choose on your terms, without families trying to reach you at all hours of the day or night.

If you would like to explore adoption, we at Kirsh & Kirsh — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – Steve and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment.

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide the information you seek without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us again. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Fishers or Indianapolis, Columbus or Bloomington, Evansville or Newburgh, Gary or South Bend, Lafayette or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, Michigan, or Illinois.

There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of family options from which you can choose, all of whom are wonderful, carefully screened, loving families FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices about which family adopts your baby and the extent of contact you want after the child’s birth.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime – call/text: 800-333-5736, contact us, or Facebook message. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER: Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans. Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption.” If we do not include those words in our blog posts and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby,” then our website will not show up in most expectant moms’ search results in Google.

IF I CHANGE MY MIND ABOUT PUTTING MY BABY UP FOR ADOPTION AND DCS GETS INVOLVED AFTER I GIVE BIRTH, AND THEN I DECIDE TO GIVE THE BABY UP FOR ADOPTION, CAN I STILL DO IT?

Unfortunately, probably not. Once the Indiana Department of Child Services, Kentucky Division of Child Care, Mississippi Department of Child Protection Services, Tennessee Department of Children Services, Michigan Children’s Protective Services, or Illinois Department of Children and Family Services (to make it simple we will refer to that department in any state as “DCS”) gets involved, DCS will likely make all decisions regarding your baby. Not typically do those decisions include allowing you, as the birth mother, to have a say in who adopts your baby or even whether you can place your baby for adoption. Your best bet if you think that DCS will get involved because have other open DCS cases or you have used drugs during your pregnancy, you should give a lot of thought to what you believe is best for you and your baby. If you want DCS to put your baby in a foster home and provide services to you to enable DCS to reunite you with the child, then you should not proceed with an adoption. On the other hand, if want your baby to go to forever home, with your input, you should contact an adoption agency or adoption professionals like Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”) before DCS assumes control over your baby at the hospital. If you and the baby are still in the hospital and DCS has already intervened, contact us at Kirsh & Kirsh. We may be able to help but don’t get your hopes up.

If you would like to explore adoption, we, at Kirsh & Kirsh — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant, have 90 years of combined legal experience arranging adoptions and pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment.

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Kokomo or Indianapolis, Bloomington or Beford, Evansville or New Albany, South Bend or Elkhart, Angola or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, Michigan, or Illinois.

There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of family options from which you can choose, all of whom are wonderful, carefully screened, loving families FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices about which family adopts your baby and the extent of contact you want after the child’s birth.

You can call, text and or email us anytime – call/text: 800-333-5736, contact us, or Facebook message. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER: Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans. Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”. If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.

IF I PLAN TO PUT UP MY BABY FOR ADOPTION, DO I HAVE TO MEET WITH SOMEONE, OR CAN I DO EVERYTHING ELECTRONICALLY IF I WORK WITH ADOPTION ATTORNEYS KIRSH & KIRSH, P.C. (“KIRSH & KIRSH”)?

Answer: Whatever works for you! We, at Kirsh & Kirsh, tailor each adoption to the needs of the birth mother and adoptive parents rather than handling all adoptions the same. As long as the arrangements meet all ethical and legal standards, we will facilitate each adoption in a way that puts the parties most at ease. We know planning an adoption causes stress. Nothing we do will make adoption EASY, but we can make the process EASIER by being flexible. Accordingly, if you want to “meet” with us by Zoom, FaceTime, telephone, email, text, or any other manner that allows us to share information with you and you with us, we will make the arrangements in that way. Very importantly, remember that NOTHING a birth mother does prior to signing a consent to adoption, which she cannot do until after she gives birth, obligates her to proceed with an adoption – no matter how she chooses to communicate with us.

If you would like to explore adoption, we, at Kirsh & Kirsh — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant, have 100 years of combined legal experience arranging adoptions and pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment.

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Greencastle or Indianapolis, New Albany or Clarksville, Evansville or Huntingburg, South Bend or Gary, Marion or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, Michigan, or Illinois.

There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of family options from which you can choose, all of whom are wonderful, carefully screened, loving families, FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices about which family adopts your baby and the extent of contacts you want after the child’s birth.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime – call/text: 800-333-5736, contact us, or Facebook message. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

CAN I SPEND TIME WITH THE BABY IN THE HOSPITAL/DO I HAVE TO SEE THE BABY AT THE HOSPITAL IF I GIVE THE BABY UP FOR ADOPTION?

A birth mother has the sole right to decide how much, if any, time she spends with her baby in the hospital if she gives the baby up for adoption or, more correctly, makes an adoption plan for the baby. Neither under Indiana law nor the law of any other state can a woman sign a binding consent to adoption BEFORE she gives birth. Before signing a consent to adoption, the birth mother has total CONTROL, in the hospital, over how much time, if any, she chooses to spend with her baby. If an adoption agency or adoption attorney tells her otherwise, she needs to look for another adoption attorney or adoption agency to help her facilitate her adoption plan. We, at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”) respect a woman’s right to spend all of the time she wants with her baby in the hospital BOTH BEFORE AND AFTER she signs her consent to adoption. The adoptive parents represented by Kirsh & Kirsh understand that all women have different ways of saying goodbye to their babies. While nothing they do will make the goodbye EASY, they know that making her feel guilty about wanting to spend time with her baby or rushing a birth mother will make the process MORE DIFFICULT.

If you would like to explore adoption, we at Kirsh & Kirsh — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – Steve and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant, have 90 years of combined legal experience arranging adoptions and pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment.

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide the information you seek without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us again. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Mooresville or Indianapolis, Scottsburg or Clarksville, Evansville or Huntingburg, South Bend or Elkhart, Warsaw or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, Michigan, or Illinois.

There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of family options from which you can choose, all of whom are wonderful, carefully screened, loving families FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices about which family adopts your baby and the extent of contact you want after the child’s birth.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime – call/text: 800-333-5736, contact us, or Facebook message. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

IF I PUT UP MY BABY FOR ADOPTION, WHY DO I HAVE TO FILL OUT A BACKGROUND FORM?

Completing a background form serves three purposes. It helps the adoption attorney, national adoption agency, or local adoption agency find the best possible family for your baby if you decide to give up your baby for adoption or, more correctly, make an adoption plan for the baby. As an example, if a particular illness runs in your family, the adoption agency or adoption attorney would try to find a family who has the resources to provide for the child if the child develops that condition. Also, if you work with an experienced adoption law firm like Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”), you will see that their background form not only includes extensive medical history questions but also personal information about the birth parents. We at Kirsh & Kirsh believe that your child will be curious about the personal information about you well before the child cares about your medical history. Lastly, and perhaps most importantly, every birth parent, on some level, wonders what the child will think of them for having placed the child for adoption. A parent who fully and carefully completes a detailed background form will show the child by taking the time to complete the form, the birth parent loved the child and only wanted what was best for the child.

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide the information you seek without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Kokomo or Indianapolis, Columbus or Martinsville, Newburgh or Vincennes, South Bend or Gary, Warsaw or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, Michigan, or Illinois.

THE BABY DADDY BLOCKED ME. CAN I GIVE MY BABY UP FOR ADOPTION?

If you contact Indiana-based Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”) to find an adoptive home for your baby, even if you live in Mississippi, Tennessee, Kentucky, Michigan, Illinois, or any other state, we can rely on Indiana’s very favorable adoption laws. Among other things, Indiana law does NOT require a birth mother to identify the father of the child. However, if she identifies the baby daddy and provides an address at which he can be found, we can notify him of the adoption and potentially stop his challenge of the adoption before she gives birth. If the birth mother got pregnant in a state with a putative father registry, we at Kirsh & Kirsh can rely on that state’s putative father registry in an Indiana adoption proceeding. In short, if the father does want contact from you, you can still give up your baby for adoption or, more correctly, make an adoption plan for your baby, if you work with knowledgeable, experienced adoption professionals like Kirsh & Kirsh.

If you would like to explore adoption, we at Kirsh & Kirsh — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant, have over 90 years of combined legal experience and pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment.

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us again. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Kokomo or Indianapolis, Columbus or North Vernon, Jeffersonville or Bedford, South Bend or Rensselaer, South Bend or Gary, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, Michigan, Illinois, or Indiana.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime – – call/text: 800-333-5736, c ontact us, or Facebook message. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

WHAT DOES OPEN ADOPTION LOOK LIKE?

“Open adoption” does not have a set, universally understood definition. It is best to think of openness in in an adoption as a spectrum – at one end of the spectrum, adoptions are completely closed or confidential, meaning the exchange of no information. Neither the adoptive parents nor birth parents know ANYTHING AT ALL about the other. At the other end of the spectrum is a completely open arrangement in which the parties plan to raise the adoptee together, also called “Cooperative Parenting,” and know EVERYTHING about each other. In our vast experience of having arranged adoptions for nearly 40 years, we at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”) have not seen ANY adoptions at either end of the spectrum. All adoptions which we have facilitated fall somewhere between the ends of the spectrum. Because we do NOT follow the “one size fits all” approach, we tailor each adoption to the desires and needs of the parties involved in that adoption. However, almost all the adoptions which we facilitate include the exchange of information sufficient to enable the birth mother and birth father, if he is involved, to know that she or they have selected the BEST POSSIBLE family to raise their baby and for the adoptive parents not only to have medical information which will help them care for the child but whatever other background information the birth parents want to share to satisfy the child’s curiosity about his or her roots when as the child gets older and hears their adoption story.

If you would like to explore adoption, we at Kirsh & Kirsh — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant, pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment.

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Danville or Indianapolis, Columbus or Bloomington, Evansville or Scottsburg, South Bend or LaPorte, Goshen or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, Michigan, or Illinois.

You can call, text, and or email us anytime – call/text: 800-333-5736, contact us, or Facebook message. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

IF I DON’T LIVE IN INDIANA AND WORK WITH ADOPTION ATTORNEYS KIRSH & KIRSH, P.C. (“KIRSH & KIRSH”), WHERE WILL THE ADOPTIVE PARENTS LIVE?

In most cases, we, at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, file all adoptions in Indiana because Indiana has very favorable adoption laws. To file an adoption in Indiana, we need an Indiana connection to the adoption – the adoptive parents or birth mother need to live in Indiana. Among other benefits to birth mothers, Indiana adoption law allows a birth mother to sign her consent to adoption any time after the birth of the child, does NOT require the birth parents to physically go to court to give their consents to the adoption, and a birth mother does NOT have to identify the father of the child. Therefore, if an expectant mother from outside of Indiana, who wants to look into putting her baby up for adoption, or, more correctly making an adoption plan for her unborn baby, contacts us, we will try to match her with one of our waiting, prospective adoptive parent families from Indiana.

If you would like to learn more about adoption, we, at Kirsh & Kirsh — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant, pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment.

Our co ntact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide the information you seek without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Richmond or Indianapolis, North Vernon or Bloomington, Evansville or Newburgh, South Bend or Munster, Decatur or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, or Michigan.

I AM SCARED TO LOOK INTO ADOPTION. I DON’T WANT MY CHILD TO HATE ME IF I PUT THE CHILD UP FOR ADOPTION.

It is safe to say that no parent wants their child to hate them. Unfortunately, as any parent of a teenager will tell you, some children (particularly during their teenaged years) hate their parents for all kinds of reasons, real and imagined. No matter what decision a parent makes when it comes to parenting their child, there is no guarantee that the child will not disagree with the parent’s action. Parents should not make decisions for their children based upon a hope that their children will like or approve of the decisions. Parents need to make decisions based upon what the parent believes serves the child’s best interests. If a woman with an untimely pregnancy or unplanned pregnancy believes that giving her baby up for adoption or, more correctly, making an adoption plan for the child gives the child the best opportunity to live a productive life and reach his or her full potential, then the birth parent needs to take that action regardless of the child’s feelings about the decision. By the way, many adopted children love their birth parents for having put the child’s need above the birth parents’ own breaking hearts.

As adoption attorneys, Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”), have seen over nearly the last 40 years the love for their children birth mother have demonstrated in assuring their children a bright future by selecting adoptive parents who cannot wait to welcome a child into their homes and hearts and will devote every moment of their lives to the success and happiness of their child. There is nothing more “motherly” than placing a child’s needs above those of the parent.

Giving up a child for adoption is scary. There is nothing easy about it, but working with a local adoption agency, national adoption agency, or a reputable, compassionate, experienced adoption law firm, like Kirsh & Kirsh, with over 90 years of combined legal experience working with birth mothers and expectant mothers, can make it easier. We, at Kirsh & Kirsh, will not pressure you, make you feel badly about whatever choice you make, or try to involve ourselves in your personal affairs.

If you would like to explore adoption, we, at Kirsh & Kirsh — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant, pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment.

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide you the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Greencastle or Indianapolis, Columbus or Martinsville, Evansville or Clarksville, South Bend or Lafayette, Goshen or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, or Michigan.

There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of family options from which you can choose, all of whom are wonderful, carefully screened, loving families FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices about which family adopts your baby & extent of contact you want after the child’s birth.

Author: Cairs Admin